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Who are you NOT to do this?

When you’re on a journey of spiritual growth and transformation, something
pretty amazing can happen.

At a certain point, you hear the call to share the lessons you’ve learned.

It might start out as a whisper, but eventually it becomes a roar: You’re called to serve others and connect to a greater purpose.

But even when that call is loud, I know the nasty voice of fear and self-doubt can be even louder.

The voice of fear holds you back, saying, “Who am I to do this? What do I have to offer? How would I even start?”

My response is: Who are you NOT to do this?

I learned this lesson from my dear friend, New York Times best-selling author Gabby Bernstein. Gabby has been a spiritual leader for more than a decade, and she’s committed to guiding us through the blocks that keep us from serving the world and rising up in our own way.

She’s doing it with a FREE 3-part video training that will get you into action to be abundant and make an impact doing what you love.

In this first video Gabby shares 3 steps you can take to truly own your confidence and get into action now.

She took these 3 steps to become a speaker, author and public figure with zero background in her field.

Like Gabby herself, you’ll gain the confidence to embrace the fact that you have a divine purpose — and start taking inspired action so it can unfold.

Click here to watch the video and learn…

  • The 3 steps to owning your confidence and getting into action now
  • How to overcome doubt and uncertainty
  • The #1 way to feel connected to your purpose

Watch now for an instant confidence boost.

Click here for instant access to Gabby’s free training video!

Love,

Christine

Why do we push love away?

We long for love.  We want to fall in love, feel loved and love others.

So why is it that sometimes when love comes our direction, we get scared and push it away?  If we want love so badly, why do we run from it when it comes? What makes us engage in sabotaging behaviors or question whether we can trust the love that is coming our direction?

This is exactly the topic I explore in episode 91 of Over It and On With It. I coach Samantha who is in a new relationship that is very loving; however, she notices herself having a lot of anxiety her lovability and whether or not she can trust love, which is causing her to push him away.

This is an important episode to listen to no matter if you are in relationship or not because we touch on some of the big fears when it comes to receiving any kind of love or attention. Listen here.

You see all of us want love and to be seen, but when it comes right down to actually receiving love and letting love FULLY in, it can feel incredibly overwhelming.

When we lack self-love and doubt our own lovability, we get scared and push love away. We do this from little things like deflecting compliments to big things like “testing” people that are close to us by seeing how many buttons we can push in them until they run.

We have a story about love like “love leaves” or “people that love me hurt me” or “I’m not good at love”  . . . and then as much as we don’t want to relieve that story, our attempts to protect ourselves from it end up recreating it.

How do we shift this and truly LET LOVE IN? That’s the question I answer as I coach Samantha.

>>Go here to listen to Episode 91<<

There is nothing you have to do to deserve love.  Trust your lovability and let love in.

The only way to get the love you want, is to go all in.((Tweet This!!))

With love,
Christine

p.s. How would you like VIP access to an incredible tribe of like-minded people and me as your coach?  If that sounds appealing, then join my Inner Circle!  This unique, intimate group composed of men and women from around the world and you can enroll at any time. It is a monthly membership that you can cancel at any time. Learn more here or email jill@christinehassler.com to set up a call and discover if Inner Circle is right for you.

Learn how you can truly “help” others

Do you enjoy helping people? So much so that you often get a little over invested in making sure they change or heal and perhaps take on their pain?

Does your sense of worthiness or value come from being needed by others or helping others?

If you are in a healing or helping profession, do you ever feel like a fraud? Like you don’t have what it takes to truly help?

Or do you ever feel depleted or drained after being around someone who is struggling or suffering?

If you answered yes to any of the above, please do not miss my last coaching session with Candace on my Over It and On With It podcast. Candace is a health practitioner suffering from a lot of work related anxiety.   She is wondering how she can decrease the amount of anxiety she feels at work that comes from feeling responsible for helping people and questioning whether she is good enough to truly help them.

All you helpers and caretakers and sensitive peeps, this is a reminder!!  It’s not our responsibility to make sure people change, and it is not our responsibility to make sure they don’t suffer. I know it hurts to watch other people suffering, but we cannot take away other people’s pain.

Instead, hold a space for suffering and truly help by way of compassion. If we take on the belief that it is our responsibility to fix someone, then we assume they are broken, and not equipped to heal themselves. One of the biggest gifts we can give to others is to see them as whole, and having all the inner resources they need. People save themselves.

>Go here to listen to Episode 90<

And please share this episode and help spread the word about how we truly help others. Here’s a tweet for you:

This podcast on how to TRULY help others is a must listen! (Tweet This!)

