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Stop trying so hard to be yourself!

With so many opportunities to see people doing extraordinary things or expressing in unique ways it can be easy to feel, well . . . ordinary.

I get the pressure to be a “Unicorn.” It seems like we are consistently encouraged to be different and stand out from the crowd in order to be seen. Those without particularly eccentric personalities can feel somewhat boring or even invisible.

But here’s the truth. NO ONE is ordinary. We are all extraordinary in our own ways and it is time we embrace this rather than try to alter or amplify ourselves to get attention or validation.

You do not need to be any different than who you are authentically. If you are questioning who you authentically are, consider that you trying too hard to be someone you are not by trying to live up to societal expectations and/or people pleasing.

In today’s vlog I encourage you to stop trying to be a unicorn and be a YOUnicorn.

Stop trying so hard. The essence of who you truly are will shine through once you get out of the way. You do this with self-acceptance and by letting go of comparison.

Express yourself in ways that feel good to you. Let go of trying to look good.

You are the ONLY one who can be you and you are exceptional at it so just do you! (tweet this!).

For more on the topic of authenticity, go here.

And I always love to hear your thoughts and comments so please share with me below.



p.s. Keeping up with podcast episodes? There were some really great ones this week!

In episode 113 I coached Sara on getting over self-sabotaging behavior so she can step into her potential and have health, wealth and impact. Go here to listen.

Plus, I recorded a coaches corner on perfectionism and over-prepping. Go here to listen.

How to be Authentic … and Appropriate

Authenticity is a word that seems to be very hot lately.  We are encouraged to be authentic and authentically express ourselves.

But what does authenticity truly mean? And is it possible to be too authentic? Are there times when fully expressing ourselves is actually not appropriate

I’ve been thinking a lot about authenticity as it has been something I have been working on with my coach and has also been the theme this month for my Inner Circle membership community.  I share some insights and tips on how you can be both authentic AND appropriate in today’s video.

In the video I explain how to be authentic and responsible. Authenticity is not about saying whatever we want with no regard with how it may impact someone else.  It is also not about over-sharing and processing our wounds publicly.

Authenticity is about speaking our truth with love. Sharing for the purpose of connection rather than to get attention or validation. It is about being ourselves without judgment or self-consciousness.  To be authentic requires radical self-acceptance, learning from our perceived mistakes and moving forward with awareness.   Most of all, authenticity is about owning our gifts and expressing them in a way that FEELS good.

I encourage you to reflect on how you can be even more authentic in your life.  Do an inventory of your relationships, choices and behaviors and ask yourself, “Is this in alignment with what I really want? Am I being 100% honest with myself or others?” And if your answer is no to those questions, consider making some adjustments.

Be authentic by creating an external life that matches your internal truth. Tweet this!