EP 123: Being Strong is Overrated with Kelsey

EP123v2This episode is about surrender. Kelsey feels blocked financially and is looking for advice on how to get unstuck when it comes to her dead-end job and finances. We don’t actually end up talking about either of those things. We delve into her underlying patterns caused by her not feeling safe.

All of us experience not feeling safe in some way and we make ourselves feel safe in different ways. We may outsource it through relationships with other people, maybe we overwork ourselves to make a lot of money or we attempt to be in control of everything in our lives.

Resilience is important but make sure you don’t do it by means of suppression. We must be willing to feel, acknowledge, and heal old wounds. Being a victim or feeling sorry for ourselves is not what emotional processing is about. We can truly heal and liberate ourselves from anything but we must be willing to deal with what ‘is’ our life.

To create change in your life you must create a feeling of internal safety.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you struggling with finances or a job you hate?
  • Do you relate to being strong and believe you have to be strong? Do you relish the fact that others acknowledge you for being strong?
  • What does vulnerability mean to you? Is it a weakness?
  • Are you an overachiever, control freak or type ‘A’ personality? Do you feel safer when you are in control?
  • How are you at surrendering? How are you just letting go and trusting that things will just work out?

Kelsey’s Question:

Kelsey feels blocked financially and would like to know how she can build wealth again.

Kelsey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is afraid to slow her life down.
  • She has created compensatory strategies to make herself feel safe.
  • She beats herself up over her choices.
  • She does personal growth work.
  • She feels like she’s a burden to others.
  • She is neglecting her emotional needs.
  • She doesn’t have to prove her worth to anyone.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should take a month to bathe herself in love, be kind to herself and create safety and security within herself.
  • She should break the pattern of panic and go into reassurance.
  • She should research inner child meditations.

Action Steps:

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Tweetables:

It’s hard to heal a wound that your repeating patterns keep re-opening.

Do you soothe your discomfort with resilience, planning, and action? What would the outcome be if you soothed yourself with love?

Where in your life can you let go, for 30 days, and allow the universe to surprise you?

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