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EP 141: Trust Yourself and Stop Going to Other People for Advice with Lorin

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This call is about is about how to use your anxiety as an alarm system.Today’s caller, Lorin, asks how she can start thriving instead of surviving at work but what we discover together is that her ability to thrive has more to do with her ability to trust and listen to herself.

If you suffer from any type of anxiety this call will be helpful because I teach Lorin not to minimize her feelings and to use them as her personal alarm system.

We all start out being internally referenced, being totally connected to our own intuition, and then something pulls us out. We become externally referenced and that becomes what we are fluent in, which is what other people think of us and our desire to please others. We need to relearn how to become fluent in being internally referenced and trusting ourselves.

People-pleasing is over-caring about what others think, lacking a sense of self and a lack of self-trust. Along with a loss of sense of self, comes anxiety and trouble with making decisions.

And, when you are in a relationship with God or Spirit, it’s more than just praying for things and being grateful. Having that relationship makes it easier to trust yourself. It’s easier to become internally referenced when you have the universe to turn to for the answers.

*Coaches — It is important to ask a lot of questions before you start offering any kind of guidance or solution, or to pull out any tool you have to work with the client on the problem they are presenting. Too many coaches put pressure on themselves to fix a problem before getting enough information.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you are merely surviving rather than thriving?
  • Can you relate to being a people-pleaser?
  • Is feeling anxious on a REGULAR basis something you struggle with?
  • Do often run to others for their advice because you have trouble making decisions on your own?

Lorin’s Question:

Lorin wants to know how she can start thriving, instead of surviving in her career.

Lorin’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has dealt with anxiety through much of her life.
  • She lost a sister early in her life.
  • She thinks she’s codependent.
  • She puts a lot of labels on herself.
  • She’s a people-pleaser.
  • Her anxiety is an internal alarm.
  • She gives her power away.
  • She’s been trying to get rid of her anxiety instead of using it.
  • She is missing a connection to spirit [God].

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to give herself permission to start looking for another job.
  • She needs to start working with her anxiety.
  • She needs to start taking action without asking other people first.
  • She needs to find her connection or reconnect with God.

Assignments For You:

  • If you experience anxiety use it as your alert system.
  • If you are externally referenced, use a meditation to pull your energy back inward.
  • If you are dealing with a job you don’t like, give yourself permission to look for something more aligned and do your best to get in acceptance of your current job.
  • If you are a people-pleaser, use your intuition toward yourself rather than others and be more selfish.
  • Flex your decision-making muscle. Make decisions 100% on your own and trust yourself.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

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“EP 138: Finding Yourself Again After Years of Being Lost with Stacy”

“EP 140: Overcoming the Fear of Loss with Tom”

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Coaches Corner: Overcoming Depression and Anxiety with “Unmedicated” Author and DailyOM Founder Madisyn Taylor

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This is an incredibly intimate conversation between Christine and Madisyn as they talk about anxiety, depression and overcoming a challenging past.  You will feel so much hope and reassurance from this episode!

MADISYN TAYLOR is the co-founder and editor-in-chief of the popular inspirational website and daily newsletter, DailyOM and is responsible for all of its content. A recognized leader in self-help and new thought spirituality, Taylor has more than 20 years of experience in personal development and alternative healing methodologies. She has contributed to national publications and is a popular guest on many radio shows. Hay House published her international bestselling books, DailyOM: Inspirational Thoughts For A Happy, Healthy & Fulfilling Day, and DailyOM: Learning To Live, and she is also a #1 Billboard recording artist with her line of guided meditation albums.

Check out her new book Unmedicated which is a gentle and accessible step-by-step guide to moving from excessive reliance on medications to fundamentally healing yourself through four pillars of natural wellness.

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EP 101: How Do I Take Action When I Have Anxiety and Fear? With Suzanne

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This episode is about taking action when faced with fear and anxiety. I coach today’s caller, Suzanne, through her pattern of catastrophic thinking, worry, and anxiety, to allow her to respond differently to her fear-based thoughts. If you can relate to feeling like fear and anxiety stops you, or if you are a bit of a worrywart, you will receive a lot of value out of this coaching session.

Worry is using our mind to come up with and visualize worst case scenarios, instead of using the power of our mind to visualize what we truly want to occur.

On some level, we think it’s protecting us or keeping us safe. But all it’s doing is creating more anxiety.

When we feel fear, it’s important that we first be with the part of us that feels scared and anxious. When we get scared as adults, we need to learn how to respond to it in a way that feels reassuring. A big part of this can be addressed by self-soothing. Most of the ways we attempt to soothe ourselves are not about soothing at all. We may be numbing or distracting ourselves. We run away from the fear by working, eating, sedating ourselves with drugs or alcohol, or using social media for hours.

But the more we ignore it, the bigger the monster becomes, so instead of running from your fear, face it head on. It doesn’t mean you have to conquer it, just be with it. What does it need from you? If the fear has a message for you, what’s the message? Can you trust yourself to sit with it rather than run? Tell yourself you are safe, and that everything is OK. Be a reassuring voice to yourself.

As you will hear in the call, Suzanne’s sense of self, and ability to feel safe regardless of external conditions, wasn’t developed, so she didn’t feel safe when she was outside of her home.

