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EP 141: Trust Yourself and Stop Going to Other People for Advice with Lorin

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This call is about is about how to use your anxiety as an alarm system.Today’s caller, Lorin, asks how she can start thriving instead of surviving at work but what we discover together is that her ability to thrive has more to do with her ability to trust and listen to herself.

If you suffer from any type of anxiety this call will be helpful because I teach Lorin not to minimize her feelings and to use them as her personal alarm system.

We all start out being internally referenced, being totally connected to our own intuition, and then something pulls us out. We become externally referenced and that becomes what we are fluent in, which is what other people think of us and our desire to please others. We need to relearn how to become fluent in being internally referenced and trusting ourselves.

People-pleasing is over-caring about what others think, lacking a sense of self and a lack of self-trust. Along with a loss of sense of self, comes anxiety and trouble with making decisions.

And, when you are in a relationship with God or Spirit, it’s more than just praying for things and being grateful. Having that relationship makes it easier to trust yourself. It’s easier to become internally referenced when you have the universe to turn to for the answers.

*Coaches — It is important to ask a lot of questions before you start offering any kind of guidance or solution, or to pull out any tool you have to work with the client on the problem they are presenting. Too many coaches put pressure on themselves to fix a problem before getting enough information.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you are merely surviving rather than thriving?
  • Can you relate to being a people-pleaser?
  • Is feeling anxious on a REGULAR basis something you struggle with?
  • Do often run to others for their advice because you have trouble making decisions on your own?

Lorin’s Question:

Lorin wants to know how she can start thriving, instead of surviving in her career.

Lorin’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has dealt with anxiety through much of her life.
  • She lost a sister early in her life.
  • She thinks she’s codependent.
  • She puts a lot of labels on herself.
  • She’s a people-pleaser.
  • Her anxiety is an internal alarm.
  • She gives her power away.
  • She’s been trying to get rid of her anxiety instead of using it.
  • She is missing a connection to spirit [God].

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to give herself permission to start looking for another job.
  • She needs to start working with her anxiety.
  • She needs to start taking action without asking other people first.
  • She needs to find her connection or reconnect with God.

Assignments For You:

  • If you experience anxiety use it as your alert system.
  • If you are externally referenced, use a meditation to pull your energy back inward.
  • If you are dealing with a job you don’t like, give yourself permission to look for something more aligned and do your best to get in acceptance of your current job.
  • If you are a people-pleaser, use your intuition toward yourself rather than others and be more selfish.
  • Flex your decision-making muscle. Make decisions 100% on your own and trust yourself.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine’s Movement and Alignment Blog Post

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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“EP 138: Finding Yourself Again After Years of Being Lost with Stacy”

“EP 140: Overcoming the Fear of Loss with Tom”

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EP 139: Develop the Self-Trust to Launch Your Business with Frantzces

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This call is about is about self-trust and overcoming imposter syndrome. Today’s caller, Frantzces, wants guidance around starting her coaching business but we dive deeper into her limiting beliefs and the fear that keeps her from trusting others. This call offers insights even for those who do not want to be a coach or entrepreneur.

It is hard to attract the right kind of people into our lives if we are skeptical of people in general. If you grew up hearing ‘don’t trust people,’ you need to re-frame the belief and affirm that you can trust people. The key to knowing who to trust is trusting yourself. It all begins with self-trust.

Many of us come up against the imposter syndrome or doubting ourselves. The imposter syndrome is when we aren’t doing for ourselves what we are doing for other people. Walking the talk and practicing what we preach doesn’t mean we have it all figured out; it means we practice the principles we teach. That is how integration happens.

If you identify with this call, as soon as you start doing the work, trusting yourself, and investing in a coach, the imposter syndrome will go away. Get a coach, deal, heal and go for your dreams.

Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. There are only 10 spaces left. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you want to start a coaching practice?
  • Do you have a coach of your own?
  • Do you have a group of people you feel close to and connected with that you trust?
  • Did you grow up in an environment where you were told not to trust other people or, you didn’t feel safe at home?
  • Do you ever suffer from imposter syndrome?

Frantzces’ Question:

Frantzces wants to start a coaching practice but is struggling with feeling like an imposter.

