We all have issues or expectation hangovers in our lives we need to overcome and heal.
But how do we do it?
Well, the key to healing is how we relate to the issue . . .
We can choose to be a victim and wallow in pity. Or we can allow shame and judgment to rule our lives and block us from truly bringing what we judge as dark into the light so we can heal it. Or we can choose to hang on to our issue because it makes us feel special or gets us attention (that’s a sneaky tactic so be honest with yourself about that one!). Or perhaps we believe our problem is insurmountable and even though we feel we have tried everything to get over it, we don’t think we ever can.
Or we can move into 100% acceptance of whatever it is we are facing and take responsibility for our own healing, growth, and change.
Last week on the podcast I coached Jeanette who is feeling not enough and struggles with an eating disorder she adopted in her early teens. We talk about the payoff she is getting from continuing to have this struggle, which is preventing her freedom from it.
Another expectation hangover that many of us face is loss. Whether it’s a break-up, loss of a job or dream, or the death of a loved one. Grief is one of the toughest things we go through as human beings.
But we must go through it. Attempting to pep talk our way out of it or “be strong” is just pushing the natural feelings we have when we experience loss under the rug. And that is detrimental to our emotional and physical health.
In another episode of the podcast, Brittaney calls me hoping that I can help her get motivated again after going through the recent death of her grandmother and a breakup just three months ago. As much as a pep talk would have sounded great and temporarily distracted her, I know that attempting to cure what is a natural human experience is not loving.
In our session, we discover Brittaney was not really allowing herself to grieve. Hear the beautiful healing that begins to happen as she gives herself permission to feel.
Sending you lots of love and blessings from Bali!
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