On Thursday I am opening the doors to my Inner Circle! This exclusive community is a way for you to receive consistent coaching, guidance and life tips from me. The number one reason I feel called to offer this program is because I see so many people take ten steps forward and then five steps back when it comes to personal growth.
I was the same way. I would do an awesome workshop or have an incredible session with my coach and feel AMAZING. And the epiphanies and changes I made would last for a while…sometimes even months.
But eventually I’d find myself backtracking, which was incredibly frustrating.
I finally stopped feeling like I was backtracking when I realized that change requires two main things: momentum and consistency.
Once I made a 100% commitment to always, yes ALWAYS, be working with a coach in some capacity AND be part of a community of like-minded people where I am held accountable…I stopped feeling like I was backtracking.
Last week in my women’s coaching circle, one of the women was sharing about a work situation and expressed that she “needs to work on being more confident.” She believed that she would be more respected in her company if she communicated like the other employees who she perceives as being more confident.
Can you relate? Are there situations in your life where you wish you felt more confident?
We have all had moments of mild to extreme self-consciousness where the feeling of confidence seems about as far away as Jupiter. Those awkward moments or instances where we feel judged by others often make us believe that we need to “work on” becoming more confident.
How have you “worked on” being more confident? Perhaps by taking public speaking classes? Rehearsing things you want to say in front a mirror? Getting a coach? Buying a new outfit?
While all those things are wonderful forms of self-support, feeling more confident actually takes way less effort. I explain in more detail in my vlog below, but here is the bottom line: the only reason that you do not feel confident is because you are judging yourself. Period. Really.
The instant you stop judging yourself and looking for all of the ways you should be more, better, or different you will experience confidence. You do NOT feel confident because you are not accepting yourself fully for who you are.
Money. What happens for you when you think about it? Do you feel relaxed and abundant? Or stressed, restricted, upset and anxious?
All of us have a relationship with money and it is important to have a healthy one since it is a necessary part of our lives. For those of us on a spiritual path, there can often be a misunderstanding that “money shouldn’t matter” but it does.
In my twenties, my relationship with money was unhealthy. I was in a lot of debt and “I can’t afford” was my go-to excuse for everything I wanted but did not have. I had a lot of limiting beliefs around having to work really hard for money and thought that my source of security lied in a steady paycheck. My fear around money was the #1 thing that kept me in a job I hated.
Healing my limiting beliefs around money was a big part of my personal development. I shifted everything about how I spend, save and even talk about money.
Is your relationship with money healthy, thriving and contributing positively to all aspects of your life?
We can have tons of judgments of ourselves if we can’t seem to get our finances together. Struggling with money can be a huge source of pain and continual stress. To get rid of all the baggage you have around your finances, you have to unpack your belief systems about money.
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing one of the BEST experts I know on how to update your beliefs so you can have a healthy and abundant relationship with money, my friend Kate Northrup. In this interview, we talked about her new book Money: A Love Story.
Kate shared that her story about getting out of debt by healing her relationship with money. Her big “aha” came when she realized her lack of financial awareness and prosperity was a direct reflection of how she kept herself small and did not love herself. She began to see that if she could marry financial awareness with self-love and taking care of herself. As she did so, she was empowered to take action steps and shifted all aspects of her life for the better. Her money love story is the inspiration for her amazing work today.
Take 30 minutes to watch this interview, it is an awesome investment!! Kate gives LOTS of practical tips.
Are you being a wee bit wimpy?
Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something?
Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you but you haven’t had the guts to ask them about it?
We’d rather suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw and vulnerable with another person. I too am guilty of wimping out in relationships and just mustered up the guts to rescue myself from playing it safe.