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I got the boot!

Yup. I got the boot – both literally and metaphorically. I’ll explain . . .

About three weeks ago while I was still in Australia I woke up and could barely walk on my right foot. Being the active (and sometimes stubborn) person that I am, I did not let it stop me from walking or exercising. I assumed it was something that would get better and was in complete denial that I could be injured.

Then a week went by. The pain and swelling intensified so much so that it woke me up at 3am! Fortunately, my inner wisdom reminded me that one of my best friends in Australia has a wife who is a podiatrist. She came over the next day and confirmed that I was injured.

Expectation hangover! I have dealt with quite a lot of physical things this year, and to say that I am over feeling uncomfortable and limited in my body is an understatement. So after an X-ray confirmed it was indeed a stress fracture (caused by walking too much in flip-flops and running barefoot on uneven sand), I will admit I was really sad.

Of course I realize it could be much worse, but as in any moment of an expectation hangover, I have learned (and now teach), that honoring our natural emotions arising in the situation is important. Skipping to the “sliver lining” too soon is a form of emotional suppression, which in the short term may feel good but is not a healthy way of coping.

So I had a good cry and laid around my Airbnb for a day (which just happened to be in Byron Bay one of the most beautiful and walk-able beach cities in Australia) because I had to be off my foot for 24 hours.

Next I had to move into acceptance, which is CRUCIAL when dealing with any expectation hangover. Acceptance does not mean we like what is happening, rather it just means we stop wishing it were different. We accept what we cannot change and focus on what we can.

The only thing I could change was my attitude and my actions. I decided to rent a car so I could get around. I got an orthopedic shoe until I could get back to Sydney and get my boot. I asked for more help and more help was generously given to me, some without my even asking – like a super cute Aussie fireman carrying me to the beach and into the ocean so I could go for a swim.

However in full transparency, keeping an upbeat attitude has been a bit challenging and
here’s why . . .

I love to MOVE. I value exercise so much and not just for keeping me physically fit but also for what it does for my mindset. Not being able to sweat and move around like I usually do really affected my mood. I felt blah and irritable! Also, being in a boot completely threw off my alignment so my tailbone, hips, spine, and neck have been totally off. My whole body was in pain, not just my foot.

I am sharing this with you for two very important reasons! My message today is a bit of a PSA. I am on my soapbox but I only get on my soapbox when I 100% believe that what I am encouraging you to do matters.

Reason #1: If you suffer from any kind of depression, anxiety, lack of motivation, or just overall blah feeling you need to MOVE. We live way too much of a sedentary life and our brains rely on endorphins from movement. Find a form of movement you like and make the time to exercise. Even getting your heart rate up for 20 minutes creates massive benefits! No excuses.

Reason #2: Get your body in alignment. Driving, sitting at a computer, carrying around children, traveling, sleeping in a weird position, and even working out with poor form are just some of the ways we throw our spine and neck out of alignment. When we are out of alignment it also affects our brain as well as other organs in the body. I see people running from doctor to doctor with pain or medical problems that could be solved by seeing a really good chiropractor, osteopath or physical therapist. Now you may say that is too expensive but what will cost you more are health problems down the road.

Out of my top 5 core values, health is #1 because if I do not have that, the other ones are impossible to live out. I have always known exercise and alignment are important. Now that I have personally experienced the consequences of when those things are not in place, I am even more emphatic about making exercise and alignment a priority!

And even when we do (like I have for nearly 20 years), life happens. Injuries are not possible to avoid completely so when we experience one, we must listen to what our body needs and is attempting to tell us. The message I got from my foot is that I need to step forward in certain areas of my life. There have been ways I have been stalling, staying in things that are not for my highest good, and not stepping fully into things that support me. My body also needed a bit of a break (forgive the pun) from moving around so much. Since February 1st, I have not spent more than 10 nights in one place.

Message received. Thank you, right foot.

Now that I am back in San Diego and have been grounded for a bit, while stepping forward in the areas I need to, my foot is getting better. I intend to be out of the boot by the end of this week and know the power of our bodies to heal. That said, I am not trying to be any kind of hero through this. I want total healing and will not rush it even though I am DYING to get back to my regular workouts.

