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Let’s do 2018 differently . . .

Consider this:

2016 was the caterpillar.

2017 was the cocoon.

2018 is the butterfly.

In 2016 it seemed like things crept slowly along. Then 2017 shook many of us to our core. I have heard from hundreds of you that it was one of your most challenging years ever (mine too!). What is exciting is that the slow build of 2016 and the struggle of 2017 have prepared us to fly in 2018.

But we must do it differently. Actually a better way to say it is: we must BE it differently.

It is time that we stop rushing and forcing and taking action from a place of fear. It is time we lean into the uncertainty of life and allow life to SHOW us our next step. It is time we turn even more inward rather than looking for answers outside of us.

The visual that helps me imagine what this looks like is the difference between holding onto the steering wheel of life so tightly (white knuckling), that you are trying to control almost everything versus sitting in a peaceful meditation with your palms up receiving direct guidance from Source.

Massive difference right?!?

Trust me, I know this is not easy. I like knowing. I like feeling like I have control. I like having a plan but I have seen over and over again that the Universe’s plan is always better than my own.

The catch is that I must be patient. You must be patient. We must be willing to sit in the in-between, the unknown, and the uncertainty while not allowing fear to seduce us into making plans with our mind.

This morning I woke up thinking about a big decision I need to make regarding moving since I have to unexpectedly be out of my home by Feb 1st. As I was tossing around the idea of signing a lease for a new place that is “good enough” I noticed that everything in my body felt tight. Although my mind wants to know my address, something felt off. In the past, I would have bypassed that intuitive feeling and made the situation work just so my uncertainty could be resolved. 

So I sat in meditation with my palms up and just let myself be with all the fears and thoughts that were coming up without thinking I needed to do anything about them. And guess what happened? Eventually all the anxiety calmed down and I was able to hear my intuition say to me: If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no!

Then I pulled this oracle card:


*From the Sacred Rebels Deck by Alanna Fairchild 

The message from this card confirmed what I was feeling and is also in alignment with what I felt that I am compelled to share it with you today…

Please stop working so hard to make things happen in your life. Whether you are male or female, bring more of the feminine ways back into your decision-making and goal setting process.  You are magical. You are a co-creator. TRUST life. TRUST the Universe. TRUST you will be guided. 

Repeat the below affirmation from the guidebook out loud until you truly feel it:

“I shine like the sun – radiant with grace- and all that I desire, comes to me according to perfect timing. I relax, believe and receive. Through unconditional love, this is now so.”

We are on the brink of a massive global shift in consciousness and if you are reading this email, you are part of that. More and more people are waking up after enduring massive expectation hangovers and realizing old issues, patterns and ways of reacting are not leading us to where our soul truly longs to be.

I understand it can feel scary to back off and take less driven action, especially at this time of year where all the messaging out there is about goals and doing. Resist the temptation to go into over-drive this year. Aren’t you sick of being burned out? 

Be a magnet for what you desire rather than a machine working hard to make it happen (Tweet this!)

This change in approach will shift you from a mental, fear-based way of living to an intuitive, heart-based way of living. 

And now more than ever before you are ready!!

It is time for you to fly, my dear butterfly.

With love,


p.s. A new podcast is up! Listen to me coach Jillian on her relationship with money. She has money and love entangled and is not appreciating her true value. This is a great episode to learn more about your relationship with money and self-trust. Go here to listen.

EP 108: Trusting Your Intuition in Love & Relationships with Sandra


This episode is about listening to your intuition and getting clear about what you want from a relationship. Today’s caller, Sandra, realizes she may want to continue her current relationship due to familiarity or comfort and not because it is truly what she wants from a relationship.

Be mindful of what you are scared of and what you are making your number one fear. Sandra’s fear of losing herself should have been the fear she is paying attention to.

What legitimate fears should you pay more attention to? For example, the fear of losing someone you may be doubting the relationship with or the fear of spending additional years in an unsatisfying relationship? The fear of leaving your job and having less money for a while and dealing with uncertainty or the fear of spending the rest of your life in a career you hate?