With love,
Christine

p.s. How would you like VIP access to an incredible tribe of like-minded people and me as your coach?  If that sounds appealing, then join my Inner Circle!  This unique, intimate group composed of men and women from around the world and you can enroll at any time. It is a monthly membership that you can cancel at any time. Learn more here or email jill@christinehassler.com to set up a call and discover if Inner Circle is right for you.

Top 5 ways to make and improve friendships

We tend to place a lot of importance on romantic relationships and our careers, often neglecting the value of friendships.  This is not a recipe for a fulfilling life!!

Quality friendships are a key ingredient to happiness.

However friendship does come with some challenges . . .

We may have outgrown some friends as our values shift.

Friends move on either physically or onto create their own families and therefore become less available.

We have some past hurts around feeling left out or rejected so we doubt our ability to make new friends.

It is difficult to find like-minded people to begin friendships with.

But these challenges can be overcome and are definitely NOT a reason to give up on friendships!  In today’s vlog I give you my tips for creating and nurturing the kind of friendships that enhance the quality of your life.

I would not be where I am today without my friends. I turn to them for unconditional love and support.  They shower me with compassion when I am struggling, celebrate my wins, and lovingly challenge me when I am not operating at my best.

But making friends has not always been easy for me.  I had a huge story around being left out by the “mean girls” in school and did not trust other women. I was so afraid of rejection that I chose loneliness over taking the risk to make friends.  Eventually the loneliness got too painful and I worked to heal the wounds around my perceived rejection by my peers. I made the choice to put myself out (very awkwardly at first because I was so self-conscious!) because I wanted to belong and feel connected. I followed the tips I am sharing with you.

My closest friends are people who I have created and nurtured deep relationships with.  These people did not just appear in my life. I made friendship a priority and followed the advice I am sharing with you today.

Here is a brief overview of the tips that I dive much deeper into in the vlog:

1. Become a better friend to yourself. The more you positively shift your internal dialogue and self-perception, the easier it will be to attract quality friends. And remember: you are worthy of friendship!

2. Ask people out on friend dates! There are a lot of people out there who want to be your friend but consider they may not know you are interested in a friendship or they may have their own insecurities. Think of how flattered they will be when you ask them to be your friend.

3. Grow your friendships by nurturing them. Initiate phone calls and invite your friends out to things. Do not wait to be invited, create the experiences that cultivate connection.

4. Look at friendships that have faded away and if they are ones you are interested in maintaining, reach out and reignite that friendship. A little effort goes a long way when it comes to friendship. That said, free yourself from friendships that are toxic or depleting. Some friendships have an expiration date so let go of those to make room for fresh ones.

5. Consistently put yourself in places and situations where you are likely to meet like-minded people. You can find your tribe anywhere. Trust me they exist!!

Please do not rely on your partner, family or career to provide you with the heart and soul connection that we all need.  Put intention and effort into creating friendships that are based on vulnerability and shared values.  You do not need a ton of friends, but you do need a few who can truly love you.

One of my favorite proverbs is:

“A friend sings you the song of your soul when you’ve forgotten”

Find your tribe and nurture them.  Make having and being an amazing friend a top priority in your life.

If you found today’s message helpful, please share it.  Here’s a tweet for you:

Great tips for making and nurturing healthy friendships: http://bit.ly/2qX0WYV @christinhassler ((Tweet This!!))

And I want to hear your thoughts and questions. What do you appreciate most about your friends? How has friendship improved the quality of your life?  What challenges are you facing when it comes to friendship.  Head on over to the blog and share with me.

With love,
Christine

p.s. If you relate to being a people pleaser, do not miss this week’s podcast where I coach Laura on getting over her pattern of doing more for others than she does for herself.  Listen to episode 89 here.

p.p.s. I’m honored to be a featured teacher at the Friendship University – where intelligent women who value healthier friendships come to learn.  This week, until the end of May, all my friends and community members can access my class “Preventing Expectation Hangovers in Your Friendships” for FREE (valued at $25 and includes a worksheet and inspiring resources!) by using the code “hasslerfree” before 5/31.   Click here to sign up. 

p.p.s. How would you like VIP access to an incredible tribe of like-minded people and me as your coach?  If that sounds appealing, then join my Inner Circle!  This unique, intimate group composed of men and women from around the world and you can enroll at any time. It is a monthly membership that you can cancel at any time. Learn more here or email jill@christinehassler.com to set up a call and discover if Inner Circle is right for you.