As Christine navigates her way through a massive Expectation Hangover, she shares with you tips for dealing with unwanted change in a way that decreases suffering and increases faith. Listen in for some advice and also a guided meditation that will support you in becoming more present and full of peace.Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google
This call is about honoring your intuition and truth. Michelle wants to know why she keeps sabotaging herself and why she keeps quitting. But, we uncover that she is not sabotaging herself; she’s just not answering her calling.
Even if you don’t know what your life calling is, you know when something is a ‘hell yes’ or a ‘hell no.’ In order to break free from situations where you are settling and you know it’s just not right you may have to leave a hell no situation in order for a hell yes situation to appear. So many times our most challenging situations reveal our purpose. Our karma becomes our dharma.
When reframing difficult situations from your past you can look at it two ways. You can believe that you need to make up for something you did wrong but it just perpetuates the idea that you are unworthy or undeserving in some way and need to suffer. Or, you can look at the difficult situation as a setup for what is your true calling.
If you are trying to change something about yourself, rather than changing the circumstance you are in, consider that you may not be in the right situation. It may be time to go! It’s time to honor your calling and become aligned with something that fits into your purpose. Don’t wait for certainty. Listen to your intuition. Let your purpose be your comfort, not your fears.
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- Are you in a soul-sucking job, relationship, city, etc.? Is there something you would love to do that seems random or unrealistic?
- Do you want to make changes but fear keeps getting in the way?
- Was there an event, or events, in your childhood that are really big clues as to what your purpose is today?
Michelle feels a calling to start a career in hospice but she has a pattern of stopping and starting things in her life.
Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She doesn’t follow through when she feels she should.
- She fears her abilities based on a childhood traumatic experience.
- She is a sensitive person.
- She is drawn to help people transition into death.
- The childhood incident may have happened to reveal her true calling.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She needs to realize she is not responsible for saving people.
- She needs to stay focused on her mission and finally step into her calling.
- She should reach out to mentors and connect with people who do the work she wants to do.
- She should let go of the beliefs that she sabotages things and that she is a quitter.
- Write down all the situations in your life. If they are not hell yeses than they are hell nos. Get Expectation Hangover and work through the Life Lessons exercise to help you connect the dots.
- Work with any limiting beliefs that are keeping you in fear and allow the universe to surprise you. Ask the universe for things you want in your life.
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This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Today’s caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.
Awareness is great but it’s only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes — changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from ‘what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?’
Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we don’t have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone ‘out there’ to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.
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- Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
- Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
- Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
- When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?
Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.
Natalie’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
- She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
- She created a story to block out her father’s affair.
- She doesn’t keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
- She had a strained relationship with her mother.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
- She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
- She should start connecting with her inner child.
- She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.
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This episode is about breaking out of a self-imposed prison cell and taking a conscious action which will lead to change. Today’s caller, Shanna, needs to squelch her limiting beliefs and embrace her strengths and her power.
Shanna has been punishing herself. Shame does that to us. When we feel ashamed about something we overcompensate and that becomes our punishment.
Anytime we are in overcompensation mode and do not allow ourselves to live the life we really want, we keep ourselves in a self-imposed prison.
It’s a humbling thing to realize that we are the common denominator in situations we don’t want. But, it’s important that we don’t blame ourselves. When we find ourselves at this crossroads, it is time to start creating the things we want instead of the things we don’t want.
Where are you procrastinating and what will it take for you to change?
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- Do you feel stuck in a job or relationship and you feel you can’t get out of it?
- Do you feel over-responsible in your life but is responsibility an area that could use some growth?
- Are you really free? Are you locked in a self-imposed prison because you don’t think you have any choices?
- Do you procrastinate in making a change until you are forced to do so?
Shanna is having a hard time leaving a job she feels is a toxic environment.
Shanna’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She feels she may not find a better job.
- She doesn’t feel worthy of help.
- Parenting is the hardest thing she’s ever done.
- She felt shame around her pregnancy.
- She is brutally hard on herself.
- She doesn’t believe she can make an internal shift.
- Her fear-based predictions of how things will go are off.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She should start looking for another job.
- She needs to believe she can succeed at what she wants to do.
- She should avoid letting her outer experience dictate her inner experience.
- She should remove the word ‘try’ from her vocabulary.
- She should uplevel her responsibility and embrace her power and strength.
- She should write out her plan of action.
- You have the ability to respond to situations in life as you choose. How are you choosing to respond to things?
- If you are stuck, what is your why? Why are you procrastinating and making excuses?
- Stop trying to ‘figure things out.’ Make the necessary internal shifts and take action.
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