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EP145: Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts with Natasha

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This call is about depression and suicidal thoughts. Today’s caller, Natasha, has gone to a very dark place and is searching for the point of her life. One of the reasons so many people feel depressed is because they feel alone — like they don’t belong and that they don’t matter. It’s not true. You are not alone, you do belong and you do matter.

When you are in a dark place, you feel hopeless, that you are a burden, or that people won’t understand you, you must talk about it. You do not have to go through it on your own. If you feel like there is no one to reach out to and you have had suicidal thoughts call the Suicide Prevention Hotline (800-273-8255).

When a person feels separate from everyone else and in a dark place, they truly believe they won’t be missed and they are a burden. Suicide sounds like a selfish act and it’s not something that can be made sense of. If you hold resentment to anyone who has attempted to or been successful at taking their own life, it doesn’t serve you. Let it go and stop trying to make sense of it.

The recipe for depression is feeling alone and suppressed feelings. If you feel your entire existence is a burden to others you may be questioning the purpose of your life. If you relate to this, I encourage you to get more connected. It involves reaching out, asking for help, and connecting to a higher power.

It is important to develop a spiritual practice. All of us have access to love from the universe. Love yourself enough to explore and deepen the connection.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you ever questioned the point of your life?
  • Have you ever had suicidal thoughts even for a fleeting moment?
  • Do you struggle with depression? If you do, do you hide it from others and feel maybe feel guilty because your life looks good from the outside?
  • Do you feel like you belong?
  • Do you feel connected to yourself, to others or to the universe?

Natasha’s Question:

Natasha battles with seeing the point of her life and is asking for help.

Natasha’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has attempted to hurt herself.
  • She was scared and asked for help.
  • She can get to a really dark place.
  • She doesn’t feel useful to the people around her.
  • She feels like a burden.
  • She suppresses her thoughts and feelings.
  • She feels separate from everyone.
  • She lacks self-love.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to express everything she has held inside for decades.
  • She should do the emotional release tools from Expectation Hangover.
  • She needs to connect to a higher power.
  • She needs to ask the universe for help, love, and support.
  • She needs to drop the pressure and guilt she places on herself.
  • She should see a somatic therapist.

Assignments For You:

  • Reach out for help and let go of any shame you feel about it.
  • Drop the pressure of having it all together. Don’t feel bad about reaching out for help when you feel sad.
  • Ask the universe for help and for connection.
  • Go find joy in living your life.

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Resources:

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Expectation Hangover

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

Coaches Corner with Gail Saltz

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EP 143: Step Off the Codependent Path and Break Generational Patterns with Sandie

 

TEP143his call is about struggling with a decision and breaking free of unhealthy patterns. Today’s caller, Sandie, knows what she should do but needs validation that the choice is the right one for her. My coaching to her covers codependency, overcoming addictions and breaking generational patterns.

Until we heal what has hurt us in our childhoods we look for people who remind us of the parent that hurt us the most. We keep going to the same well, with a different face, hoping that finally there will be water in it instead of healing our core issues, loving ourselves and breaking the pattern.

And, sometimes when a child grows up with a single parent the child grows up more quickly and becomes a kind of surrogate spouse to the single parent. Then, part of the child’s identity is to be in a relationship as a caretaker which can lead to codependency.

A lot of us struggle with accepting the good things that come to us. The universe opens a door but walking through it means leaving something or someone else behind.

When you are delivering the truth with love, if the receiving person gets upset, it is their responsibility. Oftentimes, the most loving choice is the honest choice. Loving someone doesn’t mean placating them. Loving someone doesn’t mean staying in a situation that is not good for you because you don’t want to hurt the other person. Often, the decisions that hurt people the most truly help them the most.

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I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you at a crossroads? Are there decisions you are struggling with?
  • Do you not want to repeat the lives of your parents but you see yourself going down a similar path?
  • Can you identify with being a little codependent? Where you enmeshed with one of your parents?
  • Was one of your parents an addict?
  • Are you currently in a relationship with an addict?

Sandie’s Question:

Sandie feels that she is at a crossroads in her life and would like to know if she should follow a job opportunity.

Sandie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is in a relationship with an older man who is an addict.
  • Her father is a severe alcoholic.
  • She never felt loved by her father.
  • She has an offer for a new job.
  • She doesn’t want to follow in her mother’s footsteps.
  • She feels responsible for other people’s feelings.
  • She’s codependent.
  • She always wanted her dad to change.
  • She knew the right thing for her all along.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should say yes to the opportunity to get out of her current situation.
  • She should go to Al-Anon.
  • She needs to get a counselor.
  • She should take a break from dating for one year.
  • She needs to write out what her life will look like if she continues down her current path.

