Tag Archives: forgiveness

EP 126: How to Accept Your Body No Matter What Its Shape or Physical Condition with Aly


This call is about self-acceptance and self-love. Today’s caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love.

It’s wonderful to be a seeker but it’s important to be mindful of coming from a place of wanting to learn and grow, not from the place of, there is something wrong with me and I need to fix it. If you are overdosing on personal growth from the perspective of ‘solving all your problems’ — you are not broken!

Self-love is a daily practice and sometimes even a moment-to-moment practice. Self-love is truly the process and practice of acceptance. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves all the time. We are going to say and do things that we may want to take back. It’s OK. Self-love is about forgiving ourselves in the process.

Remember we always have another present moment to do better. The key to acceptance is taking responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors without beating yourself up. You are not broken!

Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you see yourself as a constant self-improvement project?
  • Do you approach self-love with an all-or-nothing attitude?
  • Are you hard on yourself — especially your body?
  • Is there something you are attempting to get rid of by sweeping it under the rug or hating it?

Aly’s Question:

Aly has spent many years trying to get rid of chronic disease and would like to know how to accept it and get unstuck.

Aly’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She feels she is not good enough.
  • She can’t seem to accept who she is.
  • She is afraid to be happy.
  • She uses her weight as a happiness meter.
  • She abuses herself and feels guilty about it.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She needs to realize she is not broken.
  • She should get the anger out by writing letters to the guys who broke her heart.
  • She should write an apology letter to her body.
  • She should give her body a love bath every morning.
  • By realizing she is proud of herself.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Give yourself permission to write an F-U letter — write it and then destroy it.
  • Write an apology letter to your body using these sentence stems:
    • I’m sorry because…
    • I’m learning from you that…
    • I forgive myself for…
    • I forgive you, body, for…
  • Give yourself a body love bath.
  • Make self-honoring choices and make new agreements with yourself.


THIRDLOVE What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it’s a half size. They have over 60 bra sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra.

Stitch Fix Shop in a productive way and end up with purchases you actually love, right from home. Use this link to get 25% off when you keep all the items in your box.


Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show


The key to acceptance is taking responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors without beating… Click To Tweet

Do you approach your self-love and self-improvement goals thinking you need to fix yourself?… Click To Tweet

You are not broken. Stop relating to yourself as a constant self-improvement project.… Click To Tweet


Coaches Corner: America’s #1 Transformation Coach Drew Canole

Screen Shot 2017-09-18 at , Sep 18>10.40.25 AM

You’ll LOVE this conversation. Drew came over to my house and we had an incredible chat that covered a lot of ground: healing our past, forgiveness, relationships, health and weight release, detox, and SO much more.

Fueled by small-town values and a big vision for a better planet, Drew Canole begins each day with one simple goal in mind – to positively impact the lives of others. Through his work as a Personal Coach and endeavors such as EnrichYourExistence.com and FitLife.tv, Drew aims to inspire and motivate others to search deep within themselves to create an abundant, healthy and fulfilling life. “Improve one life; improve the world.”

Drew was born and raised in the small, rural community of Lake City in Northern Michigan. After attending Central Michigan University, he launched a successful career in finance before recognizing that his greatest talent was helping others discover their untapped potential. He currently resides in San Diego, where his work as an author, fitness specialist and transformation expert has made him one of the most reputable Personal Coaches in Southern California.

Drew is committed to the conviction that people are at their best when challenged. He pushes others to bust through personal barriers and reach new heights in physical, mental and spiritual well-being.


https://www.organifishop.com coupon code CHRISTINE to get 20% off.

Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google


Episode 104: Getting Closure with an Ex with Jobe


This episode is about a romantic relationship, specifically the end of a romantic relationship. Today’s caller, Jobe, can’t seem to get over his ex-girlfriend. My coaching went in a direction that surprised us both as it seemed Jobe needed closure in more than one relationship.

There were three main areas I coached Jobe in so he could move on.

