“ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!” is the answer to that question.

I unequivocally assure you that there is nothing wrong with you.

Even if you feel stuck. Even if you cannot figure out what you want to do with your life or hate your job. Even if you snapped at your spouse or child this morning. Even if you are ten pounds heavier than you want. Even if you are single and long for a partner. Even if you had a terrible childhood. Even if you have debt. Even if you have been labeled with a diagnosis.

There is not a single reason in the entire Universe that anything could possibly be wrong with you so please STOP LOOKING FOR ONE!

I received the call to remind you of this from Robert Holden who was the graduation commencement speaker for the University of Santa Monica (where I got my MA in Spiritual Psychology in 2008 and currently serve as faculty). His message to the audience was to change our minds about ourselves rather than continuing to attempt to change ourselves.

Robert is a Ph.D, best selling Hay House author, and the Director of The Happiness Project and Success Intelligence. He’s super famous in the personal development world AND truly walks the talk.

Robert shared that in his work as a psychologist he only felt slightly effective when he was seeking a diagnosis for people he was treating. His practice and purpose shifted when he stopped looking for “problems” and started seeing people, and helping them see themselves, for who they truly are: whole and unbroken.

He honored their stories and offered tools for relating to them because we all have life experiences we go through. However, he did not make their stories mean anything about them or taint the essence of who they were. Robert called us all forward to remember who we are so that we can remind others.

We do this by forgiving ourselves for any judgments that perpetuate the misunderstanding that we are flawed in some way. We must stop looking at ourselves as improvement projects – consistently looking for the next quick-fix or upgrade.
In his humorous and compassionate way, Robert shared we have two selves: Our true self, the original blessing we were connected to when we were born, and the ego, or conditioned self, which was constructed by our story. Read more about that here.

When we forget who we are we experience the myth of inadequacy and the plague of not-enoughness. Your true self is waiting on your recognition and acceptance. Do not deny it any longer.

I invite you to ask yourself the questions Robert asked us: “What is it like to be you when you are not judging yourself? When you are not criticizing yourself? When you are not trying to make yourself into anything?”

Please share your comments and insights on the blog. I want to hear you proclaim that there is nothing wrong with you!!

And if you want a little more of Robert, which I HIGHLY recommend as a fan of his work and especially after meeting him in person, he is doing a five day program in San Diego, in October called Coaching Success. This program is all about the heart and soul of authentic success. He shares about his work, which includes being personal coach to the last two Presidents of Dove and The Real Beauty Campaign. If I wasn’t going to be on a book tour, I’d be attending – seriously, his work is life-changing.

Much love and remember. . .

You are absolutely precious and beautiful – THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!

Blessings,

Christine