Fear can serve us in some way. It can light a fire in us to make necessary changes and when we take action we don’t need the fear. But if you are tapped into the wrong fear you start doubting yourself.

Sandra’s soul wants to know who she is, independent of who she is in a relationship. Will she make the choice that serves the highest good?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there something in your life you are uncertain about?
  • Do you feel guilty about something you have done in a relationship?
  • Would you love for someone you are in a relationship with to change?
  • Are you struggling with a decision but deep down you know what to do?

Sandra’s Question:

Sandra would like some clarity around her current relationship.

Sandra’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s afraid of losing herself in her relationship.
  • She hasn’t had any time alone in her adult life.
  • She’s not sure the relationship is healthy.
  • She felt responsible for fixing the relationship.
  • She may be asking for permission to make a decision.
  • She may be playing her father’s role in an effort to get closer to him.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should take three months to do some soul-searching.
  • She should write down the reality of what the relationship was.
  • She should make some self-honoring choices.


  • Get clear on which fear you need to be paying attention to.
  • Look at the parent you are most like or becoming.
  • Where do you need some space in your life?
  • Use prayer or meditation to find out what is the highest good for all involved.
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EP 102: How to Know if it’s Time to Leave a Relationship with Renae


This episode is about making self-serving decisions. Today’s caller, Renae, is married, and questioning whether or not her marriage has reached its expiration date. As you can hear in the call, Renea intuitively knows what she should do but she needs to be empowered so she can take action.

Do all relationships where one person is on the growth path, and the other person isn’t, have an expiration date? Not necessarily. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to know when it’s time to leave a relationship. When there is abuse, addiction, or toxic behavior, or the other person is unwilling to invest in the relationship, you have to be honest about why you are still in this type of relationship, and whether it is really serving your highest good.

When it is time to evaluate a relationship, or when it’s time to end it, be honest with yourself and listen to your intuition. You may already know the answer. When we seek counsel with others, we want to hear from someone else what we may already know. Sometimes we are looking for someone to give us permission.

If you are a parent who feels they may have messed up their kids, your fear is not helping you or them. What does help is to help them learn how to make self-honoring decisions. You should start equipping them with the personal development tools and mindset to help them break generational patterns, and to not personalize the situation. Children shouldn’t feel that anything was their fault.

And, actions speak louder than words. We must give someone the dignity of the process but honor our own boundaries. Don’t be a victim. Consider Al-Anon, and find other people you can connect to. Don’t bond over wounds, but find other people who understand your background. It will help empower you.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you questioning your current relationship? Are you in, or did you grow up in, an abusive environment?
  • Do you know what to do, but wish someone would give you permission to do it? Have you been attempting to change someone else, but realize the most important person to focus on right now is yourself?

Renae’s Question:

Renae wants to know if she should stay in her current long-term relationship.

Renae’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She grew up in an environment of physical and verbal abuse.
  • Her husband is verbally abusive to her and her children.
  • She doesn’t focus on herself.
  • Her 15-year-old daughter wants her to get a divorce.
  • She’s afraid to make the wrong decision.
  • She recognizes she needs to change her life and to give her kids a different environment.
  • She’s known what to do, but needed validation to move forward.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to make a decision to break patterns and to change things.
  • She needs to start documenting abuse.
  • She needs to stop beating herself up, and practice self-love and self-care.
  • She needs to believe in herself, and give herself positive encouragement.


  • If you are questioning your relationship, ask yourself, “What is this relationship teaching me? What patterns do I need to complete? Could it be time to go? What do I need to do to make a shift?
  • If you are a parent, and feel that your children have seen things in your life or marriage that have been tough and they are struggling, get them help! You can’t be their therapist, counselor, or coach. They may need an objective person they can talk to, and to give them new tools.
  • My Inner Circle community can be a great place to find the love and support from people who know what you are feeling.


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