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EP 117: Moving From Awareness About Your Issues to Actually Making Changes with Natalie

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This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Today’s caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.

Awareness is great but it’s only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes — changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from ‘what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?’

Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we don’t have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone ‘out there’ to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.

Be sure to check out this weekend’s Coaches Corner! I will be addressing ghosting and flaky behavior.


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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
  • Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
  • Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
  • When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?

Natalie’s Question:

Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.

Natalie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
  • She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
  • She created a story to block out her father’s affair.
  • She doesn’t keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
  • She had a strained relationship with her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
  • She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
  • She should start connecting with her inner child.
  • She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Five Phases of Personal Growth Vlog

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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EP 116: Trapped in a Dead End Job as a Single Mom with Shanna

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This episode is about breaking out of a self-imposed prison cell and taking a conscious action which will lead to change. Today’s caller, Shanna, needs to squelch her limiting beliefs and embrace her strengths and her power.

Shanna has been punishing herself. Shame does that to us. When we feel ashamed about something we overcompensate and that becomes our punishment.

Anytime we are in overcompensation mode and do not allow ourselves to live the life we really want, we keep ourselves in a self-imposed prison.

It’s a humbling thing to realize that we are the common denominator in situations we don’t want. But, it’s important that we don’t blame ourselves. When we find ourselves at this crossroads, it is time to start creating the things we want instead of the things we don’t want.

Where are you procrastinating and what will it take for you to change?

One of my favorite ways to empower people is teaching retreats. So, in March 2018, I am hosting my annual signature retreat. It is an intense, 3-day, women-only spring event with only 20 spaces available. This is the last time I will lead the retreat, as I am training others. To find out more e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com or check out Spring Retreat.


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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck in a job or relationship and you feel you can’t get out of it?
  • Do you feel over-responsible in your life but is responsibility an area that could use some growth?
  • Are you really free? Are you locked in a self-imposed prison because you don’t think you have any choices?
  • Do you procrastinate in making a change until you are forced to do so?

Shanna’s Question:

Shanna is having a hard time leaving a job she feels is a toxic environment.

Shanna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels she may not find a better job.
  • She doesn’t feel worthy of help.
  • Parenting is the hardest thing she’s ever done.
  • She felt shame around her pregnancy.
  • She is brutally hard on herself.
  • She doesn’t believe she can make an internal shift.
  • Her fear-based predictions of how things will go are off.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should start looking for another job.
  • She needs to believe she can succeed at what she wants to do.
  • She should avoid letting her outer experience dictate her inner experience.
  • She should remove the word ‘try’ from her vocabulary.
  • She should uplevel her responsibility and embrace her power and strength.
  • She should write out her plan of action.

Takeaways:

  • You have the ability to respond to situations in life as you choose. How are you choosing to respond to things?
  • If you are stuck, what is your why? Why are you procrastinating and making excuses?
  • Stop trying to ‘figure things out.’ Make the necessary internal shifts and take action.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Stop giving up on yourself

Time for some radical self-honesty . . . are you a quitter? Do you have a pattern of starting things but then not finishing them? Maybe not with everything but enough to make you question why you cannot seem to follow through.

If so, then you are going to love episode 95 of the podcast where I coach Jill on getting over her starting and stopping pattern.

This episode is such a great one for anyone who has trouble keeping momentum with things. You start things (like a book or exercise program or a meditation practice) but then you just don’t stick to it. You have a ton of enthusiasm at the beginning but then it just wears off and you find yourself quitting which you then judge yourself for – it’s a vicious cycle that just loops so it’s so important to get out of which is what I coach Jill on.

Go here to listen to episode 95

Also listen in to episode 96 where I coach Jenn on how to apply the internal shifts she has made in her life to her external world.

Ever notice how when you make changes on the inside, that your preferences and interests change? As we evolve, we do not resonate with the same things we used to. Friendships may end. Careers transform. Even the kind of food you like may shift. This can feel confusing because as you are going through the process of change, you may not know what the “new” people, things or situations are. That is normal. There is a time of uncertainty as we let go of the old.

Go here to listen to episode 96

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EP 96: How the Changes You Make on the Inside Affect Your Outside World with Jenn

EP96v1This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Today’s caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes, and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way.

As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what we’re attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and it creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right.

As we shift consciousness our identity shifts, and as it does it can feel confusing, because our external life is not congruent with our internal life.

Just because you don’t have clarity about something, or something doesn’t feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesn’t mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Don’t rush to figure it out — allow it to be revealed.

To my Aussie Friends — My annual trip to Australia is slated for the first 2 weeks of October, 2017. I will make time for private intensives and possibly a personal growth retreat or mastermind for wellness entrepreneurs. If you are interested email Jill@ChristineHassler.com ASAP!

And as we are coming up on the 100th episode of this podcast, Over It and On With It has caught the attention of the PodcastOne network. It means exposure to a much larger audience, and access to advertisers who help pay production costs.  Yay! I’m hoping this allows me to add more coaching episodes. 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there some aspect of your life that doesn’t feel right, or just feels off?
  • Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life?
  • Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser?
  • Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen?

Jenn’s Question:

Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion towards her business. She wants to gain clarity around her coaching business.

Jenn’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had a falling out with her mother.
  • She was physically ill.
  • She internalizes her mother’s issues.
  • She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother.
  • She has always been there for others.
  • Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now.
  • She’s committed to getting out of her head.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should bring more of her own voice into her business.
  • She shouldn’t underestimate the value she brings to her clients.
  • For guidance, she should look at the way the people she appreciates share their stories.
  • She should share her emotional depths.

Action Steps:

  • Get Expectation Hangover if you don’t have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker.
  • Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life?
  • How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity?
  • Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty?

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@ChristineHassler.com

Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler

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