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EP142: Upgrade Your Perspective of Self Worth with Mickey

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This call is about is about shifting your perspective and living the life you want to live. Today’s caller, Mickey, feels she can never quite reach success. She has done a bit of self-development work but is still bumping up against low self-worth issues and the belief that she is not good enough. Sometimes, the bigger the consumer of personal growth, the bigger the critic of one’s progress.

It helps to get some altitude on our past and on our life so we can get a different, more expansive view of things. Our soul evolves in many lifetimes. We come back each time with a certain curriculum of what we are here to learn. The only way to learn what we need is to experience the contrast. Look at your life as a school. We are all here to learn and grow. Everything that happens, happens for us, because it sets up the soul lesson that is helpful to our evolution.

It is incredibly common that when we are ready to know about and face an issue, the right information, teachers, and healers show up.

And, being an Empath is a gift, but taking on people’s things and wanting to fix them, save them, or solve something is not empathic. It’s the ego part of us that wants to feel like we are helping people. The empath part of us feels, is sensitive, and has compassion. Don’t confuse empathy with your ego’s desires. You are not here to save the world.

We can’t save ourselves by helping others. We have to become students and apply the same guidance, support, and insight we give to others, to ourselves. Often, people who have done a lot of personal development work believe they should know better.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you experience an ongoing sense of looking at other peoples lives that seem to be working out brilliantly and are wondering what you are doing “wrong”?
  • Is low self-worth something you can relate to?
  • Are you good at teaching self-love and personal development but you find embodying the principles challenging?
  • Have you ever or are you now in a relationship with a narcissist?

Mickey’s Question:

Mickey wants to know how to get over her feeling of being held back from success.

Mickey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has done a lot of personal growth work.
  • Her parents considered abortion before she was born.
  • She feels not good enough.
  • She is a coach.
  • She hides her heart from other people.
  • She sources her self-worth through others.
  • She collects evidence that she is not worthy.
  • She needs to change her perspective about her worth. 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to get rid of the story that she is not good enough.
  • She needs to get a little more selfish.
  • She needs to write out her belief systems and reframe them.
  • She needs to change her perception from fear to love.

Assignments For You:

  • If you have issues tied to pre-birth or infancy, put out to the universe that you are ready for a skilled specialist to help you with it.
  • When it comes to your soul curriculum, upgrade your perspective and create a miracle by shifting your perception.
  • Have a beginner’s mind. Re-read one of your favorite personal growth books. Listen to my previous podcasts again.
  • Get congruent with your work and your finances. If you are always giving more of what you preach to others than to yourself find balance.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

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Family Secrets. by John Bradshaw

Tweetables:

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EP 29: Why Going for Your Dreams Matters Most…No Matter What

ep 29 v1Our dreams come from our inner wisdom and our wants come from our ego.

We all have things that happen in our lives, which create fear, uncertainty, doubt and self-limiting beliefs. Often, we try to ease the pain of those things by chasing after something. For example, if you are really hard on yourself, then you may spend a lot of time wanting someone else to love you. You have a high want for a romantic relationship or you have a parent who was really hard on you or only validated you for your accomplishments, and you may have grown up with the feeling of unworthiness and high want for money and success.

Ego-based wants come from feeling ‘less than’, and then searching for something or someone to fill the void. These kinds of wants are not coming from an authentic place, because at the authentic self-level we know that absolutely nothing is missing. The want is coming from our ego. When we obtain our ego-based wants, they only give us a temporary sense of satisfaction. They do not cure the deep longing we feel for worthiness, belonging and love.

How do we know something we are longing for is not an ego-based desire but a true dream we must pursue? It comes down to the feeling of longing, which we feel in our heart, not in our head. Our dreams are a psychic prediction of what is coming; we feel a deep longing to experience something because we know that on some level, it is our destiny.  We can’t always control the form and timing of it and that is where suffering can come in.  It is imperative we pursue our dreams on the level of essence, not form; and we focus on the feelings we long to feel rather than try to make it happen or get attached to how we think it should happen.

An example of this is, perhaps you feel a longing to make an impact on the world. You feel a deep desire in your heart, which is almost painful when you feel you are not doing it right now. Instead of trying to figure out what business to start to make a difference, focus instead on the feelings you want to feel and then begin to take aligned actions in that direction. Set the intention every day to be of service and ask to be used as an instrument of impact. Look for the simple ways to make an impact right now. When it comes to dreams, waiting is not a good idea. Take action now to move you in the direction of how you want to feel and what you want to experience. The biggest roadblock to going after dreams is fear. Nothing silences the voice of your inner wisdom more than doubt and fear. Honor your dreams and stop being so scared.

Today’s caller, Anya is scared and feels guilty about wanting to go after her dream because it was not her original plan.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you know what your dreams are? Are you terrified to go after them?
  • Do you feel stuck because you do not know how to turn your dreams and longings into actual steps?
  • Are you concerned that if you don’t go after your dreams soon you will spend the rest of your life regretting it?

Anya’s Question:

Anya has been feeling lost because she is passionate about acting but she is afraid to follow her dream.

Anya’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She feels the pressure of the expectations others have of her
  • She is embarrassed that her dream is different than her education
  • She needs to take the first step

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She can give herself permission to stand for her dreams
  • She should communicate her dream to others
  • She needs to take the first step
  • She should write a list of all the reasons acting is important to her

Tools and Takeaways:

  • Give yourself permission to pursue your dreams
  • Write down a list of reasons why your dreams have value and are safe to explore
  • Change or update your story to include what matters most to you
  • Get fully behind your dreams with intention

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Resources:

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Expectation Hangover
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Tweetables:

We are conditioned to believe we are only one thing in our career but it’s not true.
When it comes to dreams waiting is not a good idea.
Dreams are indicators of what is to come. The longer you delay taking action the longer they will take to come true.”

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