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EP 132: Removing Obstacles and Building Your Business with Katie

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This call is about identifying and overcoming the blocks to help you step fully into your business. Today’s caller, Katie, wants to know how to overcome the fear and perfectionism that is blocking her from building her new Life Coaching business.

We discuss the root of the fear that is holding her back because it doesn’t matter how big our vision is, we can’t bypass our fears until we heal the root of the fear.

Coaches and people on a personal growth path with a lot of awareness tend to judge themselves harshly because they feel they should know better. It’s important to let go of the pressure and be tender with ourselves.

When self-love has high stakes, it’s hard to get momentum because we are protecting ourselves from ourselves. We sabotage ourselves because we are afraid to move forward and fail in any way. We should accept ourselves where we are now, change our internal dialogue, and allow our internal perfectionist to calm down.

Tell your inner perfectionist it is OK to be vulnerable. You don’t have to be perfect. Invest in yourself. Be your own best client and come together with your tribe.

To build a soul tribe you need these elements:

  • A coach or healers to provide guidance and support who coach you in a healthy way.
  • Mentors to go to for advice and encouragement.
  • Peers and a support team to ask for help, to celebrate with, and if need be, cry on their shoulders.
  • People to serve and give back to.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you want to start a new business or make a change but feel blocked by fear?
  • Do you relate to being a perfectionist?
  • Were you raised by a parent who had high expectations of you and now you internalize those expectations?
  • Do you feel connected to and supported by a soul tribe you can be yourself and completely vulnerable with?

Katie’s Question:

Katie wants help to move past her fear and create the business she’s always wanted.

Katie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has a vision but fears moving forward.
  • She comes from an immigrant background.
  • She was taught to play it safe.
  • She is protecting herself from herself.
  • She desires the support and encouragement of her mother.
  • Her mother placed high expectations on her.
  • She experienced and was taught scarcity.
  • She was taught not to be weak.
  • Her perfectionism has served her and protected her.
  • She wants to tap into her spirituality.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should have compassion for herself.
  • She needs to build her soul family to support her.
  • She should flex her receiving muscle.
  • She needs to find a new source of motivation.
  • She should set up two chairs and coach herself as she would a client.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Don’t make your perfectionist wrong. Look at how it has served you.
  • What is the fuel that drives your motivation? Inspiration and your why is better than expectations and perfectionism.
  • Write out the way you want to mother, father, or coach yourself. You need the voice of a loving coach inside.
  • Build your soul family.

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Coaches Corner: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit with Andrea Owen

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Life coach. Author. Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is passionate about empowering women to value themselves and fiercely love who they are.

She helps high-achieving women let go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing courage and confidence instead.

We talk about the dangers of numbing out, why playing the blame game is only a way to off load pain, and how to have healthier relationships.

You can learn more at www.yourkickasslife.com and get her new book “How to Stop Feeling Like Shit” at www.yourkickasslife.com/htsfls

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Coaches Corner: Your Messy Brilliance with Kelly McNelis

Screen Shot 2017-09-18 at , Sep 18>10.40.25 AMChristine speaks with Women For One Founder & author Kelly McNelis about her new book Your Messy Brilliance. This is a must listen for all perfectionists and over-do’ers out there.  Learn how to embrace ALL parts of you, even the “messy” ones, and live a more authentic life.

Get your copy of Kelly’s book here: http://womenforone.com/messy-brilliance-book/

Share your story and join Women For One here: http://womenforone.com/

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Coaches Corner: Get over perfectionism and over-preparing!!

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Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it.

Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?

On top of that did your perfectionist start to kick in – like you kept tweaking and editing and trying to make it better?

Where is the line between healthy preparation and perfectionism/obsessing?

That’s exactly what Christine covers in this quickie episode of Coaches Corner.

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