We all go through times when we are addicted to something. Some obvious ones are drugs, alcohol, money, sex and food. But there are less obvious addictions that are important to be aware of like control, negative thinking, self-doubt, escaping through things like travel, and even over-achieving. Addictions of all kinds give us a false sense of freedom. For a moment, the high or distraction we get feels liberating because it frees us from feeling things we don’t want to feel. Addictions may offer the appearance of freedom, but only aligning our actions to what truly feeds our body, mind, heart and spirit offers true liberation.
Having the courage to face and take steps to break free from addiction and addictive behavior catapults our personal growth in tremendous ways. Some of the wisest teachers I know have overcome addiction and now use what they have learned to serve others.
One of these teaches is Tommy Rosen, my friend and someone who I deeply respect for sharing so vulnerably about his 20+ year story of recovery from drugs and alcohol. He is also someone who is shining light on the more subtle addictions I mentioned above.
Tommy invited me to be a speaker in his Recovery 2.0 conference and share my addiction and recovery story. In our interview, I speak openly about my journey through depression and healing my 20 year addiction to prescription medication. Please join me and 35 other addiction and recovery teachers for a life-changing online conference dedicated to giving people the best wisdom on addiction and recovery available for FREE:
Recovery 2.0: Beyond Addiction
Are you being a wee bit wimpy?
Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something?
Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you but you haven’t had the guts to ask them about it?
We’d rather suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw and vulnerable with another person. I too am guilty of wimping out in relationships and just mustered up the guts to rescue myself from playing it safe.
I want to offer you some immediate relief from yourself! What I mean by this is that most of us, yes even you, torture ourselves with our thoughts!
In my own life and in coaching others, I have observed that one of the biggest sources of suffering comes from what we choose to believe about our reality. You see there is what happens in life (which we cannot 100% control) and then there is what we choose to believe about it (which we can 100% control).
We give meaning to everything in our lives and often choose meanings that make us miserable!
We suffer because we hold for dear life to the belief that if our life were different in some way it would be so much better!
Last week I gave my creative muse a tremendous gift: I took myself away to a beautiful place with no email, phone or distraction. My next book is due in two months and I really thought I could just “schedule” it into my daily flow, but what I have found is that creativity needs space. Our creative projects, those things that are important to our soul, need quality time.
Many times inspiration can happen spontaneously and it just flows out of us. Creative downloads are awesome. But creativity does not always come on demand. Sometimes it needs to be nourished and nurtured so it is imperative we make the time for it.
Creativity is a spiritual practice. It is how the Uni-verse expresses through each of us individually. Yet we often put creativity on the back burner and do not give it the time and attention it deserves!
I’ve vloged / blogged about the four quadrants of time management where I have shared how many of us focus on the wrong quadrant by spending most of our time on things that are urgent but not nearly as important (you can read/watch here). Emails are not nurturing your creativity. Errands are not supporting your authentic self-expression.