Have you ever noticed that when an uncomfortable feeling arises, all you want to do is stop it, change it, ignore it or hope it passes quickly? My clients often come for a session with the desire for some sort of “feel better quick fix.” When I invite them to just be with the discomfort rather than trying to analyze it, stop it or change it, it’s as though I asked them to drop and give me fifty push-ups. Believe me, I understand! Feeling our feelings is not always enjoyable, yet it is important because it is in feeling the discomfort that we learn and heal. Suppressing our feelings keeps them bottled up and over-analyzing them keeps us in our head. Constantly trying to change how we are feeling robs us of the opportunity to be present. So my message to you this week is to be where you are. Whatever it is that you are feeling, it’s okay to feel it. Allow it, sit with it, accept it, and simply observe. Resist the urge to change it, stop it, analyze it or fix it. Be where you are. Be with yourself where you are. Not for forever, but for right now give yourself permission to LET IT BE.

LISTEN: Let it Be

JOURNAL: Carve aside sometime to just “let it be.” Feel whatever it is you have been attempting to avoid or fix and journal about what you are experiencing. Notice every nuance. No analyzing or explanation, just journal about what is present. Trust there is great clarity and healing that comes from going through something rather than around it or avoiding it all together.

Fondly,

“If you like it, let it be, and if you don’t please do the same.”- Ani Difranco.

Theme Song Suggestions
Thanks to everyone that shared their theme song last week. As promised, here are the suggestions that were sent in:

“What Light” by Wilco.It’s all about the bringing out the bright light inside of you through any means you desire. Using your own self/creativity within to shine.”

Fly One Time” by Ben Harper and the Relentless 7. I really need a change in my life and I am SO ready to “fly one time.”

“Watch Me Shine” by Joanna Pacitti”Save the Last Dance” by Julia Stiles”Eye of the Tiger.” As cheesy as it sounds, when going through cancer treatment in my late 20’s, it became my theme song. I’d dance around my apartment to it and grit my teeth in the mirror. I can be very melodramatic and choreographing my little Survivor video was great therapy!

“The Climb” by Miley Cyrus. It reminds me to not be so concerned with where I’m going but to focus on where I’m at.

“Walkin’ On Sunshine” by Dolly Parton”One Step at a Time” by Jordan Sparks I was recently diagnosed with MS and this song helps me to remember there “is no need to rush” and ENJOY my life while making daily healthy choices that will help me life the way I want to.

“Soulshine” as sung by Warren Haynes (Bonnaroo ’03/Farmaid ’07 editions)My current call of the wild; it reminds me to let it all shine through.

“Play It As It Lays” by Pattie Scialfa’s I’ve been going through many changes the past year and this song reminds me to go work things out as they come.

“Get On Your Feet” by Gloria Estefan an uplifting song to keep yourself going.

“Successful” by Drake It’s a mellow hiphop song about achieving your goals. That’s where I’m at right now. The chorus is “I want to be successful” is my present mantra.

“I need to wake up” by Melissa Ethridge

“Learning to Fly” by Tom Petty. I love the lyrics,

“I’m learning to fly but ain’t got wings. Coming down is the hardest thing”. It reminds me that in life, you must take a leap of faith and not be ruled by fear.

“Here Comes The Sun” by The Beatles

“Joy To The World” by Three Dog Night

“Bette Davis Eyes” by Kim CarnesTo me this song is about being an empowered, gutsy woman