One, Jobe had a lack of self-love. He sourced his love from his ex. It’s hard to get over someone when they are our source of love — because we need love. We go through withdrawal because love can be an addiction.

The second thing that makes it hard to move on is wearing rose-colored glasses when looking at the relationship in the rear view mirror. Jobe’s relationship was an issue-based relationship. There was a lot of chemistry but it wasn’t healthy.

And, I sensed a lack of forgiveness in Jobe. We move on when we forgive.  Forgiving isn’t condoning a behavior, forgiving is about letting go of judgment, resentment, regret, and anger, so you can be free.

We have a hard time moving on from a relationship when there is a lingering issue that needs completion. Often our consciousness doesn’t let something go when we need to go back and clean something up.

On October 11th, I will be teaching a free master class to share information about my Personal Mastery Course, Over It and On With It. Sign up to receive early bird notifications and discounts. There are even special bonuses for those who sign up early.

We are proud to be part of the PodcastOne Network. Take the PodcastOne Survey and tell us how you feel about your favorite shows.

Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you having a hard time getting over an ex? Do you still need closure?
  • Are you in a relationship that is passionate, but also volatile?
  • Are you in a romantic relationship with someone who has a child?
  • Do you source love from other people?

Jobe’s Question:

Jobe would like to know how to get over his ex for once and for all.

Jobe’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He is struggling to get his ex out of his head.
  • He relied on his ex as a source of love.
  • The relationship had many ups and downs.
  • He had a good relationship with his ex’s child.
  • He has been selfish since the breakup.
  • It’s time for him to figure out who he is.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • It’s important for him to express his feelings to the child involved.
  • He should reassure the child to help her gain closure.
  • He needs to generate a source of love from within himself.


  • If you are getting over an ex, you need to cut the cord and focus on yourself. Be the best partner you can to yourself.
  • If you are seeking closure with someone, think about where you need to forgive, let go, and where you might be out of integrity. Is there something you need to clean up to be complete?
  • Make new agreements of how you want to show up in a relationship. Write vows or commitments to yourself about the kind of partner you want to be and honor those agreements.


Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram


“Over It and On With It Personal Mastery Course”

The Art of Charm Podcast, with Jordan Harbinger

Facing Love Addiction, by Pia Mellody


Love is a verb, not just an emotion. We can not expect to only feel love, we must be love.… Click To Tweet

Look at what is the highest good for everyone in a situation, not just your own self-interest.… Click To Tweet

It’s pointless to feel bad or guilty. It doesn’t inspire action, and it keeps you in victim… Click To Tweet


EP 94: Forgiving the Seemingly Unforgivable with Jen

EP94v1This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn’t believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most.

One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one.

Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you don’t have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future.

Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didn’t love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you?

Would you like to connect more with me and receive a resource to help you transform into owning your purpose? Use this link, ChristineHassler.com/SpiritJunkie to enroll in Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass by June 29th and receive access to the class, a one-hour one-on-one coaching session with me, a one-month membership to my Inner Circle Community, a download of my guided meditation CD and more.

Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable?

Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life?

Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just don’t go your way in life?

Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts?

Jen’s Question:

Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could.

Jen’s Key Insights and Ahas:

She didn’t get the love and attention she wanted as a child.

She wants closure with her mother who recently passed.

She feels broken.

She’s created the healthy family she always wanted.

She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family.

She is using her past as a scapegoat.

As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldn’t be disappointed.

It wasn’t her job to save her parents.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She shouldn’t identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed.

She should stop mimicking her mother’s behaviors.

She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in.

She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts.


If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself.

Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally.

Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge.

Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario.


ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link.


Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Coaches Corner with Gabby Bernstein — Turn Your Pain Into Purpose

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram



Addiction is the illusion of separation and expecting to find something external to make us feel a certain… Click To Tweet

A big part of forgiveness and closure is doing projection work on yourself.http://apple.co/1hO8XZR #overitandonwithit Click To Tweet

Take off the armor you have around your heart. You deserve to be seen through the eyes of… Click To Tweet