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Why is it taking so long?

Do you ever feel like your dreams are taking a really long time to come true? The career you want has not happened despite your efforts. The relationship you desire has not manifested even though you have feng shuied your house and have done Calling in “The One”.  The debt you have been chipping away at still may take years to be gone. The health condition you have been healing still lingers.

And often it is not just our dreams or goals that seem to take their sweet time. It is also those pesky patterns and limiting beliefs that we invest lots of time and money in shifting that seem to keep showing up. You are frustrated that your inner critic still has a major role in your life or that your insecurities still block you from taking risks. 

You are taking action. You are setting intentions. You are doing the work. So why the heck is it taking so long????

Good question. And there are multiple answers.

First I want you to know that you are not alone. When we feel a longing for a goal or a change, the time it takes to actually happen is impossible to predict or 100% control. Of course this is incredibly frustrating especially when we feel like we are doing all the right things. 

Here are five keys to keep in mind that I hope will ease your frustration a bit:

    1. We do not have 100% control over our life.  We do have control over our choices and how we respond to situations in our life but there is no way we can say we have 100% control because we live in an interdependent world.  If you have not noticed, you are not the Master of the Universe. No matter how intentional we are with our goals, there are lots of other variables like other people, your soul’s curriculum (more on that in #3), and a bunch of other stuff that we mortals cannot begin to understand.
    2. Which brings me to Divine Timing. As much effort as we put into things, there is still a Universal Order that is the master timeline. As ready as you feel for something, trust there is a really good reason as to why it has not happened yet. You may not know that reason now, but trust me, someday you’ll look back and understand.
    3. You have free will and you have a soul curriculum here on Earth. You have come here to evolve, to grow in consciousness and your Higher Self cares more about your growth than any external goal, dream or change you want to make. Some of the things your mind wants now may not be appropriate as it could interfere with the growth you need. So instead of asking, “why is this taking so long?” Ask, “What am I learning from this time in my life?”
    4. The above said, sometimes things are taking a long time because you are actually not taking the action that is required to speed them up. Your own fears, excuses, and doubts may be causing a delay. Assess where you are holding back or playing small. Be honest with yourself as to whether you are playing victim. When it comes to shifting patterns and limiting beliefs, do not just process your issues or compulsively do personal growth work. Instead take contrary action, as this is the best way to break patterns and rewire your brain. For example, if you are working to shift the pattern of people pleasing, start saying no and speaking up for yourself.
    5. You are doing the best you can. Really you are. Of course you can do even better but it is SUPER important to acknowledge how far you have come. If you are only looking at what has not happened, you are missing out on celebrating how much progress you have made. The more you pay attention to how far you have come, the easier it will be to get where you are going. (Tweet This!!)

It may take another day. It may take another week. It may take another month. And it may take another year (or years). Trust that whatever your “it” is, is coming. You would not feel the longing if it was not.

In the meantime, enjoy the moment. Spend more time in gratitude for what is here right now. Your life and you are a work in progress. There is no “there” so just be right here. 

Take a nice deep breath. Everything is on time.

For some extra coaching on this topic, be sure to tune into episode 129 of the podcast where I coach Carrie on her career transition. Go here to listen.

With love,


p.s. Today is the day that B-School enrollment closes. If you want to speed up the time it takes for your career and impact to really take off, B-School is the way to do it. And if you enroll through my link, you get some incredible support from me including coaching calls and a live masterminding day with me in California. Go here for more details.

And if you have any questions about whether the program is right for you, email jill@christinehassler.com and she will get back to you with a very detailed answer.

Don’t be afraid of the storms ….

On this 11th day of an 11 year (add up 2018 and you get 11), your new year mojo may still be going strong. You have declared that this year will be different, the best year yet. Woo hoo! I am cheering you on. There are so many blessings and delights headed your way! You will grow and create so many incredible things!

Continue to take both inner and outer action to co-create your dreams. Be consistent with your mediation, journaling, exercise, healthy eating, creative endeavors and spiritual/personal growth work. Keep embodying courage by taking action even when you feel fear. Celebrate the heck out of every single little step and win. Give yourself a LOT of pats on the back and relish in gratitude. 

Soak up all the joy and Light that life gifts us all with.

And . . .

Allow me to lovingly remind you that storms may still come. And that is okay. They are gifts as well. Welcome them. 

I was reminded of this a few nights ago when a much needed rainy and windy storm came through SoCal and woke me up. I heard the rain pouring down, the wind shaking the windows, and the ocean roaring. Everything felt chaotic, yet required. It has been too sunny and hot here for the winter. We needed the dark clouds to wash in for the growth that will be needed for spring time to happen.

We humans are a lot like nature. We have seasons, cycles and storms. Life is not always sunshiny, because we learn through contrast.

We need the storms to create a little disruption so we can plant need seeds.

We need the dark skies to inspire us to go inside.

We need the strong winds to blow away what no longer serves us. 

We need the rain to wash away our limitations.

I love breath-taking sunsets, but to me a stormy sky is just as beautiful.

Perhaps one more intention you could set for 2018 is a deeper level of trust and surrender to the ENTIRE human experience. Become more of a spiritual warrior by being willing to dive into the challenges that life brings rather than run from them.(Tweet This!) They truly are happening for you.

There is beauty in the storms of your life. Do not fight them. Allow them to wake you up. To know the Light, we must also embrace the dark. There’s nothing to fear… the sun always comes back out.

With love,


p.s. A new podcast is up! Listen to me coach Daniela about finally ending FOR GOOD a relationship that was really not doing her any good anymore!!! This is a must listen if you are struggling with a relationship or any kind of decision. Go here to listen.

p.p.s. I’M COMING TO AUSTRALIA!!!!  I will be down under the entire month of February and will be offering:

1. A 2-day retreat for health and life coaches teaching you both the art and business of coaching. Learn how to become a masterful coach AND make money at it.

2. 90 minute sessions, ½ day or full day intensives

EMAIL jill@christinehassler.com if you are interested in either or both and we will get you on a list to be the first to get all the details.

A technique I use with my clients

Given that we are still riding the wave of the New Year and a lot of you have goals on your mind, I wanted to share one of the simplest yet most effective processes I use with my clients. Most of us are a bit flawed in how we pursue our goals. We think that setting intentions and taking steps toward them is enough, but it’s not. If you do not want to be left with a 2016 intention Expectation Hangover, I highly suggest you do this process.

I walk you through this transformational exercise in my vlog below.

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