Frantzces’ Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She has difficulty focusing on what she wants.
  • She has a limiting belief that there aren’t people she can trust.
  • She doesn’t let people get too close.
  • She has a background in psychology.
  • She wants to be the person who walks the talk.
  • She was afraid to speak up as a child.
  • She let herself be seen at the Signature Retreat.
  • She’s ready to find her teacher/coach.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to ask her higher wisdom to guide her toward the right coach.
  • She should allow herself receive love and healing.
  • She needs to nurture herself through self-care.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show

The Lady Gang Podcast on Podcast One

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EP 122: Stop Doubting Your Choice to End a Relationship with Daniella

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This episode is about relationships. If you are in a relationship that isn’t healthy, has reached its expiration date, or no longer serves you, this episode will help you gain clarity to your situation and emancipate you from your relationship. Today’s caller, Daniella, is finding it difficult to break free from an issue-based relationship. 

Learning to trust your intuition will help you to have relationships that are based on love and shared values. Your intuition will always know the answer but your hormones get in the way, especially in issue-based relationships.

You must separate love and lust to find the true intimacy. Love isn’t volatile and it doesn’t include lying. A healthy relationship doesn’t create anxiety or doubt.

We bring these relationships into our lives to show us a part of our life we need to heal.

Consider the difference between short-term discomfort and prolonged suffering in your life. Sometimes we need a little tough love to get us out of an unhealthy relationship so we can move to the healthy relationships and have true love inside ourselves and with another.

 I am headed to Australia. If you would like to be part of a half-day intensive, a session with me or life coach training, email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a relationship you are doubting? Have you had a recent breakup and are doubting the choice?
  • Do you tend to fall in love with potential and see more of the fantasy than the reality of who a person really is?
  • Do you tend to believe a person’s words and promises more than their actions and behaviors?
  • How is your current relationship with yourself? Are you kind, generous and loving with yourself? Do you trust yourself?

Daniella’s Question:

Daniella has trouble ending relationships even when she knows they are not healthy.

Daniella’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She felt like a misfit in high school.
  • She may be confusing love with infatuation.
  • She has low self-worth and low self-confidence.
  • She’s in an issue-based relationship.
  • She deserves better relationships.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to see her relationship for what it is.
  • She should look at what this relationship is teaching her.
  • She should write a letter to announce she is not interested in getting back together.
  • She needs to work on getting closure on her own.
  • She should look at how she loves herself and treats herself.
  • She should work through the exercises in Expectation Hangover. 

Action Steps:

  • Get honest about your relationships. Make sure someone’s words and behaviors match.
  • If you know a relationship has reached its expiration date, get closure and have boundaries.
  • Use these sentence starters to write a free-form letter you don’t intend to send:
    • Dear (name) I am saying goodbye to you because…
    • Thank you for…
    • I learned from you…
    • I forgive you for…
    • I forgive myself for…

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Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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EP 117: Moving From Awareness About Your Issues to Actually Making Changes with Natalie

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This episode is about moving from awareness to integration. Today’s caller, Natalie, has been on the path of personal growth for two years but is finding it difficult to integrate her new awareness and make real change happen in her life.

Awareness is great but it’s only a step to actually making changes in our lives. We have to take awareness and shift it into changes — changes in the way we think, changes in the way we react and process our feelings, changes in our behavior. And, not from the perspective that there is anything wrong with us or that we are broken but from ‘what am I going to do with this awareness now that I have it?’

Trusting yourself is very important. You must stop doubting yourself and stop breaking your word with yourself in terms of commitments and self-care. If you do, consciously re-negotiate with yourself. When we don’t have self-trust it is torture. We agonize over a decision and we search for someone ‘out there’ to give us the answer or make us feel safe. No one else can do it. It is an inside job.

Be sure to check out this weekend’s Coaches Corner! I will be addressing ghosting and flaky behavior.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you find it challenging to move from awareness to integration?
  • Do you have a parent who has been absent in some way? A divorce, death, emotional unavailability and you sense it could be affecting your current relationships?
  • Can you relate to the feeling of being anxious in a relationship because of a fear that a person may leave and stop liking or loving you?
  • When it comes to trust, how are you at trusting others and do you trust yourself?

Natalie’s Question:

Natalie would like to know how to use her awareness to be happier with herself and in relationships.

Natalie’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She had a loving and supportive relationship with her parents.
  • She expects men to betray her and has fears of abandonment.
  • She created a story to block out her father’s affair.
  • She doesn’t keep the self-honoring choices she makes to herself.
  • She had a strained relationship with her mother.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She should be more patient with herself and less critical of her development.
  • She should read or listen to the book, Attachment.
  • She should start connecting with her inner child.
  • She should trust herself and rely on her inner resources.

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Resources:

Christine Hassler

Five Phases of Personal Growth Vlog

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love, by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller

Christine Hassler Podcasts

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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