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EP 128: Manning Up and Breaking Free of Being a Rescuer with William

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This call is about embracing your true self and moving away from the savior role. Today’s caller, William, thought he was looking for clarity about his career decision but it was more about learning to embrace his masculinity.

Many men struggle with what masculinity means to them. I have compassion for the masculine. Recently, the masculine has gotten a bad rap. We have seen a lot of the shadow of masculine but I don’t think we have seen the light of masculine. We want to heal it and bring more of the healthy light of the masculine forward. We all have both masculine and feminine energies inside of us. It’s all about balance.

A lot of men have an experience with a scary, forceful masculine and it makes them aware that they don’t want to be that, so they delve more into the feminine. These men might start to lose their purpose. I have talked with women who want a man who is not a pleaser or passive. Someone who matches their strength. The light of the masculine can be forceful without being aggressive.

Listen to Stop Saving Others and Start Loving Yourself Ep. 128

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a career transition into something that feels like it is a deeper calling for you?
  • Have you healed a lot of aspects from your childhood but still feel a bit stuck?
  • Can you relate to being a savior?
  • If you are a man, how do you feel about being a man? What do you think your role should be? If you are a woman, how do you want men to show up in your life?

William’s Question:

William would like some clarity about a career decision.

William’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • He has work-related PTSD.
  • There were alcohol and drug abuses in his family.
  • He wants to be a savior to women.
  • He is asking for permission to move forward.
  • He feels men are aggressive.
  • He feels taken advantage of by women.
  • He wants to save women.
  • He has been looking for an identity.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • He should work on healing the divine masculine part of himself.
  • He should embrace his masculinity and not be afraid of his power.
  • He should move away from the extreme and bring his masculinity into balance.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Are you a rescuer? Do you relate to being a caretaker?
  • Growing up, what opinions did you form about being a man or a woman? Write out, ‘being a man means…’ or ‘being a woman means…’
  • Write, from a spiritual perspective, what being in the divine masculine and feminine means to you.
  • Get clear on your purpose and vision.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives, by Lewis Howes

David Deida Books

Allison Armstrong Resources

Tweetables:

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The masculine has gotten a bad rap lately. We need more men to step into masculinity.… Click To Tweet

Guardian angels help us when we ask. They are not enablers. http://apple.co/1hO8XZR… Click To Tweet

Coaches Corner: Get over your Valentine’s Day Expectation Hangover and fall more in love (with yourself and others)

Screen Shot 2017-09-18 at , Sep 18>10.40.25 AMChristine received a lot of messages from listeners who had Expectation Hangovers this Valentines Day. If you feel lonely, disappointed, heart-broken or just plain bitter about love, then listen up!

Christine talks about what self-love really is, how to not suffer over being single, and how to release expectations of your romantic partner.

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EP 127: Stop Saving Others and Start Loving Yourself with Alice

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This call is about being a people pleaser in an effort to connect with other people. Today’s caller, Alice, lives in the Savior archetype. She identifies with doing for others and taking care of others. People in the Savior archetype often end up sacrificing themselves and their time in “service” to others. But, is it really service when we are not making choices that support our own self-care?

Being a people pleaser empties our cup and gets in the way of our being able to serve at our highest potential. You do not need to attract love through people feeling bad for you and you don’t need a sob story to connect or to be valuable.

Making self-honoring choices is not selfish! You are not here to save anyone else. Life is all about connecting to and nourishing your own soul. Accept who you are, where you are and your path. Honor your soul’s path. Don’t let your past become your future.

I am in Australia until the end of February. If any of you Aussies would like a one-hour, four-hour or all day session with me contact Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

And, I have a new Coaches Corner episode with Marie Forleo to listen to about how to make an impact in the world by doing what you love.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you still carrying around your childhood trauma or your parent’s pain, fears, or belief systems?
  • Do you want to feel more connected and have better relationships in your life?
  • What is your relationship with trust like? Do you trust others? Do you trust yourself?
  • Do you like to take care of others so much so much so that you are better at it than you are of taking care of yourself?

Alice’s Question:

Alice wants to know how to move past her past traumas to have better relationships.

Alice’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She has a problem trusting other people, including friends.
  • She doesn’t share all of herself with other people.
  • She feels judged by her mother.
  • She is hard on herself.
  • She is working with a therapist.
  • She sees herself as damaged.
  • She comes from a pure place.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She shouldn’t internalize her mother’s judgments and fears.
  • She should stop thinking about herself as damaged and know she deserves love and connection.
  • She should research the Savior archetype.
  • She should get in touch with her own body.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Be honest about who you are trying to save. It’s time to bring the focus back to yourself.
  • Break generational patterns without any attachment to changing, teaching, or helping your parents.
  • Consider the Savior archetype. If it resonates with you look at you are trying to save yourself and/or get love through saving others.
  • Tell yourself things about yourself that are amazing. Own who you are and what we love about ourselves and tell others; it’s not bragging.

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Freshbooks is easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

Tweetables:

When we are disconnected from ourselves and judge ourselves harshly, it’s hard to build… Click To Tweet

When we heal ourselves, it can affect our past and future generational patterns.… Click To Tweet

Reverse the Golden Rule and do onto yourself what you would do to others.… Click To Tweet

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Coaches Corner: Christine answers listener questions about relationship and career

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In this episode of Coaches Corner, Christine opens her inbox and answers three emails from listeners.  Tune in for guidance on relationships, healing old wounds, and choosing a career path that lights up your soul!

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