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EP 120: Breaking Up with Sugar and Finding Lasting Sweetness with Marina

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This episode is about finding the true sweetness in life. Today’s caller, Marina, feels like she is stuck, especially when it comes to resisting sugar and taking care of her body. As you will hear in the call, It’s not actually sugar she is craving.

We don’t overcome our eating patterns with discipline alone. There is no one diet or one book that fixes it. Usually, there is a deeper issue at play that goes back to our childhood.

When it comes to dealing with any kind of food addiction or self-sabotaging behavior when it comes to food or exercise it is important we get to the root of the issue and get support to start building new healthy habits.

Most people try to change themselves because they want to get away from something. It may get them to a certain point but it is depleting because it employs criticism and restriction. This ‘moving away from’ motivation triggers your inner rebel which is why it usually doesn’t work.

Having ‘toward’ motivation is becoming a disciple and having a loving following of the thing you are moving toward, like your health and well being.

I find, people who crave sugar didn’t have a lot of sweetness or nurturing growing up. They internalize an overly critical or controlling parent or they use self-criticism as a motivator. Sweetness and nurturing is something we humans need. If you weren’t soothed as a child food can become a soothing strategy. Give yourself the sweetness and nurturing you may not have gotten growing up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel stuck or like you are sabotaging yourself in some area of your life?
  • Do you have a sugar or food addiction?
  • Are you hard on yourself especially when judging yourself as lazy or lacking self-discipline?
  • Did you grow up with a lot of sweetness and nurturing in your life?

Marina’s Question:

Marina feels limited in her ability to be happy and that she lacks discipline.

Marina’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has created self-supportive habits for herself.
  • She breaks agreements with herself when it comes to food and exercise.
  • She has an emotional craving for sweetness.
  • She grew up with fear and criticism as motivators.
  • She is a rebelling against herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should speak kindly to herself when feels stressed.
  • She should soothe herself with something else.
  • She should do grief work around what she wanted from her parents and be a loving parent to herself.
  • She should find a way to do things without them feeling oppressive.
  • She should research her blood sugar levels.

Takeaways:

  • Don’t try to beat your sugar addiction with willpower alone.
  • If you feel stuck in any aspect of your life become a disciple and find your ‘toward motivation’ to get what you want.
  • Find ways to be sweet to yourself and self-soothe.
  • Write an ‘I wish’ letter to your parents and then use it to give yourself the gift of inner sweetness.

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EP 119: Breaking Free of Your Role in Your Family with Jenna

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The essence of today’s episode is about breaking free of the roles we play in our families. Today’s caller, Jenna, is not stepping into her potential — specifically her financial potential — because she is still playing the role in her family that she played as a child and teenager. She wants to make sure everyone else is okay and it is holding her back.

Many of us deal with the same issue as we individuate and become adults. There is a certain way we fit into our family to get safety, security, and love. When we start to have success and abundance, there is a part of us that feels like we are unworthy or unsafe. This is what I call an Upper Limits problem.

We often stop ourselves from moving forward because we are so concerned about what other people think. If you think your success comes at the risk of someone else not getting it, feeling small, or not understanding, you will keep getting in your own way. If you value fitting in and protecting your role over living your dreams, you may need to shift.

Sometimes your very existence may trigger someone. If other people in your family are suffering that is their choice. If they are making choices that make them unhappy it is not your job to suffer with them. Break free of the role of carrying your family’s burdens. Break free of trying to make everyone understand you.

You cannot see your vision clearly or see your full potential clearly if you are watching and managing how people are reacting to what you are doing. Know that trying to make other people feel comfortable at the same time as living into your full potential is impossible. It is your job to fulfill your mission.

If you resonated with this episode go back and listen to my coaching call #113 with Sarah about shining your light.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • How are you getting in your own way? How are you sabotaging your own success, specifically financially?
  • What role did you play in your family? What did you do to fit in, to please everyone else to keep yourself safe?
  • How is that role potentially holding you back at this point in your life?
  • Is there a part of you who is afraid to step into your full potential? Are you playing small because you don’t want to make other people feel small?

Jenna’s Question:

Jenna would like to become a bigger version of herself but feels something always pulls her back. She would like to uplevel her yoga business.

Jenna’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She is keeping herself small to make other people comfortable.
  • She was a caretaker in her family.
  • She felt embarrassed by her ambitions.
  • She didn’t want to make others feel small.
  • She feels successful even with financial challenges.
  • It’s okay for her to share herself with confidence even if it triggers other people.
  • If she doesn’t shift she may end up resenting people.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should write letters she doesn’t intend to mail, to cut the energetic cords to family members.
  • She should realize people are capable of handling their own experience.
  • She should write down some new beliefs.
  • She should turn her efforts inward to help her and her little girl make her dreams come true.

Takeaways:

  • Write a letter to the people you feel you will upset without mailing it.
  • Visualize and practice yourself looking forward, not backward.
  • Write a list of your competing intentions. Get fully aligned with the intentions that put you where you want to go and accept that you can’t make everyone happy.
  • Consider how the role you played in your family is impacting your life right now and journal your thoughts. What is your new role?

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Coaches Corner: The difference between triggers and preferences and it’s 11/11

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It’s 11/11 – do you know the significance of that number? Listen to find out!

In this Coaches Corner Christine also teaches the difference between a trigger or issue based choice and a preference.  She empowers you to honor who you are and what you like and let go of FOMO.

She then shares some great take-away’s from top speakers like Brene Brown, Jane Fonda, Shonda Rhimes and Marianne Williamson that she just heard speak at a big event.

Christine reveals one of her preferences when it comes to massive crowds and events that may help you feel more like yourself the next time you are in a social situation.

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