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EP 134: How to Get An Ex Out of Your Head with Andrea

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This call is about is about reconnecting with our younger self and practicing real self-love. Today’s caller, Andrea, can’t get a guy out of her head. Is she following a pattern that started in her childhood?

If an ex is still taking up real estate within your head it’s probably not the person. There is something deeper within you that is begging for your attention and love.

In a relationship, we have to use discernment to know what is really a deep connection. Oftentimes, what we think is a deep connection is really infatuation and a positive projection. When we are getting to know someone we need to take off the rose-colored glasses. If you are feeling a deep connection to another person make sure you are also feeling a deep connection to yourself. Don’t get lost in the hormones of infatuation.

We must connect to the parts of us we have shamed or disowned and commit to having a more loving, nurturing relationship with ourselves.

Sometimes, we are scared of our own emotions but what about vulnerability? We don’t have to power through our emotions. It’s not weak to be vulnerable. It doesn’t make us a victim. Being vulnerable is incredibly courageous and powerful. Go slow, be with your emotions and be compassionate. So many of our emotions in our adult life stem from our childhood stuff. If we continue to power through our emotions we attract experiences that try to trigger them so we can finally feel them.

Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in Sydney, Australia on April 14th & 15th to fast-track the success of your coaching business. Visit Christine’s Master Class for more information. I am also holding a one-day Women’s Retreat for 10 women on April 13, 2018, in Bondi Beach. It’s a condensed version of my signature retreat. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Is there an ex or anyone else that you have had a difficult relationship with and you can’t get them out of your head?
  • Do you have the same kind of relationship patterns and the same results in relationships?
  • When you were younger did you often feel bullied, duped, left out, or isolated?
  • When you try to connect to younger parts of yourself do you feel silly? Do you find it hard? Is it difficult for you to do?

Andrea’s Question:

Andrea is looking for guidance as she tries to get an ex out of her head.

Andrea’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She hadn’t connected with someone so deeply before.
  • She is looking for someone to grow with her.
  • She doesn’t feel worthy of love.
  • She was bullied as a kid.
  • She judges herself.
  • She feels disconnected from her younger self.
  • She is nourishing her body with food instead of overeating.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She needs to nurture her younger self and tell her that she is capable of being loved.
  • She needs to reconnect with the part of her that feels ashamed and alone.
  • She should stop dating for a while.
  • She should attend a Mastery course.
  • She should check in with her little girl every day.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Start a communication with the younger parts of yourself. Get a picture and talk and write to yourself.
  • Take a pause from dating or doing things that reinforce the pattern that you want to break.
  • If you can’t get over an ex, see it as an alarm that triggers you to pay attention to yourself.
  • Sign up for my Mastery class coming up in May.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

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Let’s RISE together!

I love that I can connect with you via these emails, through my podcast and mastery course, and over social media. The internet gives us an amazing platform to interact and share with each other.

But there’s something MUCH more powerful than online…

… discover true, deep connection OFFLINE!

In our fast paced digital society, we are becoming more and more disconnected by the day. While technology gives us SO many benefits, this is one of its unfortunate downfalls.

I saw this at my last retreat a couple weekends ago. The women there were craving the kind of soul family bonding that can only happen when we are actually physically present with each other, and therefore the healing they received from being together, was extraordinary.

This is why I want to personally invite you to join me IN PERSON for an exclusive opportunity!!

I am so excited to announce that I will be speaking on stage in front of thousands of women at Danette May’s event called THE RISE.

Go here to learn more about The Rise now.

And as a member of my community, you are eligible for a special discount off the regular priced tickets! :)

During this 2 day experience, you’ll join thousands of other women as you connect, bond and grow together. You’ll gain access to some of the most impactful and powerful women I know. You’ll have the chance to be a part of something that unites us all, helping you step into more self love, uncover your full potential, and draw out the fullest expression of your true authentic self. 

Go here to learn more about The Rise now.

This will be like nothing you’ve ever seen before. I’ll be sharing some AMAZING tools and insights on stage that I have never shared before so I would love to have you there! Plus, I am super pumped because I will also be coaching from the stage!

Make sure to get your ticket NOW while the discounted price is still available and before the event sells out!

So here’s what to do next…

Go here to learn more and register your ticket.

