The key to healing is how we relate to the issue. We can choose to be a victim and allow shame and judgment to rule our lives or we can choose to hang on to our issue because it makes us feel special or gets us attention. We can also choose to believe our problem is insurmountable and even though we feel we have tried everything to get over it, we think we never can.
Today’s caller, Jeanette, is feeling she is not enough and she struggles with an eating disorder she adopted in her early teens. She craves acceptance from her family because she has a low acceptance of herself.
If there is something you are doing to get love and acceptance or helps you to fit into your family, you WILL have a hard time letting it go. You may have a fear of being authentically you because you worry other people will judge or make fun of you.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us. If we continue to show up as a victim or play into the pattern, people will continue to see and treat us accordingly. If someone isn’t in a loving, open-minded relationship with themselves, they will not be loving and open-minded with you. Not everyone is on the personal growth journey that you are on. Give the people you love the dignity of their own process.
If you want or need to hear something, look into your own eyes and say it to yourself. Be you, step out of your box and don’t take things personally.
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- Is there something you have been carrying around for years you just can’t seem to heal?
- Do you keep trying to change and to heal yourself but nothing ever shifts?
- Do you feel like your family or friends look at you through the eyes of your issue?
- Is an eating disorder or a body image issue something you struggle with?
Jeanette wants to know how to overcome her feelings of not being enough and an eating disorder she has had since she was 14.
Jeanette’s Key Insights and Aha’s:
- She feels stuck where she is
- She is contributing to the way others see and perceive her
- She wants to be seen, loved and accepted
- She feels she will be put down if she shares her true feelings
- She is on a journey of awakening
- She needs to free herself from her emotional weight
How to get over it and on with it:
- She should move fully into acceptance
- She should find her voice and speak her truth
- She should say, “I accept myself and I love myself unconditionally”, every day
- She should write a letter to her mom and her sister, she will never send
Assignments and Takeaways:
- Look into your own eyes and say the things to yourself you long to hear from others.
- Write a letter (you will not send) to get your feelings out and to arrive at the completion of the issue and the pattern. Use these sentence stems:
- I’m mad because
- I’m sad because
- I wish
- I learned
- I forgive you for
- I forgive myself for
- Thank you for
- Why I am letting this go
- Be mindful of using the word ‘trying’.
- Make a voice memo of what you want to embody and listen to it every day.
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