The key to overcoming anything

We all have issues or expectation hangovers in our lives we need to overcome and heal.

But how do we do it?

Well, the key to healing is how we relate to the issue . . .

We can choose to be a victim and wallow in pity. Or we can allow shame and judgment to rule our lives and block us from truly bringing what we judge as dark into the light so we can heal it. Or we can choose to hang on to our issue because it makes us feel special or gets us attention (that’s a sneaky tactic so be honest with yourself about that one!). Or perhaps we believe our problem is insurmountable and even though we feel we have tried everything to get over it, we don’t think we ever can.

Or we can move into 100% acceptance of whatever it is we are facing and take responsibility for our own healing, growth, and change.

Last week on the podcast I coached Jeanette who is feeling not enough and struggles with an eating disorder she adopted in her early teens. We talk about the payoff she is getting from continuing to have this struggle, which is preventing her freedom from it.

Listen in here.

Another expectation hangover that many of us face is loss. Whether it’s a break-up, loss of a job or dream, or the death of a loved one. Grief is one of the toughest things we go through as human beings.

But we must go through it. Attempting to pep talk our way out of it or “be strong” is just pushing the natural feelings we have when we experience loss under the rug.  And that is detrimental to our emotional and physical health.

In another episode of the podcast, Brittaney calls me hoping that I can help her get motivated again after going through the recent death of her grandmother and a breakup just three months ago. As much as a pep talk would have sounded great and temporarily distracted her, I know that attempting to cure what is a natural human experience is not loving.

If you are going through any type of loss, it is important to cry all of your tears. (Tweet This!!)

In our session, we discover Brittaney was not really allowing herself to grieve. Hear the beautiful healing that begins to happen as she gives herself permission to feel.

Listen in here.

Sending you lots of love and blessings from Bali!


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  • ArtN

    This is a new experience for me, the whole grieving thing. Nearly three decades with someone and then it imploded quickly for reasons that I only now understand were completely out of my control. Grieving really hurts and is taking its sweet time. The acute pain has stopped, but now I’m grinding away at a level of about 6 out of 10. It seems to lose its intensity quick, but at these lower levels, it can sneak up on you and if you’re not careful, you can slide backwards. My general happiness level is fairly high and robust, but sheesh…. people don’t talk about how long you can linger at these lower levels. Is this storm ever going to pass completely?? I was reminded today by a friend whom I was helping through a difficult time. He remarked at how stable I was (we share a similar journey). Am I suppressing something and just don’t know it or is this just the process? I feel like an iPhone with charged batteries but no wi-fi.

    • Christine Hassler

      ArtN- First, you have my full compassion for where you are in the
      grieving process and YES it will pass. I think this article might
      support you:

      Also, I encourage you to fully feel your feelings and bring so much
      love and compassion to yourself and for where you currently are. I
      encourage you to release any judgment around where you think you
      “should” be in the process.

  • Teisha

    Hi Christine. It seems that a lot of emphasis is placed on crying.I never cry. Even doing the emotional release work in your course, I got sad, but I was no where near tears and I was working through deep stuff. Do you think this may mean I have not fully released the emotions?

    • Christine Hassler

      HI Teisha, crying is not necessarily the best or only way. The key is whether YOU feel relief and free of heavy emotions. You know if you are more tapped into your intuition, creativity and feel a sense of fulfillment and connection.