Assignments For You:

  • If you have been or are currently in a relationship with an addict I recommend Al-Anon.
  • If you are coming out of a relationship I encourage you not to date for a while. Get to know yourself.
  • If you have a big decision don’t wait until you feel ready.
  • If you are scared about something imagine a worst-case future scenario.
  • If you are at a crossroads and you don’t know what to do, seek the advice of a professional.
  • If someone in your life says they will change but never do, it might be time for you to make some changes.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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EP 140: Overcoming the Fear of Loss with Tom

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This call is about is about stepping into the truth of who you are. Today’s caller, Tom, is juggling many things in his life and wants to know how to balance his relationship with his family with his obligations. But as in many of my coaching sessions, we focus on a core wound from his past that is having a big impact on all aspects of his life.

Don’t minimize the important moments in your life so much that you never process them. It can continue to impact you for the rest of your life. But don’t put too much emphasis on them so they become an excuse.

A lot of people use events from their past as an excuse for not getting what they want from life. Your past doesn’t need to determine your future. You don’t need to continue to tell the story that happened to you when you were a child. Acknowledge significant past events, heal them, re-frame them, and create new belief systems around them.

We have to move out of fear and back into love because if we are showing up more in fear than in love, it is impacting our relationships, our careers, and our health.

It’s important to listen to our fears, anxieties, and our worries because they are alarms alerting us that we have forgotten something really important. Instead of trying to silence these uncomfortable feelings use them as your personal alarm system.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are there areas in your life that are not the way you want them to be?
  • Are you a sensitive person? Do you take things personally?
  • Are you a creative person? Do you express your creativity?
  • Do you suffer from anxiety?
  • Do you have a fear of loss?
  • Men, how do you feel about being a man? Do you feel connected to your masculine energy? 

Tom’s Question:

Tom would like to know how to improve his relationships with his family, get out of debt and prepare for a career shift.

Tom’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He has a lot of obligations.
  • He is passionate about music and his family.
  • He feels anxious and a fear of loss.
  • He lost an important friendship as a child.
  • He believes he is undeserving.
  • He made judgments about what it means for him to be a man.
  • He may be missing a connection to his masculinity.
  • He is searching for security and stability.
  • He keeps himself busy to distract him from his anxiety. 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He should start tapping into his masculine energy.
  • He should put some serious intention into breaking out of loner tendencies and start doing work with the Mankind Project.
  • He may want to look into a martial arts program.
  • He should write a letter to his younger self and tell him he is deserving and enough.

Assignments For You:

  • If you deal with anxiety, look at it like an alarm system. What is it alerting you to?
  • If you have trouble with focus and direction try martial arts.
  • If you are a sensitive person, stop taking things so personally.
  • Find your tribe. Embrace who you are and know you are good enough.
  • Listen to my Coaches Corner episode with Lori Harder.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

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EP 134: How to Get An Ex Out of Your Head with Andrea

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This call is about is about reconnecting with our younger self and practicing real self-love. Today’s caller, Andrea, can’t get a guy out of her head. Is she following a pattern that started in her childhood?

If an ex is still taking up real estate within your head it’s probably not the person. There is something deeper within you that is begging for your attention and love.

In a relationship, we have to use discernment to know what is really a deep connection. Oftentimes, what we think is a deep connection is really infatuation and a positive projection. When we are getting to know someone we need to take off the rose-colored glasses. If you are feeling a deep connection to another person make sure you are also feeling a deep connection to yourself. Don’t get lost in the hormones of infatuation.

We must connect to the parts of us we have shamed or disowned and commit to having a more loving, nurturing relationship with ourselves.

Sometimes, we are scared of our own emotions but what about vulnerability? We don’t have to power through our emotions. It’s not weak to be vulnerable. It doesn’t make us a victim. Being vulnerable is incredibly courageous and powerful. Go slow, be with your emotions and be compassionate. So many of our emotions in our adult life stem from our childhood stuff. If we continue to power through our emotions we attract experiences that try to trigger them so we can finally feel them.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there an ex or anyone else that you have had a difficult relationship with and you can’t get them out of your head?
  • Do you have the same kind of relationship patterns and the same results in relationships?
  • When you were younger did you often feel bullied, duped, left out, or isolated?
  • When you try to connect to younger parts of yourself do you feel silly? Do you find it hard? Is it difficult for you to do?

Andrea’s Question:

Andrea is looking for guidance as she tries to get an ex out of her head.

Andrea’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She hadn’t connected with someone so deeply before.
  • She is looking for someone to grow with her.
  • She doesn’t feel worthy of love.
  • She was bullied as a kid.
  • She judges herself.
  • She feels disconnected from her younger self.
  • She is nourishing her body with food instead of overeating.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She needs to nurture her younger self and tell her that she is capable of being loved.
  • She needs to reconnect with the part of her that feels ashamed and alone.
  • She should stop dating for a while.
  • She should attend a Mastery course.
  • She should check in with her little girl every day.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Start a communication with the younger parts of yourself. Get a picture and talk and write to yourself.
  • Take a pause from dating or doing things that reinforce the pattern that you want to break.
  • If you can’t get over an ex, see it as an alarm that triggers you to pay attention to yourself.
  • Sign up for my Mastery class coming up in May.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

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