There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it’s hard or takes work is quitting – and quitting will never get you where you want to go. Opting out of something such as a relationship or a job because it doesn’t align with your core values and after you have given it your all is a self-honoring choice.
So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date?
That is exactly the question I answer in this week’s episode of Over It and On With It where I coach Anna who wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is the “right” thing to do.
I believe any relationship takes work and can be transformed, especially if two people are both committed to transforming it. However sometimes it doesn’t serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. You’ll hear that I began this coaching session exploring the possibility of Anna staying in the marriage. But I then needed to shift gears to coach Anna on leaving the relationship with love and integrity.
Definitely don’t miss this episode especially if:
- You are considering leaving a relationship, job, city or any situation that will be a big change
- You are paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice
- You left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it (I explain why guilt is totally useless and not even a real emotion in the podcast)
- You tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different?
This is a SUPER important thing to remember: Do not stay in unhealthy relationships or a miserable job out of pride or fear! @christinhassler (Tweet this!)
If you know a situation or relationship has reached its expiration date, please do not allow what other people may think of you keep you there. You are the one who has to live with your choices. Be HONEST WITH YOURSELF. Choose passion over pride.
And if you too scared to leave and are sucking it up in a miserable situation, choose courage over comfort. Regret is far worse than risk.
If you need support with making a self-honoring choice to leave a situation, head on over to the podcast blog and comment. I’m here to cheer you on!
p.s. This month in Inner Circle we are working with the quality of TRUST so that you feel more empowered to make self honoring choices. Joining Inner Circle is a great start to making self-honoring choices!!! Your membership gives you access to receive regular coaching from me, learn incredible new personal growth tools and lifestyle tips, receive a custom mediation each month, and be a part of an awesome community of like-minded peeps!! Go here to learn more.