Question: I feel like I have failed a lot when it comes to relationships because so far they have all ended, how do I have the faith that I am even capable of having a long-term relationship?

This question really illuminates one of the major misunderstandings about relationships, which is that the success of a relationship is measured on its longevity. A lot of us buy into the belief that if a relationship ends and/or we weren’t happy in it, then it was a failure. LIE! Here is the truth: ALL relationships are containers for growth and learning.  There is nothing that teaches us more about ourselves than relationships do.  The true success of any relationship is about what you learned and are learning from it rather than what the ultimate outcome was or is.  So the way we createhappier and loving relationships as we move forward is to be willing to look at what we have learned along the way.  It is about having the courage tolook back at past relationships and investigate what they were teaching us about ourselves. And it’s about being willing to make different choices based on what we are learning. The failure is not in a relationship ending – it’s in overstaying or in not finding the gratitude for what it gave you. While it’s not always easy to find the gratitude, it’s always possible and it’s one of the most self-loving acts you can take for yourself. So instead of investing your faith in whether or not you are going to have a “forever” relationship, invest your faith in your ability to learn the lessons of love that every relationship has been 100% successful in delivering!

In our 40-day course, Choosing Me Before We, we are going to teach you how to extract the lessons from all your relationships and heal your heart so that you can have both the faith and the tools to co-create more of the relationships you desire and less of the ones you don’t.  So instead of investing your faith in whether or not you are going to have a “forever” relationship, invest your faith in your ability to learn the lessons of love that every relationship has been 100% successful in delivering.