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WITH CHRISTINE HASSLER

EP 14: How to Get Over a Choice You Regret

Episode 14 How To Get Over a Choice You Regret (2)Seasons change and so do we. We all have expectations about how our lives should be, what our family should think about us and how we will feel after we make a big change.

When we cannot come to terms with the decisions we’ve made, we experience request and consequently an Expectation Hangover. But regret is useless and we often beat ourselves up over nothing. We cannot move forward living in regret.

Instead of suffering with regret, what if we found peace and experienced connection as we reprogrammed our unconscious mind to fully accept the decisions we have made? What if instead of dwelling on the past, we fully opened to all the gifts in the present?

In today’s call, Jenny is uncertain about her decision to move in order to be closer to her family. She is having difficulty creating her new life because she is stuck in her old one. She is even physically sick from the stress. She thinks geography may be a factor, but we discover she may need to stop pushing against the change and allow things happen.

Taking a step back and looking at the impression her indecisiveness is leaving on her children may be the key that helps Jenny to accept the decisions she has made and to move forward towards creating the story she wants to tell.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there a recent decision you made you now regret?
  • Are you in a situation and you think changing things is the answer to your problems?
  • Are you feeling physically drained and apathetic?
  • Are you an adventure junkie?
  • Are you a parent and feel it’s important to make your child feel safe and secure?

Jenny’s Question:

Jenny is making herself physically sick and tired because she regrets moving a long distance to be closer to family and would like to know how to get over it and on with it.

Jenny’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She is living half in Wyoming and half in Wisconsin
  • Her fatigue is a message from her body
  • Self-judgment is sucking her dry
  • She’s stuttering on decisions

How to get over it and on with it:

  • Fully accept the reason why you made previous decisions
  • Be fully present wherever you are
  • Begin a spiritual practice, yoga and/or meditation
  • Create the feeling you are missing
  • Learn to live more inside out and less outside in
  • Embody safety and acceptance
  • Create a community where you are

Tools and Takeaways:

  • Write out a list feelings you want to feel and generate them, reorient yourself from inside out
  • Write out these 3 things
  • Write the reasons why it was the best decision you could have made given the information you had
  • Write out the reasons you feel safe and secure
  • Write out the reasons why you can trust yourself
  • Collect evidence about the story you want to tell
  • Inspect your health problem to see if it could be a lack of self-love, also check out “Choosing me before we” for in-depth analysis
  • Examine what you are teaching your children, they feel your energy

Resources:

Christine Hassler
Expectation Hangover
@christinhassler
Coaching Corner – Getting Over Regret
Choosing ME Before WE – Christine Hassler

Tweetables:

Fully accepting the decisions you make helps to make regret disappear.”
Children are sponges who suck up everything the see and feel. Be sure not to teach them fear and apathy.”
Collecting evidence about the story you want to tell eliminates regret over past decisions.

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