I appreciate your well wishes. So many of you have reached out to me via social media so thank you. Like any expectation hangover, this is ultimately a blessing. I am not sure when I will be back to my regular routine but I am 100% certain that I will never take my ability to move for granted again.

I hope this message motivates you to get moving and take even better care of your body. It’s the only one you’ve got – be kind to it and do not take it for granted.

Much love,

Christine

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138: Finding Yourself Again After Years of Feeling Lost with Staci

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This call is about is about how beliefs we form at a young age, after a tragic event, can significantly impact our lives even decades later. Today’s caller, Staci feels lost in her career and wants more out of life. This coaching session is an example of how detrimental it can be to suck our feelings inside and how it leads to limiting beliefs and the feeling of being lost.

Beliefs that we form at a young age can significantly impact our lives even decades later. When an emotional reaction to something is extreme or out of proportion to what is actually happening at the moment. It is an indication that an old, unresolved wound has been triggered.

In life, there is what happens and then, what we make it mean. The decisions and beliefs we form around pain can perpetuate the pain. We have to accept that painful things have happened and let go of the adaptive persona we created because of it.

This coaching session reveals that time does not heal all wounds. Which is why sweeping something under the rug, trying to be strong, distracting yourself or taking a spiritual bypass out of a difficult event, does not work. When Expectation Hangovers happen, when something doesn’t go according to plan or life throws you an unexpected, tragic curveball, it is important to ‘feel, deal and heal.’  Don’t wait years or decades later to move into acceptance.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel lost in life?
  • Did you experience a loss or a tragedy in your life and haven’t quite moved into acceptance of it?
  • Do you feel as if you know who you authentically are?
  • Are you aware that there is a past trauma or incident that you are still carrying around today? Does it still bring up a lot of emotion?

Staci’s Question:

Staci feels lost in her career and wants more out of life.

Staci’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels lost.
  • She lost her sister at age 9.
  • Her demeanor changed and she created limiting beliefs after her sister died.
  • She doesn’t feel she deserves to be alive.
  • She has paired feeling responsible with loss and tragedy.
  • She lost her orientation of who she is.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to give her true self permission to resurface.
  • She needs to release her self-imposed punishment.
  • She needs to accept herself from the inside out.
  • She needs to find a personal counselor or therapist.
  • She should fully embrace being alive.
  • She should write a compassionate letter and connect with her 9-year-old self.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • With grief, go through the stages. If you are having trouble getting to acceptance, look at what you are making what you are grieving about mean.
  • If you didn’t have a loss in your life, do you think that you have created a persona or way of being that’s not authentic to you to get love or validation? If so, it’s time to rediscover yourself.
  • Get help. Get a guide. Talk with a trained professional.
  • If you notice your emotional reaction to something is out of proportion to what is actually happening, consider that something from your past you haven’t dealt with yet has been triggered. Work through Expectation Hangover.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

Ep:134 — How to Get an Ex Out of Your Head with Andrea

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EP 136: Get Out of Your Head and Listen to Your Heart with Emma

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This call is about is about getting out of your head and listening to your heart, especially after an Expectation Hangover like a divorce. This call with Emma is a great example of the struggles of someone who is stuck in their head and emotionally stressed. Her question is about gaining clarity and her next steps but she can’t get clarity as long as she stays suppressed.

It takes a lot of strength to stuff away our feelings but if we really want to hear our heart we have to be willing to be vulnerable. All of us have things from our past that were challenging and some even traumatizing. A huge part of getting on with the life we truly want is to get over the life we’ve had so far. We don’t do that by sweeping the past under the rug like Emma is attempting to do.

Why does suppressing emotions and sweeping our past under the rug create confusion? First, it takes a lot of energy to avoid your feelings. It makes it hard to relax and to listen to the voice of your intuition. Clarity, guidance, and insight come during quiet and relaxed states. If you are using energy suppressing or distracting yourself from feeling, or keeping busy and staying in your head, it’s difficult to hear your inner wisdom. Second, your higher self or soul wants you to wake up. It wants you to heal and feel. Often, the clarity on your next steps won’t be revealed until you heal.

If you relate to this call you need to let go of the belief that you can’t access your heart. Give yourself permission to make more heart-based choices. Stop telling yourself you can’t hear your heart or your intuition. If you keep telling yourself that you will keep believing it.

