As Christine navigates her way through a massive Expectation Hangover, she shares with you tips for dealing with unwanted change in a way that decreases suffering and increases faith. Listen in for some advice and also a guided meditation that will support you in becoming more present and full of peace.Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google
Stress. I do not know anyone that does not experience it. Some of us deal with it daily, while for others it is more situational. No matter how or where stress shows up, it is never good for us yet we have become used to it and possibly even a bit addicted to it.
The thing is that stress is a motivator. It pushes us to get things done. It is also very acceptable in our society. If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say, “I am so busy” or “I am so stressed,” I would have a lot of nickels!
If you relate to saying these statements, please STOP. You do not want to follow “I am” with things you do not want because it just reinforces it and attracts it to you.
Stress wreaks havoc on our body, mind, and spirit. It jacks up our cortisol, throws off our hormones, taxes our digestion and disconnects us from our intuition during the times we need it most.
I know you know that stress is not good for you. So how do you de-stress? Does it require a trip to the Bahamas? No…not at all. Actually a vacation is more an escapism tactic than an actual cure for stress.
Here’s what does help: a daily meditation practice, breathing, decreasing sugar and caffeine, saying no, delegating, bringing yourself consistently back to the present moment, time blocking, stopping procrastination, ditching perfectionism, and time in nature.
But sometimes even implementing all of the above does not alleviate our stress because we have not dealt with the core issue of what the stress is TRULY about.
Your stress is not coming from your job, your kids, your partner, your finances or your health. Your stress is coming from how you relate to the circumstances of your life.
What I have discovered in my own life and after 13 years of coaching others is that limiting beliefs and old patterns from our past are what perpetuate stress more than anything else. An example will make this more clear. Growing up I had health issues and was also bullied. These things created the limiting beliefs that There is something wrong with my body and People do not like me. Because of these BS beliefs, I was consistently on alert for something to go wrong physically and really self-conscious about how I interacted in the world and how I was perceived. Can you see how this would create stress in my life?
Life can be challenging and there are plenty of invitations to create stress so when we do not get to the core of how and why we relate to our life in a stress-producing way, we will never feel relief.
If you are having trouble wrapping your mind around what I am saying, don’t stress about it!! This week’s podcast, where I coach Adam, will help you make sense of this and offer you some insight into what perpetuates stress in your life.
Adam calls in asking how he can better handle his stress over not getting multiple promotions at work. Although we start with some action steps he can take to reduce stress, I felt like we had not gotten to the core issue of why this stress was showing up and why he was not being promoted.
What we discovered is that a big cause of his self-imposed stress comes from being raised in a strict household where he constantly felt as if he had to be “good” and that he was never living up to other’s expectations. This is a powerful episode that really ramps up half-way through so be sure not to miss it.
I hope this episode serves you well by illuminating some BS beliefs that have created stress-producing patterns of behavior in your life and effect the way you relate to the world. What is so great about getting to the core issue of what creates a stress-response in your body is that you can then shift it!!!
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2016 was the caterpillar.
2017 was the cocoon.
2018 is the butterfly.
In 2016 it seemed like things crept slowly along. Then 2017 shook many of us to our core. I have heard from hundreds of you that it was one of your most challenging years ever (mine too!). What is exciting is that the slow build of 2016 and the struggle of 2017 have prepared us to fly in 2018.
But we must do it differently. Actually a better way to say it is: we must BE it differently.
It is time that we stop rushing and forcing and taking action from a place of fear. It is time we lean into the uncertainty of life and allow life to SHOW us our next step. It is time we turn even more inward rather than looking for answers outside of us.
The visual that helps me imagine what this looks like is the difference between holding onto the steering wheel of life so tightly (white knuckling), that you are trying to control almost everything versus sitting in a peaceful meditation with your palms up receiving direct guidance from Source.
Massive difference right?!?
Trust me, I know this is not easy. I like knowing. I like feeling like I have control. I like having a plan but I have seen over and over again that the Universe’s plan is always better than my own.
The catch is that I must be patient. You must be patient. We must be willing to sit in the in-between, the unknown, and the uncertainty while not allowing fear to seduce us into making plans with our mind.
This morning I woke up thinking about a big decision I need to make regarding moving since I have to unexpectedly be out of my home by Feb 1st. As I was tossing around the idea of signing a lease for a new place that is “good enough” I noticed that everything in my body felt tight. Although my mind wants to know my address, something felt off. In the past, I would have bypassed that intuitive feeling and made the situation work just so my uncertainty could be resolved.
So I sat in meditation with my palms up and just let myself be with all the fears and thoughts that were coming up without thinking I needed to do anything about them. And guess what happened? Eventually all the anxiety calmed down and I was able to hear my intuition say to me: If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no!
Then I pulled this oracle card:
*From the Sacred Rebels Deck by Alanna Fairchild
The message from this card confirmed what I was feeling and is also in alignment with what I felt that I am compelled to share it with you today…
Please stop working so hard to make things happen in your life. Whether you are male or female, bring more of the feminine ways back into your decision-making and goal setting process. You are magical. You are a co-creator. TRUST life. TRUST the Universe. TRUST you will be guided.
Repeat the below affirmation from the guidebook out loud until you truly feel it:
“I shine like the sun – radiant with grace- and all that I desire, comes to me according to perfect timing. I relax, believe and receive. Through unconditional love, this is now so.”
We are on the brink of a massive global shift in consciousness and if you are reading this email, you are part of that. More and more people are waking up after enduring massive expectation hangovers and realizing old issues, patterns and ways of reacting are not leading us to where our soul truly longs to be.
I understand it can feel scary to back off and take less driven action, especially at this time of year where all the messaging out there is about goals and doing. Resist the temptation to go into over-drive this year. Aren’t you sick of being burned out?
This change in approach will shift you from a mental, fear-based way of living to an intuitive, heart-based way of living.
And now more than ever before you are ready!!
It is time for you to fly, my dear butterfly.
p.s. A new podcast is up! Listen to me coach Jillian on her relationship with money. She has money and love entangled and is not appreciating her true value. This is a great episode to learn more about your relationship with money and self-trust. Go here to listen.