This episode is about finding the true sweetness in life. Today’s caller, Marina, feels like she is stuck, especially when it comes to resisting sugar and taking care of her body. As you will hear in the call, It’s not actually sugar she is craving.

We don’t overcome our eating patterns with discipline alone. There is no one diet or one book that fixes it. Usually, there is a deeper issue at play that goes back to our childhood.

When it comes to dealing with any kind of food addiction or self-sabotaging behavior when it comes to food or exercise it is important we get to the root of the issue and get support to start building new healthy habits.

Most people try to change themselves because they want to get away from something. It may get them to a certain point but it is depleting because it employs criticism and restriction. This ‘moving away from’ motivation triggers your inner rebel which is why it usually doesn’t work.

Having ‘toward’ motivation is becoming a disciple and having a loving following of the thing you are moving toward, like your health and well being.

I find, people who crave sugar didn’t have a lot of sweetness or nurturing growing up. They internalize an overly critical or controlling parent or they use self-criticism as a motivator. Sweetness and nurturing is something we humans need. If you weren’t soothed as a child food can become a soothing strategy. Give yourself the sweetness and nurturing you may not have gotten growing up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel stuck or like you are sabotaging yourself in some area of your life?
• Do you have a sugar or food addiction?
• Are you hard on yourself especially when judging yourself as lazy or lacking self-discipline?
• Did you grow up with a lot of sweetness and nurturing in your life?

Marina’s Question:

Marina feels limited in her ability to be happy and that she lacks discipline.

Marina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She has created self-supportive habits for herself.
• She breaks agreements with herself when it comes to food and exercise.
• She has an emotional craving for sweetness.
• She grew up with fear and criticism as motivators.
• She is a rebelling against herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• She should speak kindly to herself when feels stressed.
• She should soothe herself with something else.
• She should do grief work around what she wanted from her parents and be a loving parent to herself.
• She should find a way to do things without them feeling oppressive.
• She should research her blood sugar levels.

Takeaways:

• Don’t try to beat your sugar addiction with willpower alone.
• If you feel stuck in any aspect of your life become a disciple and find your ‘toward motivation’ to get what you want.
• Find ways to be sweet to yourself and self-soothe.
• Write an ‘I wish’ letter to your parents and then use it to give yourself the gift of inner sweetness.

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