Would you like to feel lighter? (both physically and emotionally)

Feeling weighed down by anything is uncomfortable. If you are burdened by an expectation hangover, a problem you cannot seem to solve, an emotion you got to the other side of, or actual physical weight, I want you to know you can feel lighter.

We have all had times in our life when we felt like the weight of the world was on our shoulders. And during these times when we really need even more self-compassion, we end up being even more self critical.

We think we should be farther along. We think we should be able to get out of a funk. We think we should be able to lose the weight. 

If you can relate to this, you are not going to want to miss my recent podcast where I coach Lindsay.  She has been successful in shifting many parts of her life but is still struggling with depression and weight issues.  Lindsay longs to feel LIGHTER and truly enjoy her life. In our coaching session, we uncover what is truly weighing her down and I give her steps to lighten up.

Go here to listen to episode 112 

If you are wondering why is it so hard to implement personal growth efforts, it’s because neural pathways are created over time, especially when you have been doing things the same way for years. Simply being aware of something doesn’t create change. Growth is a process, not an event.

And growth is part of being human. There is always more growing to do and with the right tools the easier it becomes. We have to stop approaching growth as a fix-it, self-improvement, ‘something is wrong with me’ project. It’s important to celebrate how much growth you have experienced and how far you’ve come towards personal mastery.

Most of what is weighing you down is your own self-judgment. If you want to feel lighter, then it’s time to lighten up!! (tweet this) You are human. You are not God so you do not need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders.

What is weighing you down? Please share with me so I can support you in lightening up.

Love,

Christine

p.s. I recently did two video interviews with top mindset and health expert Drew Canole.  Last week there were some issues with the link so here are the video titles and links again:

Why you’re not losing weight even though you’re doing everything “right”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuBSgm9oCUQ

Why willpower isn’t enough when it comes to emotional eating

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYxskstL75U

  • Lori

    I am facing a life decision between careers. I want, or think I want, to early retire from one to pursue the other. Doing so will mean the loss of a nice paycheck and healthcare for a flexible, more freelance career without healthcare and that nice safety net of a reliable paycheck. I’m capable of going through the motions and continuing this reliable career path, but my heart just isn’t there. I want to work from home and be around for my youngest child–to drive him to school and pick him up from practice. Yet, there’s retirement and the what-ifs that walking away from the career will make more elusive. My friends tell me to follow my heart, my family worries this is not the best, smartest way to go. How do I decide?

    • http://www.christinehassler.com/ Christine Hassler

      I have a worksheet that can support you in this choice. Please email jill@christinehassler.com and she can share it with you.

  • Cindy

    I’m not sure how appropriate my comment is for this post. I am dealing with getting on the other side of a separation. I want to feel lighter as a very new (2 weeks) single mom to 4. Also, my teenage son who lived with his dad for 6 months and was traumatized from neglect, is back home with me. I believe he’s dealing with some level of ptsd (aside from a very difficult upbringing). I am doing everything I can to support myself and him in the best way I can, while tending to the younger ones. Any advice would help. Thank you.

    • http://www.christinehassler.com/ Christine Hassler

      Cindy, first you have my compassion as you move through this transition. Also, I encourage you to look for professional support from a therapist or coach for yourself and your family. You can email jill@christinehassler.com and she can suggest a coach/therapist who I think can help you.

  • Ken Clive

    I am carrying a huge weight around whenever I am in social situations and other women are present (I am straight). I always feel like, every word and action of mine is under scrutiny by people in the room, and being a guy who wants to ask women out on dates and gain valuable experience before I settle down with a life partner, I feel that my attraction and wanting toward women is not welcome, especially in this day and age when women seem to vilify men for their authentic masculine nature.

    Part of this weight could be my upbringing – my family (I’m from India) frowns upon Western dating and only allows arranged marriage, and even supports the practice of dowry. Being in the US, this is a clash of values that I get caught between every time I encounter women who give me clear approach cues (e.g., prolonged eye contact). How do you see this, Christine, being a woman yourself? Do you think men are ‘bad’ or ‘unwelcome’ for wanting to pursue women in a benign way like I want to? I just want to go on a few dates with different kinds of women, build up my social confidence, and hopefully forge a relationship with someone. Thank you for all you do, keep it up!