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How to better handle stress

Stress. I do not know anyone that does not experience it. Some of us deal with it daily, while for others it is more situational. No matter how or where stress shows up, it is never good for us yet we have become used to it and possibly even a bit addicted to it.

The thing is that stress is a motivator. It pushes us to get things done. It is also very acceptable in our society. If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say, “I am so busy” or “I am so stressed,” I would have a lot of nickels! 

If you relate to saying these statements, please STOP. You do not want to follow “I am” with things you do not want because it just reinforces it and attracts it to you. 

Stress wreaks havoc on our body, mind, and spirit. It jacks up our cortisol, throws off our hormones, taxes our digestion and disconnects us from our intuition during the times we need it most. 

I know you know that stress is not good for you. So how do you de-stress? Does it require a trip to the Bahamas? No…not at all. Actually a vacation is more an escapism tactic than an actual cure for stress. 

Here’s what does help: a daily meditation practice, breathing, decreasing sugar and caffeine, saying no, delegating, bringing yourself consistently back to the present moment, time blocking, stopping procrastination, ditching perfectionism, and time in nature.   

But sometimes even implementing all of the above does not alleviate our stress because we have not dealt with the core issue of what the stress is TRULY about.

Your stress is not coming from your job, your kids, your partner, your finances or your health. Your stress is coming from how you relate to the circumstances of your life

What I have discovered in my own life and after 13 years of coaching others is that limiting beliefs and old patterns from our past are what perpetuate stress more than anything else. An example will make this more clear. Growing up I had health issues and was also bullied. These things created the limiting beliefs that There is something wrong with my body and People do not like me. Because of these BS beliefs, I was consistently on alert for something to go wrong physically and really self-conscious about how I interacted in the world and how I was perceived. Can you see how this would create stress in my life?

Life can be challenging and there are plenty of invitations to create stress so when we do not get to the core of how and why we relate to our life in a stress-producing way, we will never feel relief.

If you are having trouble wrapping your mind around what I am saying, don’t stress about it!! This week’s podcast, where I coach Adam, will help you make sense of this and offer you some insight into what perpetuates stress in your life. 

Adam calls in asking how he can better handle his stress over not getting multiple promotions at work. Although we start with some action steps he can take to reduce stress, I felt like we had not gotten to the core issue of why this stress was showing up and why he was not being promoted.

What we discovered is that a big cause of his self-imposed stress comes from being raised in a strict household where he constantly felt as if he had to be “good” and that he was never living up to other’s expectations. This is a powerful episode that really ramps up half-way through so be sure not to miss it.

Go here to listen to episode 125 

I hope this episode serves you well by illuminating some BS beliefs that have created stress-producing patterns of behavior in your life and effect the way you relate to the world. What is so great about getting to the core issue of what creates a stress-response in your body is that you can then shift it!!!

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EP 125: Dealing with Stress at Work with Adam


This call is about a lack of connection. Adam calls in wanting to know how to deal with the stress he feels from not advancing in his work but as you will hear in the call, it’s more about him standing up for himself and asking for what he wants.

People who are raised in a strict household try to blend in because they are afraid of getting yelled at. Blending in is the safe thing to do as a child but as adults, and especially if one wants to get promoted, we need to stand out and to feel safe being seen.

Issues in our lives don’t randomly show up. A holistic approach to our physical, mental and emotional health is so important. The same with dealing with any kind of disappointment or expectation hangover. Our bodies speak to us. The body is a messenger and physical ailments can give us insight into what our emotional body — our subconscious body — is telling us.

On the emotional level, the heart, and the blood it pumps, represents love and joy and our early connections to family. People with heart problems usually have unresolved family issues that take the joy and love out of their lives. These issues might keep love and joy from entering their lives because they are afraid to let love in. Closing our heart to love is very symbolic of shutting off the flow of life to our heart.

“Affirm: I open my heart to love! My heart is now lovingly pumping joy throughout my body! All is well and I am safe.” —Mind-Body Connection Affirmation by Louise Hay

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel connected to yourself and others when it comes to your work life or life in general?
  • Are you stressed out at work but not really making any changes?
  • Are you up for a promotion or unhappy at work?
  • Are you a play-by-the-rules-don’t-ruffle-any-feathers kind of person? Can you see how it may be limiting you?

Adam’s Question:

Adam wants to know how to deal with the stress of his work after being denied a promotion.

Adam’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He’s become a loner and shares less with other people.
  • He doesn’t feel he can progress within the company he works for.
  • He was raised in a strict military-like environment.
  • He is playing out his childhood in his adult life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He should have a conversation with managers within his organization about how his goals align with the company’s goals.
  • He should acknowledge himself and give himself the encouragement he didn’t get as a child.

Action Steps:

  • Ask for what you want, stop playing by the rules and go for it! Think about how you were raised and how it may be impacting how you show up as an adult.
  • Be connected to yourself, to others, and to your higher power.
  • Take care of your heart. Let love in. Read Expectation Hangover, find a therapist or coach and enroll in my mastery program, which will be accepting enrollment soon.


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Coaches Corner: Get over perfectionism and over-preparing!!

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Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it.

Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?

On top of that did your perfectionist start to kick in – like you kept tweaking and editing and trying to make it better?

Where is the line between healthy preparation and perfectionism/obsessing?

That’s exactly what Christine covers in this quickie episode of Coaches Corner.

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My best tips reducing anxiety

I love this quote from Wayne Dyer:

There is no stress in the world, only people thinking stressful thoughts.

You probably get that intellectually but life sure can feel stressful especially when are our to do lists are endless or we are experiencing some kind of expectation hangover.

One of the chief complaints I hear from people is that they are stressed out which creates anxiety.   Anxiety is a terrible feeling to have. It revs up our nervous system, puts stress on our body and disconnects us from our intuition.

To help you release anxiety and reduce the amount you think stressful thoughts, I made you a video sharing my best de-stressing techniques.

Keep this core principle in mind: you will only feel anxiety when your thoughts are in the future.  The best way to reduce stress in your life is to keep yourself in the present moment as much as possible.  And if your mind does wander to the future, at least make what you are thinking about a best-case scenario!  Creating worst-case scenarios with worry is using your imagination poorly.  Keep your thoughts positive and supportive.

In the video, I teach you a little about your brain and the fight or flight response that gets activated whenever we feel stress.  I share some physical practices you can do anytime you feel anxiety to calm your nervous system down so your brain stops creating stress hormones.

I hope you find these tools useful. Please head over to the blog and share your comments, questions or de-stressing techniques with me. I love hearing from you!

And remember: There is no stress, there are only stressful thoughts.  ((Tweet this!!))


p.s.  Having a solid support system and like-minded tribe is a great way to reduce anxiety and stress because you have a place to vent, receive compassion and guidance. That is one of the main intentions of my Inner Circle membership community. It is a safe space to for you to share and get helpful tools to navigate any stress in your life.  Learn more here or email jill@christinehassler.com to set up a call and discover if Inner Circle is right for you.