Like many of us, Suzanne said she understood my coaching intellectually but she still found it hard to shift in the moment. But, it’s the follow-through that matters.

That’s why I designed my Inner Circle membership community to focus on a certain quality every month. We focus on moving something from awareness into integration. So change actually happens. It’s more than learning concepts, you learn to integrate what you are learning into your life.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you worry a lot? Do you have a tendency to imagine worst-case scenarios, or have a habit of waiting for the other shoe to drop?
  • Do you think that preparing for the worst protects you from being disappointed?
  • Did something challenging, traumatic or catastrophic happen to you as a kid, so you live with nervous anticipation that something bad will happen again?
  • How are you soothing yourself when you go into fear, anxiety, or panic? Are you able to calm yourself down? What are your coping mechanisms?

Suzanne’s Question:

Suzanne wants to know how to take action when she feels crippled by anxiety.

Suzanne’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is a catastrophic thinker.
  • She doesn’t deal with losses well.
  • She didn’t feel emotionally safe as a child.
  • She had an eating disorder in college.
  • She surrounds herself with mentally stable people.
  • She tries to put her emotional health first.
  • She practices negative self-talk.
  • She seeks reassurance from outside herself.
  • She lets her mind run the show.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should find a new way to relate to herself to get a consistent experience.
  • She needs to acknowledge when she is in the midst of catastrophic thinking, and practice self-soothing techniques.
  • She should do the Release Writing exercise from Expectation Hangover.
  • She should practice Kundalini shaking to get rid her nervous energy.
  • She should start owning who she is, what she feels and what she loves about herself.

Takeaways:

  • Find a way to self-soothe, read “My Best Tips for Reducing Anxiety” about calming yourself down and dealing with anxiety.
  • Make sure your sense of self is not externally referenced. Look at where you are projecting a feeling of safety. Do you feel like you need to get it from an outside source?
  • Imagine your best-case scenarios — instead of using your imagination to imagine things all the things you don’t want, imagine all the things you do want.
  • The Future Forecasting exercise in Expectation Hangover is a great way to start visioning your best-case scenarios.
  • Allow yourself to get excited about things!

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@ChristineHassler.com

Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life,
by Christine Hassler

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The more ways you need to make you feel safe and calm the less you need anxiety.… Click To Tweet

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How to take action when there’s anxiety and fear 

There are things you want to do.  You want to start dating. You long to speak your truth.  You are so ready to quit your job. You crave putting your art, words or message out in the world.

Yet something stops you. And it’s not even some external obstacle. It’s your own anxiety, worry or fear.  You imagine the worst-case scenario or engage in paralysis by analysis all in an attempt to calm your concerns, yet this just makes them worse!

So how do you take action when so much doubt and fear is in the way? This is exactly what I coach Suzanne on in this week’s episode of Over It and On With It. She has a pattern of catastrophic thinking, worry, and anxiety that is keeping her from living the life she longs for. If you can relate, you will receive a lot of value out of this coaching session.

Go here to listen to Episode 101 with Suzanne!

Worry is using our mind to come up with and visualize worst-case scenarios, instead of using the power of our mind to visualize what we truly want to occur. On some level, we think it’s protecting us or keeping us safe. But all it’s doing is creating more anxiety.

When we feel fear, it’s important that we first be with the part of us that feels scared and anxious. When we get scared as adults, we need to learn how to respond to it in a way that feels reassuring. A big part of this can be addressed by self-soothing. Most of the ways we attempt to soothe ourselves are not about soothing at all. We may be numbing or distracting ourselves. We run away from the fear by working, eating, sedating ourselves with drugs or alcohol, or using social media for hours.

But the more we ignore it, the bigger the “monster in our closet” becomes, so instead of running from your fear, face it head on. It doesn’t mean you have to conquer it, just be with it. What does it need from you? If the fear has a message for you, what’s the message? Can you trust yourself to sit with it rather than run? Be a reassuring voice to yourself. Tell yourself you are safe, and that everything is OK. 

As you will hear in the call, Suzanne’s sense of self, and ability to feel safe regardless of external conditions, wasn’t developed, so she didn’t feel safe when she was outside of her home.

Like many of us, Suzanne said she understood my coaching intellectually but she still found it hard to shift in the moment. But, it’s the follow-through that matters.

That’s why I designed my Inner Circle membership community to focus on a certain quality every month. We focus on moving something from awareness into integration. So change actually happens. It’s more than learning concepts, you learn to apply them and create changes in your life.  Go here for more on how to join us.

Today I invite you to consider:

  • Do you worry a lot? Do you have a tendency to imagine worst-case scenarios, or have a habit of waiting for the other shoe to drop?
  • Do you think that preparing for the worst protects you from being disappointed?
  • Did something challenging, traumatic or catastrophic happen to you as a kid, so you live with nervous anticipation that something bad will happen again?
  • How are you soothing yourself when you go into fear, anxiety, or panic? Are you able to calm yourself down? What are your coping mechanisms?

Be sure not to miss my coaching session with Suzanne as I coach her (and you) out of a self-imposed prison of worry, fear and anxiety!  Go here to listen now.

And remember: Worry is a poor use of your imagination! Use your imagination to visualize what you truly desire instead (tweet this!)

With love,

Christine