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EP 98: How Your Fear of Failure is Sabotaging Your Success with Lindsey

EP98v1This episode is about moving past your fears and getting over it and on with it. I coach today’s caller, Lindsey, on how to move from awareness to implementation. She knows the next steps to take but cannot figure out why she isn’t taking them. She thinks her problem is about time management, productivity, and balance but, as you will hear in the call, it’s not about that at all.

What do you think about failure? Imagine you fail, or you get a no, or your endeavor is a complete flop. What happens inside of you? What do you think and feel? Are you embarrassed?

A healthy relationship to failure is an essential ingredient to success. Failure is defined as lack of success. But defining success is more difficult because if success is learning something, growing, or having experiences that make us stronger and wiser, then we never really fail. In my opinion, the only way you fail is if you go into the hopeless, helpless victim mode.

Stop playing it safe just because you want to avoid failure. Instead of taking teeny, tiny baby steps, get out of your comfort zone, and jump in the pool so you can move forward.

You have to drop the guilt and give yourself permission to do what you want.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How are you at moving from awareness to implementation?
  • How do you feel about failure? What has been your biggest failure to date?
  • What steps do you know you should take, but don’t seem to be taking?

Lindsey’s Question:

Lindsey would like to know how to take action and use her time more wisely.

Lindsey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She lives in an Expectation Hangover.
  • She’s never made a step without having a plan in place.
  • She’s feeling paralysis from analysis.
  • The fear of change is holding her back.
  • There is a piece of her that remains unfulfilled.
  • She knows the status quo will lead to regret and remorse.
  • She has a fear that no one will want to work with her.
  • She feels guilty about her lack of focus.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should give herself permission to do what she wants to do.
  • She needs to take steps that don’t threaten her sense of security but are still out of her comfort zone.
  • She needs to write out the expectations she makes of herself and then create agreements with herself.

Takeaways:

  • Take a risk and let yourself fail.
  • Write down your expectations and then make agreements with yourself, and stick to them.
  • Give yourself permission to go for your dreams, even if it means failing.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com

Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life,
by Christine Hassler

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Coaches Corner: Untame Yourself with Elizabeth Dialto

podcast img new 800 x 800Are you ready to untame your soul?? That sounds really good doesn’t it? Or maybe it doesn’t – maybe it sounds terrifying.  Either way, I have one of my best friends and soul sisters here for you on Coaches Corner to talk about it.

Meet Elizabeth Dialto.  She is the founder of Wild Soul Movement.  Her mission is to build community, curate conversations, and create content, events, and experiences that turn your relationship with yourself into one of the most wild, passionate love affairs of your lifetime.

The Wild Soul Movement™ program provides a grounded and loving practice in self-discovery designed to get all parts of you in right relationship with each other. Elizabeth’s aim is to meet you where you are and guide you to where you want to be while always keeping primary focus on cultivating your trust and faith in the idea that everything you’ve ever needed has always been inside of YOU.

We talk about what the wild soul moment is about and Elizabeth shares how she learned to love herself and her body by stripping away everything that was preventing her from seeing what already was, and she is committed to help you do the same

I am personally taking this course and am a part of the WSM, you can join me at wildsoulmovement.com/christine

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EP 97: On-Again and Off-Again Relationships – Stop the Pattern of Breaking Up and Getting Back Together Again with Trinette

EP97v1 imageThis episode is about going back to a relationship even when you know it’s not what you want. Today’s caller, Trinette, is in a volatile relationship, but we uncover that it’s not about him but what he triggers in her.

Do these issues always go back to our parents? Not always. However, our formative years were when our mind programmed the belief systems that govern our current choices. It’s when most of our core wounds occurred because we didn’t have the tools or support to process them in a healthy way.

I don’t like to put labels on things, but I used the term codependent with Trinette to help her understand and relate. Codependency, when boiled down, is really a lack of a healthy sense of self. Codependent people get their self-worth from the approval of others or by taking on others as projects. They can also be people pleasers.

It is possible to heal codependency. Recognizing you are codependent means you are ready and willing to commit to having a healthy sense of self. The first step is to get out of the codependent relationship.

A healthy sense of self means we recognize that we are whole, lovable, and complete, and don’t “need” anyone. Relationships can be an expression of love and connection, rather than an attempt to fill the void.

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Also,  I am launching a relationship course called Get Over Your BreakUp and On With Love. It’s about healing your old issues and creating the love you want. The 1st 10 people who email Jill@ChristineHassler.com and tell her you want to be in the course will receive a 10% discount.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in an on again-off again relationship? Do you keep going back for more, even though it’s really not what you want?
  • Can you relate to not feeling unconditional love when you were growing up?
  • Do you experience anxiety or sadness when you are not in a relationship? Do you settle for unhealthy relationships?
  • When it comes to self-love and self-trust, can you admit you have room to grow?

Trinette’s Question:

Trinette would like to know why there is so much back-and-forth in her relationship.

Trinette’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She’s judgmental towards her boyfriend.
  • Sometimes her boyfriend gets physical.
  • She felt like her parents were immature.
  • She has a trust issue with love.
  • The relationship feels addictive to her.
  • She had to do many things on her own growing up.
  • She feels like she has been in survival mode her entire life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should acknowledge herself for recognizing the issue.
  • She needs to stop going back for more.
  • She needs to give love to herself.
  • She should research co-dependency.
  • She needs to make a choice about her relationship.
  • She needs to let go of the fear that she is like her mother.

Takeaways:

  • If you keep going in and out of a relationship you recognize as codependent, commit to choosing to get out of it.
  • Try these resources on codependency — Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More,  Pia Mellody’s Facing Codependence and Expectation Hangover.
  • Joining my Inner Circle membership community will give you both the tools and the support you need.
  • Forgive the parents who set up your codependent patterns. Write down everything they taught you. Even the things they taught you through contrast.

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@ChristineHassler.com

Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler

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EP 96: How the Changes You Make on the Inside Affect Your Outside World with Jenn

EP96v1This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Today’s caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes, and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way.

As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what we’re attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and it creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right.

As we shift consciousness our identity shifts, and as it does it can feel confusing, because our external life is not congruent with our internal life.

Just because you don’t have clarity about something, or something doesn’t feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesn’t mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Don’t rush to figure it out — allow it to be revealed.

To my Aussie Friends — My annual trip to Australia is slated for the first 2 weeks of October, 2017. I will make time for private intensives and possibly a personal growth retreat or mastermind for wellness entrepreneurs. If you are interested email Jill@ChristineHassler.com ASAP!

And as we are coming up on the 100th episode of this podcast, Over It and On With It has caught the attention of the PodcastOne network. It means exposure to a much larger audience, and access to advertisers who help pay production costs.  Yay! I’m hoping this allows me to add more coaching episodes. 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there some aspect of your life that doesn’t feel right, or just feels off?
  • Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life?
  • Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser?
  • Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen?

Jenn’s Question:

Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion towards her business. She wants to gain clarity around her coaching business.

Jenn’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had a falling out with her mother.
  • She was physically ill.
  • She internalizes her mother’s issues.
  • She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother.
  • She has always been there for others.
  • Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now.
  • She’s committed to getting out of her head.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should bring more of her own voice into her business.
  • She shouldn’t underestimate the value she brings to her clients.
  • For guidance, she should look at the way the people she appreciates share their stories.
  • She should share her emotional depths.

Action Steps:

  • Get Expectation Hangover if you don’t have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker.
  • Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life?
  • How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity?
  • Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty?

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Inner Circle Membership Community

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@christinehassler on Instagram

Jill@ChristineHassler.com

Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler

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