For many years I bought into the misunderstanding that being hard on myself was an effective way to motivate myself. I measured myself up against others and used comparison as fuel to make myself do more.

This was absolutely effective on the external level. I got things done. I was successful. People would say I was “driven” and “ambitious.” Yet on the inside, I did not feel successful or fulfilled. I had to keep raising the bar because enough was never enough.

Can you relate at all? Are you hard on yourself? Do you put pressure on yourself to do more, do everything perfectly, or do it as good as other people? Do you ever hear a voice in your head that says pushy, judgmental things like . . .

“You’re not enough” or “Do more, work harder” or “Don’t bother trying, you’ll just fail” or “You have to do it all on your own,” or even things like “You can’t say No,” or “It’s never going to happen for you!”

What you might not know is that this is the voice of your INNER Mean Girl (or Inner Mean Dude for the guys) – it’s the inner force that loves to sabotage you and fill your head with all kinds of self-defeating, self-destructive thoughts.

This voice can sabotage your well-being if you do not learn how to change the conversation. Your relationship with yourself is THE thing that impacts every aspect of your life more than anything else @christinhassler (Tweet this!) The quality of your relationship with yourself determines the quality of your relationship with success, other people, money, spirituality, health and everything else!

I want to share with you some shocking facts my friends Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers uncovered after working with over 30,000 people around the world including:

1. We all have these self-sabotaging inner forces – no matter how successful we become.

2. You can’t kill off this part of you, but you can give it a new job.

3. Women specifically can have up to 13 different archetypes of Inner Mean Girls – you can take a free quiz to find out your type!

In their brand new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself & Start Loving Yourself, they share their powerful, proven step-by-step process for transforming your Inner Mean Girl in one of the most profound ways I’ve ever seen.

Their tools for dealing with this negative self-sabotaging force we all battle with are so fresh, different, and frankly fun, that this is a resource we all need.

The very first step is to expose your specific Inner Mean Girl Archetype (do you have an Achievement Junkie, a Worrywart, a Good Girl or a…) by taking the free Inner Mean Girl quiz. Go here to uncover what kind of inner critic you have, based the 13 Inner Mean Girl Archetypes!

When you take the quiz, you’ll receive a full Inner Mean Girl Archetype report that reveals your scoring for ALL thirteen types of inner critics and a special Instant Deactivator super power tool so you can start shifting those negative thoughts and self sabotaging patterns now.

My inner mean girl was a hybrid of Achievement Junkie and Comparison Queen. I am so relieved that over the years I have reformed her so that I can live my life authentically inspired by purpose. Nurturing a healthy relationship with myself has been the single most important self-development work I have done. Period.

I encourage you to take an empowering step toward a more loving relationship with the precious, beautiful, absolutely perfect YOU. GO HERE to begin the Inner Mean Girl quiz and head on over to my blog and leave your results in the comment section. There is zero shame in sharing your results. We all have an inner mean girl or bully inside until we reform them so the more we can bring it into the light, the better!

Love,

Christine
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