I cannot wait to see you in person and RISE together! :)

Much love,

Christine

p.s. I am headed back to Australia!! On April 14-15th I am teaching a workshop for coaches, therapists, personal trainers, and anyone who wants to build a business in the personal growth field. It is with Primal Health Coach but open to ALL fields. Limited spacing so go here to register. If you are not interested in this training, but are interested in a one day women’s retreat I am doing or one-on-one sessions with me, email jill@christinehassler.com.

p.p.s. We can all benefit from more self-love, so don’t miss this week’s Coaches Corner Podcast where I talk about the many ways to bring more self-love into our lives. Listen here.

EP 132: Removing Obstacles and Building Your Business with Katie

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This call is about identifying and overcoming the blocks to help you step fully into your business. Today’s caller, Katie, wants to know how to overcome the fear and perfectionism that is blocking her from building her new Life Coaching business.

We discuss the root of the fear that is holding her back because it doesn’t matter how big our vision is, we can’t bypass our fears until we heal the root of the fear.

Coaches and people on a personal growth path with a lot of awareness tend to judge themselves harshly because they feel they should know better. It’s important to let go of the pressure and be tender with ourselves.

When self-love has high stakes, it’s hard to get momentum because we are protecting ourselves from ourselves. We sabotage ourselves because we are afraid to move forward and fail in any way. We should accept ourselves where we are now, change our internal dialogue, and allow our internal perfectionist to calm down.

Tell your inner perfectionist it is OK to be vulnerable. You don’t have to be perfect. Invest in yourself. Be your own best client and come together with your tribe.

To build a soul tribe you need these elements:

  • A coach or healers to provide guidance and support who coach you in a healthy way.
  • Mentors to go to for advice and encouragement.
  • Peers and a support team to ask for help, to celebrate with, and if need be, cry on their shoulders.
  • People to serve and give back to.

Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in Sydney, Australia in October to fast-track the success of your coaching business. Visit Christine’s Master Class for more information.

I am also holding a one-day Women’s Retreat for 10 women on April 13, 2018, in Sydney. It’s a condensed version of my signature retreat. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

And, all Coaches and Therapists can join me on June 30 and July 1st in San Diego for a workshop designed to assist both experienced and new coaches to take their coaching business to the next level. Email Jill@ChristineHassler for more information or visit Coach Training.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you want to start a new business or make a change but feel blocked by fear?
  • Do you relate to being a perfectionist?
  • Were you raised by a parent who had high expectations of you and now you internalize those expectations?
  • Do you feel connected to and supported by a soul tribe you can be yourself and completely vulnerable with?

Katie’s Question:

Katie wants help to move past her fear and create the business she’s always wanted.

Katie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has a vision but fears moving forward.
  • She comes from an immigrant background.
  • She was taught to play it safe.
  • She is protecting herself from herself.
  • She desires the support and encouragement of her mother.
  • Her mother placed high expectations on her.
  • She experienced and was taught scarcity.
  • She was taught not to be weak.
  • Her perfectionism has served her and protected her.
  • She wants to tap into her spirituality.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should have compassion for herself.
  • She needs to build her soul family to support her.
  • She should flex her receiving muscle.
  • She needs to find a new source of motivation.
  • She should set up two chairs and coach herself as she would a client.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Don’t make your perfectionist wrong. Look at how it has served you.
  • What is the fuel that drives your motivation? Inspiration and your why is better than expectations and perfectionism.
  • Write out the way you want to mother, father, or coach yourself. You need the voice of a loving coach inside.
  • Build your soul family.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

Coaches Corner: Lessons on Self-Love

Tweetables:

Coaches can sabotage their careers when they are out of integrity. http://apple.co/1hO8XZR… Click To Tweet

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Coaches, the best way to serve people is to be your own best client. http://apple.co/1hO8XZR… Click To Tweet

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Coaches Corner: Lessons on Self-Love

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We all know self-love is incredibly important but what does it mean and how do you do it?

Listen in for a Coaches Corner where Christine discusses a way to practice and understand self-love.

Attend one of Christine’s upcoming trainings either in Sydney, Australia or San Diego, CA

Sydney event:

https://www.primalhealthcoach.com/sydney-masterclass-2/

San Diego event: 

 http://christinehassler.com/coachtraining/

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