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EP 121: Untangling Money and Love with Jillian


This episode is about trusting ourselves and changing our relationship with money and with people. Today’s caller, Jillian, is low on self-love and self-trust and she finds herself buying love. Money and love have been combined and entangled her entire life and her self-worth is dependent on her net worth. However, she doesn’t like having money.

Jillian doesn’t like money because it brings up things she doesn’t want to face. Money was used as emotional currency in her family. All she wanted was love and attention. It’s not the money she is angry at, it’s her father. She has been craving love for a long time.

This love/hate relationship manifests in a cycle. She makes money because she thinks she needs it to survive and then she gets mad at it because it triggers her past issues. Then, she spends it and then panics because she doesn’t have any. The cycle then starts all over again. In order to have a better relationship with money, Jillian has to heal her past issues with her father.

She has love and money paired together. It’s incredibly confusing and has made her repeat the behavior of her father. If she were to disconnect money and love she would have healthier relationships.

Anything we unconsciously fear, we test. Jillian has a fear that if she doesn’t have money no one will love her so she tests it by almost sabotaging her financial well-being to see if someone will stay in her life.

What are you unconsciously testing that you are actually manifesting?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How do you describe your relationship with money?
  • What was your family’s financial situation growing up and how did that affect you?
  • Do you feel like someone tried to buy your love or apologized with material things?
  • Have you ever tried to buy affection or attention with gifts or money?
  • Do you trust yourself when it comes to money?

Jillian’s Question:

Jillian has had money and trust issues since she was a little girl and would like to know how to separate love from money.

Jillian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She was told she would never have to worry about money.
  • She doesn’t know how to separate love from money.
  • She craves love and connection with people.
  • Her money challenges have always been solved with money.
  • She doesn’t have to buy love.
  • She has a scarcity mentality when it comes to money.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to understand that she has been craving love for a long time.
  • She should speak with her husband more about her fears.
  • She should make a list of the ways she breaks trust with herself and make new agreements.
  • She needs to uplevel her financial IQ.

Action Steps:

  • Make a list of the ways you break trust with yourself and make new agreements. Keep your word to yourself!
  • Evaluate your relationship with money and up your financial IQ.
  • Challenge yourself to be more intimate with people instead of giving them gifts.
  • If you are having difficulty trusting yourself with money, go to the bank and set up a ‘trust’ fund.


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Removing abundance blocks and boredom at work

Greetings from Bali! I am here leading my annual retreat and this year has been a little more interesting as we are awaiting the possible eruption of Mt Agung, a volcano here on the island.

If there is one thing we absolutely cannot control, it is Mother Nature. So this has been a time of surrender and trusting, while also being smart and taking necessary precautions. We are safe in Ubud and outside the evacuation zone. Your prayers for the people of this magical island are appreciated. Thank you.

So…shifting gears to what’s been cooking on the podcast lately. I had an incredible session with Doreen about creating more abundance in her life. We uncovered a very significant promise she made to herself at a young age based on something she observed in her parents relationship that was impacting her relationship with money. Be sure to listen to this episode and consider what promises or vows you made at a young age that may need to be updated.

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I also coached Becca on overcoming boredom at work in episode 107. This was a truly fascinating coaching session where I am SO GLAD I did not allow my assumptions to guide how I coached her. What began as a question about work transformed into a conversation about extremist behavior and shame. Don’t miss this one!

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I am sending you so much love and joy from Bali.  Even amidst all the concern and evacuation of 80,000 people so far, there is still such a feeling of peace and joy here. And as the Balinese say, “Only God knows what will happen.” 

In this moment as I write to you from my room overlooking the rice fields about to go down and lead 22 amazing women through the next process in our retreat, I am filled with gratitude. All is well.



EP 106: Get Over Your Money Blocks with Doreen


This episode is about abundance, prosperity, and how to overcome blocks to getting your financial life to where it feels healthy. I coach today’s caller, Doreen, on breaking some limiting beliefs around money and shifting her spending and earning patterns.

As children, when we see our parents struggle we often make a vow or promise to ourselves that we will never end up in the same situation. We need to recognize that we manifested the intention, then explore the lessons from it. Then, shift to the next level of putting new beliefs and behaviors into place. Change your orientation from self-improvement to self-upgrades or up-leveling.

If you are a coach it’s important to stretch your clients but not until they snap. Be sensitive to where they are and give them a step that is reasonable and realistic, like I did with Doreen around energetically releasing her mother from her care.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel you have blocks or issues when it comes to money?
  • Do you have a lot of debt?
  • Do you quickly spend what you have and sabotage your financial success?
  • Is it hard for you to ask for what you are worth and is it hard to receive?
  • Do you feel guilty when you have money?
  • Do you believe it is possible to shift your relationship with money?

Doreen’s Question:

Doreen would like to manifest financial abundance into her life.

Doreen’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She may be following in her parent’s financial footsteps.
  • She wants to be taken care of.
  • She doesn’t want to be like her mother.
  • She feels guilty that she is doing better than her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to parent herself about where true safety comes from.
  • She should write a letter to her mother she doesn’t intend to send, about her relationship to money.
  • She should make a list of her new belief system about earning, money, and what she wants to create.
  • She should stop parenting her mother.
  • She should focus on herself and stop playing small.


  • Consider if there were any vows you made to yourself as a child such as “I will never be like that” and look at what it is creating in your life. Do those vows need to be re-negotiated?
  • If there’s someone you need to break energetic ties to, write them a letter you never mail, stating what you are no longer taking on.
  • If you want to up your financial IQ I recommend you read The Abundance Book, The Science of Getting Rich and Money: A Love Story.


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Coaches Corner: How to Create More Money with Christy Whitman

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If you struggle with your finances or would like more money, then you’ll love my conversation with another master coach, Christy Whitman. She is a Transformational Leader, Celebrity Coach and the New York Times Bestselling Author of The Art of Having It All.

Christy is the CEO and founder of the Quantum Success Learning Academy & Quantum Success Coaching Academy, a 12-month Law of Attraction coaching certification program. Christy has helped thousands of people worldwide to achieve their goals through her empowerment seminars, speeches, coaching sessions and products.

In this episode, we talk about her new training program that will teach you how you’re unconsciously blocking more moolah from coming into your life, 3 easy steps to become a money magnet, and the #1 thing you should do next to become a deliberate creator of financial abundance.

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Once you shift your relationship with money, you’ll be amazed at how quickly your financial success can change!!!!

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