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EP 130: Heal Daddy Issues and Create Authentic Relationships with Marie


This call is about speaking your truth and being authentic in dating. Today’s caller, Marie, calls in wanting to know how to break off a bad relationship but it turns out she needs to heal old wounds from her relationship with her father.

If you are asking yourself, how do I stop dating the same person with a different face? You should know that when we are born we know we are connected to a higher power and we know that we are unconditionally loved. Then, our conscious mind takes over and we lose a bit of our antenna and we project ‘God,’ or the source of unconditional love, on to our parents. If they don’t or are unable to give us unconditional love, we search for it through our relationships.

If you have been yearning for love and feel unlovable your story will create your reality. Emotional availability is not just about vulnerability, it is about honesty and speaking your truth.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you keep dating the same person with a different face?
  • Are you pretending in any of your relationships? Are you a chameleon? Are you being more strategic than authentic?
  • Do you doubt your ability to be loved?
  • Are you hoping someday a parent will show up differently for you than they have in the past?
  • Do you have the relationships you crave or do you have relationships you hope one day will turn into what you want?

Marie’s Question:

Marie has become obsessed with a relationship she knows she should end and wants to know how to get over it and on with it.

Marie’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She has experienced a lot of heartache.
  • She believes men just leave relationships.
  • She doesn’t have a close relationship with her father.
  • She has issue-based relationships.
  • She is looking for emotional relief from her dad.
  • She continues to chase emotional intimacy.
  • She’s emotionally unavailable.
  • She doesn’t let people see the real Marie.
  • She has yearned for male attention her entire life.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should write a letter and speak her truth to her father.
  • She should start having an authentic, emotionally honest relationship with her father.
  • She should break her patterns of pretending in relationships.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Take an inventory of your relationships. Where are you being strategic versus authentic?
  • Start to have honest, vulnerable communication with the people in your life.
  • If you are obsessing about someone, consider what lesson your discomfort is leading you toward.
  • When it comes to change, healing, and making your dreams come true, don’t just be helpful — be committed.


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Coaches Corner: Answering Listener Questions

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In this Coaches Corner Christine answers three listeners questions.

The first one has to do with unhealthy dating patterns. The second question, from Joe, is about healing old childhood wounds. And the final question is about how to handle a friendship that may have reached it’s “expiration date.”

Listen in as Christine dishes some advice you can immediately apply to your own life!

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Coaches Corner: Christine answers listener questions about improving communication in relationships and being more vulnerable in dating

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EP: 43 Why You Haven’t Found the “One” with Michael

EP43v2Let’s talk about finding the “one”. You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don’t inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don’t believe in love, it’s there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships.

I believe there are lots of “ones” out there for us. My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it’s through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it’s through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it’s through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to  remind us of who we truly are.  Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again.

So, why are many romantic relationships so painful?

  1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood.
  2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn’t attract the best people to us.
  3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship.

Today’s call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women.

Michael’s mother wasn’t really there for him and so he ends up with women who don’t treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds.

We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It’s time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer?
  • Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face?
  • Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating?
  • Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses?

Michael’s Question:

Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one.

Michael’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship
  • He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates
  • He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships
  • He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him
  • He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women
  • His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage

How to get over it and on with it:

  • He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault
  • He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for
  • He needs to take a dating hiatus

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed?
  • Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship?
  • Perhaps it’s time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself.
  • Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are.


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