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EP 132: Removing Obstacles and Building Your Business with Katie

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This call is about identifying and overcoming the blocks to help you step fully into your business. Today’s caller, Katie, wants to know how to overcome the fear and perfectionism that is blocking her from building her new Life Coaching business.

We discuss the root of the fear that is holding her back because it doesn’t matter how big our vision is, we can’t bypass our fears until we heal the root of the fear.

Coaches and people on a personal growth path with a lot of awareness tend to judge themselves harshly because they feel they should know better. It’s important to let go of the pressure and be tender with ourselves.

When self-love has high stakes, it’s hard to get momentum because we are protecting ourselves from ourselves. We sabotage ourselves because we are afraid to move forward and fail in any way. We should accept ourselves where we are now, change our internal dialogue, and allow our internal perfectionist to calm down.

Tell your inner perfectionist it is OK to be vulnerable. You don’t have to be perfect. Invest in yourself. Be your own best client and come together with your tribe.

To build a soul tribe you need these elements:

  • A coach or healers to provide guidance and support who coach you in a healthy way.
  • Mentors to go to for advice and encouragement.
  • Peers and a support team to ask for help, to celebrate with, and if need be, cry on their shoulders.
  • People to serve and give back to.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you want to start a new business or make a change but feel blocked by fear?
  • Do you relate to being a perfectionist?
  • Were you raised by a parent who had high expectations of you and now you internalize those expectations?
  • Do you feel connected to and supported by a soul tribe you can be yourself and completely vulnerable with?

Katie’s Question:

Katie wants help to move past her fear and create the business she’s always wanted.

Katie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has a vision but fears moving forward.
  • She comes from an immigrant background.
  • She was taught to play it safe.
  • She is protecting herself from herself.
  • She desires the support and encouragement of her mother.
  • Her mother placed high expectations on her.
  • She experienced and was taught scarcity.
  • She was taught not to be weak.
  • Her perfectionism has served her and protected her.
  • She wants to tap into her spirituality.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should have compassion for herself.
  • She needs to build her soul family to support her.
  • She should flex her receiving muscle.
  • She needs to find a new source of motivation.
  • She should set up two chairs and coach herself as she would a client.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Don’t make your perfectionist wrong. Look at how it has served you.
  • What is the fuel that drives your motivation? Inspiration and your why is better than expectations and perfectionism.
  • Write out the way you want to mother, father, or coach yourself. You need the voice of a loving coach inside.
  • Build your soul family.

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Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

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Coaches Corner: Lessons on Self-Love

Tweetables:

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EP 126: How to Accept Your Body No Matter What Its Shape or Physical Condition with Aly

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This call is about self-acceptance and self-love. Today’s caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love.

It’s wonderful to be a seeker but it’s important to be mindful of coming from a place of wanting to learn and grow, not from the place of, there is something wrong with me and I need to fix it. If you are overdosing on personal growth from the perspective of ‘solving all your problems’ — you are not broken!

Self-love is a daily practice and sometimes even a moment-to-moment practice. Self-love is truly the process and practice of acceptance. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves all the time. We are going to say and do things that we may want to take back. It’s OK. Self-love is about forgiving ourselves in the process.

Remember we always have another present moment to do better. The key to acceptance is taking responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors without beating yourself up. You are not broken!

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you see yourself as a constant self-improvement project?
  • Do you approach self-love with an all-or-nothing attitude?
  • Are you hard on yourself — especially your body?
  • Is there something you are attempting to get rid of by sweeping it under the rug or hating it?

Aly’s Question:

Aly has spent many years trying to get rid of chronic disease and would like to know how to accept it and get unstuck.

Aly’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She feels she is not good enough.
  • She can’t seem to accept who she is.
  • She is afraid to be happy.
  • She uses her weight as a happiness meter.
  • She abuses herself and feels guilty about it.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She needs to realize she is not broken.
  • She should get the anger out by writing letters to the guys who broke her heart.
  • She should write an apology letter to her body.
  • She should give her body a love bath every morning.
  • By realizing she is proud of herself.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Give yourself permission to write an F-U letter — write it and then destroy it.
  • Write an apology letter to your body using these sentence stems:
    • I’m sorry because…
    • I’m learning from you that…
    • I forgive myself for…
    • I forgive you, body, for…
  • Give yourself a body love bath.
  • Make self-honoring choices and make new agreements with yourself.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

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EP 115: Friendship Expiration Dates and Building Confidence with Claire

 

EP115v2This episode is about vanquishing self-criticism, letting things go that no longer serve you, and how to get what you want from life.

We are not always good friends to ourselves and it can be reflected back to us in our friendships — like it is today in my call with Claire. One of Claire’s friendships has just reached an expiration date and she is learning valuable lessons from it.

Other people can be mirrors for us and often, it takes someone else to wake us up. If a friend treats us bad enough it causes us to look inside ourselves to understand what it is showing us. It can show us the kind of friend we are being to ourselves.

Don’t stay in an unhealthy friendship or one that doesn’t serve either of you. We tend to hold on to friendships just a little longer because we don’t have to see the person as much. We justify putting up with it or we think we need to stay in the friendship because of the history. Or, we don’t have the guts to end it because we don’t want to upset somebody.

When we have a fierce inner critic it doesn’t compartmentalize. It doesn’t cheer us on in our career and then pick us apart physically. It is pervasive in all aspects of our lives. A fierce inner critic can impact our confidence. We can take something personally to our detriment or we can take it personally toward our growth.

To get what you want, you have to believe that what you want is out there. Your longing is your psychic knowing.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you compartmentalizing your life? Are you stuck in one area that may be caused by an unresolved issue in another area of your life?
  • If you talked to or treated your friends like you do to yourself would you have any friends?
  • Is your confidence down? Do you find yourself on the receiving end of criticism from other people?
  • Do you have any friendships that have passed their expiration date and are no longer healthy for you to continue?

Claire’s Question:

Claire wants to get unstuck in her life after an emotional falling out with friends.

Claire’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She found a friend’s comments inappropriate.
  • She can be critical of herself and lack self-confidence.
  • Her friend is a mirror of how she treats herself.
  • Questioning herself has impacted her career momentum.
  • She goes through cycles of emotional sensitivity.
  • She doesn’t enjoy certain aspects of her job.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should leverage this experience to perpetuate her growth.
  • She should write down 50 things about herself she is grateful for.
  • She should write out a description of what she wants from her work.
  • She should collect evidence about why the job she wants does exist.

Takeaways:

  • Do a friendship inventory. Look at the friends in your life and ask yourself ‘Is this an aligned friendship? Has this friendship passed its expiration date and is it time to complete this relationship and move on?’
  • How can you be a better friend to yourself? Start being kind to yourself.
  • Write a detailed list of what you want. Get a picture in your mind and take action.
  • Make a list of 50 things you are grateful for.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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Give this gift to yourself

On Thursday I am opening the doors to my Inner Circle! This exclusive community is a way for you to receive consistent coaching, guidance and life tips from me. The number one reason I feel called to offer this program is because I see so many people take ten steps forward and then five steps back when it comes to personal growth.

I was the same way. I would do an awesome workshop or have an incredible session with my coach and feel AMAZING. And the epiphanies and changes I made would last for a while…sometimes even months.

But eventually I’d find myself backtracking, which was incredibly frustrating.

I finally stopped feeling like I was backtracking when I realized that change requires two main things: momentum and consistency.

Once I made a 100% commitment to always, yes ALWAYS, be working with a coach in some capacity AND be part of a community of like-minded people where I am held accountable…I stopped feeling like I was backtracking.

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