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How to feel more confident

“How do I feel more confident?”

This is one of the most common questions I get as a coach. Self-doubt and criticism seem to be as common as breathing.  We know it’s painful to doubt and criticize ourselves but we still seem to do it.

So how do we change it? How do we feel more confident?  These are the questions I answer in this week’s podcast.

Developing confidence requires a combo of inner and outer shifts. On the inner level confidence comes from radical self-acceptance.  That means letting go of perfectionism and caring about what other people think of you.  It means not making your acceptance conditional upon achieving a certain goal, losing a certain amount of weight or having the approval or acceptance from someone else.  It means really getting that NO ONE is perfect. I repeat NO ONE!

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We all can overcome this…

We all go through times when we are addicted to something. Some obvious ones are drugs, alcohol, money, sex and food. But there are less obvious addictions that are important to be aware of like control, negative thinking, self-doubt, escaping through things like travel, and even over-achieving. Addictions of all kinds give us a false sense of freedom. For a moment, the high or distraction we get feels liberating because it frees us from feeling things we don’t want to feel. Addictions may offer the appearance of freedom, but only aligning our actions to what truly feeds our body, mind, heart and spirit offers true liberation.

Having the courage to face and take steps to break free from addiction and addictive behavior catapults our personal growth in tremendous ways. Some of the wisest teachers I know have overcome addiction and now use what they have learned to serve others.

One of these teaches is Tommy Rosen, my friend and someone who I deeply respect for sharing so vulnerably about his 20+ year story of recovery from drugs and alcohol. He is also someone who is shining light on the more subtle addictions I mentioned above.

Tommy invited me to be a speaker in his Recovery 2.0 conference and share my addiction and recovery story. In our interview, I speak openly about my journey through depression and healing my 20 year addiction to prescription medication. Please join me and 35 other addiction and recovery teachers for a life-changing online conference dedicated to giving people the best wisdom on addiction and recovery available for FREE:

Recovery 2.0: Beyond Addiction

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