Also, if you can relate to putting walls around yourself to protect yourself know that it is also keeping love and connection out. Make it safe for yourself to start taking those walls down and become connected to your heart.

Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to receive information on my upcoming retreat in London. And, would you like to get face-to-face, free coaching from me? Contact Jill about the live-on-camera sessions coming up in May in San Diego!

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you confused, seeking clarity about something?
  • Do you feel blah — perhaps even depressed?
  • When difficult things happen, do you try to be strong and get over it?
  • Do you make decisions more with your head than with your heart?
  • How are you with your feelings? Do you actually feel them or do you rationalize them, get over them and hope they go away?

Emma’s Question:

Emma wants guidance about her next steps after a divorce.

Emma’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She split with her husband because they had different goals.
  • She made the decision not to have children.
  • She suppresses her feelings.
  • She makes decisions based on her head, not her heart.
  • She felt lonely as a child.
  • She’s not sure she knows what love is.
  • She feels that crying is bad.
  • She fears intimacy. 

How to get over it and on with it:

  • It’s time for her to make heart-based choices.
  • She should get Expectation Hangover and work through the emotional section.
  • She should work with a professional counselor.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Check out Equine Therapy.
  • Get out of your head and stop trying to figure things out!
  • Acknowledge if you are a suppressor. Consider getting a coach and getting a guide or a counselor.
  • Start journaling every day or talking to other people about your feelings. Get involved in something that helps you shift your energy.
  • Give yourself permission to take a vacation from trying to figure things out.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

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EP 134: How to Get An Ex Out of Your Head with Andrea

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This call is about is about reconnecting with our younger self and practicing real self-love. Today’s caller, Andrea, can’t get a guy out of her head. Is she following a pattern that started in her childhood?

If an ex is still taking up real estate within your head it’s probably not the person. There is something deeper within you that is begging for your attention and love.

In a relationship, we have to use discernment to know what is really a deep connection. Oftentimes, what we think is a deep connection is really infatuation and a positive projection. When we are getting to know someone we need to take off the rose-colored glasses. If you are feeling a deep connection to another person make sure you are also feeling a deep connection to yourself. Don’t get lost in the hormones of infatuation.

We must connect to the parts of us we have shamed or disowned and commit to having a more loving, nurturing relationship with ourselves.

Sometimes, we are scared of our own emotions but what about vulnerability? We don’t have to power through our emotions. It’s not weak to be vulnerable. It doesn’t make us a victim. Being vulnerable is incredibly courageous and powerful. Go slow, be with your emotions and be compassionate. So many of our emotions in our adult life stem from our childhood stuff. If we continue to power through our emotions we attract experiences that try to trigger them so we can finally feel them.

Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in Sydney, Australia on April 14th & 15th to fast-track the success of your coaching business. Visit Christine’s Master Class for more information. I am also holding a one-day Women’s Retreat for 10 women on April 13, 2018, in Bondi Beach. It’s a condensed version of my signature retreat. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there an ex or anyone else that you have had a difficult relationship with and you can’t get them out of your head?
  • Do you have the same kind of relationship patterns and the same results in relationships?
  • When you were younger did you often feel bullied, duped, left out, or isolated?
  • When you try to connect to younger parts of yourself do you feel silly? Do you find it hard? Is it difficult for you to do?

Andrea’s Question:

Andrea is looking for guidance as she tries to get an ex out of her head.

Andrea’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She hadn’t connected with someone so deeply before.
  • She is looking for someone to grow with her.
  • She doesn’t feel worthy of love.
  • She was bullied as a kid.
  • She judges herself.
  • She feels disconnected from her younger self.
  • She is nourishing her body with food instead of overeating.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She needs to nurture her younger self and tell her that she is capable of being loved.
  • She needs to reconnect with the part of her that feels ashamed and alone.
  • She should stop dating for a while.
  • She should attend a Mastery course.
  • She should check in with her little girl every day.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Start a communication with the younger parts of yourself. Get a picture and talk and write to yourself.
  • Take a pause from dating or doing things that reinforce the pattern that you want to break.
  • If you can’t get over an ex, see it as an alarm that triggers you to pay attention to yourself.
  • Sign up for my Mastery class coming up in May.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

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