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Coaches Corner: The Power of Different: The Link between Disorder and Genius with Dr. Gail Saltz

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In this timely and important episode, Christine talks to Dr. Gail Saltz, a leading psychiatrist and mental health advocate, about a myriad of mental health challenges and how we can treat them and help those we love who may be suffering.

Dr. Saltz is best known for her work as a relationship, family, emotional wellbeing, and mental health/wellness contributor in the media and frequently shares her expertise and advice in print, online, on television and radio. Her newest book, The Power of Different: The Link Between Disorder and Genius examines brain differences (i.e. ADD, learning disabilities, Bipolar, Autism, etc.) and the connection between the potential for great talent and conditions commonly thought to be disabilities. She reveals how the source of struggle can be the origin of greatest strengths, and shares inspiring stories of remarkable individuals whose very conditions that caused them to experience difficulty at school, in social situations, at home, or at work, are inextricably bound to creative, disciplinary, artistic, empathetic and cognitive abilities (including bestselling author John Irving, Albert Einstein, astrophysicist Mario Livio, David Sedaris, ABC News Anchor Dan Harris, Andrew Solomon, and more.) 

Dr. Saltz is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of medicine, a psychoanalyst with the New York Psychoanalytic Institute and has a private practice in Manhattan. 

 Connect with her here: https://drgailsaltz.com/

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144: When Your Past is Haunting Your Present with Rachel

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This call is about creating your future instead of reliving your past. Today’s caller, Rachel, has a deep fear of loss. When her husband cheated on her, she felt as though she forgave him but she is having trouble getting over it and on with the life she wants.

Usually when there is cheating the person who has been cheated on blames themselves or wonders what they did wrong. Anyone who has been cheated on has done nothing wrong. Choose to let go, accept that it happened, let it go, heal the past and create the future you desire.

Anything you are thinking about SO much that you feel a payoff just from thinking about it, I encourage you to get the payoff in a different, more supportive way. Instead, think about a goal or experience that lights you up. Choose to let it go so you can enjoy the present and create your future rather than reliving your past.

For example, If you keep thinking about a mistake you made instead of beating yourself up over and over again, think about how you will apply the lessons you learned to a future event.

Not allowing ourselves to go backward requires conscious discipline. We cannot just feel our feelings and forget about it. We have to be committed to shifting our thoughts.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there something from your past you feel have forgiven and gotten over but you continue to think about it?
  • Are there things from your past you haven’t dealt with so they haunt your present?
  • Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
  • Have people in your life died or abandoned you in some way that you fear loss so much it impacts your ability to open your heart to love?

Rachel’s Question:

Rachel wants to get over the pain of adultery and on with her relationship.

Rachel’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • Her husband cheated.
  • She hasn’t forgiven herself.
  • She sweeps things under the rug.
  • She lost many people in her life.
  • She’s comfortable being sad and scared.
  • She had a codependent relationship with her mother.
  • She lacks a sense of self.
  • She was in denial about her mother’s death.
  • She projects her issues on to her girls.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to work with a professional or coach to work through her issues.
  • She should attend my Signature Retreat in the Spring of 2019.
  • She should read Expectation Hangover.
  • She needs to love and forgive herself.

Assignments For You:

  • If there is something you are stuck on write in your journal using the sentence starter ‘This reminds me of…’ and ‘I’ve felt like this before’ to see what memories come up.
  • If you have a lot of emotion coming up that you are having a hard time managing get some help. Don’t let money be the reason you don’t get help.
  • If you are feeling triggered or can’t get over something, Expectation Hangover is the holistic way to get over any type of disappointment.
  • If you are in the sadness or victim zone, bring more fun and pleasure into your life.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Expectation Hangover

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

Suicide Prevention Lifeline — 800-273-TALK (8255)

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Coaches Corner: Why is growth painful?

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Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth.

https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-pleasure-in-your-life/

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EP 143: Step Off the Codependent Path and Break Generational Patterns with Sandie

 

TEP143his call is about struggling with a decision and breaking free of unhealthy patterns. Today’s caller, Sandie, knows what she should do but needs validation that the choice is the right one for her. My coaching to her covers codependency, overcoming addictions and breaking generational patterns.

Until we heal what has hurt us in our childhoods we look for people who remind us of the parent that hurt us the most. We keep going to the same well, with a different face, hoping that finally there will be water in it instead of healing our core issues, loving ourselves and breaking the pattern.

And, sometimes when a child grows up with a single parent the child grows up more quickly and becomes a kind of surrogate spouse to the single parent. Then, part of the child’s identity is to be in a relationship as a caretaker which can lead to codependency.

A lot of us struggle with accepting the good things that come to us. The universe opens a door but walking through it means leaving something or someone else behind.

When you are delivering the truth with love, if the receiving person gets upset, it is their responsibility. Oftentimes, the most loving choice is the honest choice. Loving someone doesn’t mean placating them. Loving someone doesn’t mean staying in a situation that is not good for you because you don’t want to hurt the other person. Often, the decisions that hurt people the most truly help them the most.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you at a crossroads? Are there decisions you are struggling with?
  • Do you not want to repeat the lives of your parents but you see yourself going down a similar path?
  • Can you identify with being a little codependent? Where you enmeshed with one of your parents?
  • Was one of your parents an addict?
  • Are you currently in a relationship with an addict?

Sandie’s Question:

Sandie feels that she is at a crossroads in her life and would like to know if she should follow a job opportunity.

Sandie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is in a relationship with an older man who is an addict.
  • Her father is a severe alcoholic.
  • She never felt loved by her father.
  • She has an offer for a new job.
  • She doesn’t want to follow in her mother’s footsteps.
  • She feels responsible for other people’s feelings.
  • She’s codependent.
  • She always wanted her dad to change.
  • She knew the right thing for her all along.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should say yes to the opportunity to get out of her current situation.
  • She should go to Al-Anon.
  • She needs to get a counselor.
  • She should take a break from dating for one year.
  • She needs to write out what her life will look like if she continues down her current path.

Assignments For You:

  • If you have been or are currently in a relationship with an addict I recommend Al-Anon.
  • If you are coming out of a relationship I encourage you not to date for a while. Get to know yourself.
  • If you have a big decision don’t wait until you feel ready.
  • If you are scared about something imagine a worst-case future scenario.
  • If you are at a crossroads and you don’t know what to do, seek the advice of a professional.
  • If someone in your life says they will change but never do, it might be time for you to make some changes.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine’s Books

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

How to Protect Your Energy Vlog & Blog Post

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