This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there.

We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover.

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An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It’s when one of three things happen:

1. Something doesn’t turn out like we planned
2. Something does turn out like we planned, but we don’t get the feeling we thought we would have
3. Life just throws us an unexpected curveball

My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be.

If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com

Consider/Ask Yourself:

1. Can you relate to being busy all the time?
2. Do you often use busyness as a distraction?
3. Do you panic during times when you aren’t busy?
4. Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life?
5. Is it challenging to receive loving support, including financial support from a family member?
6. Are you paying attention to all the things which are going right for you when you experience an expectation hangover?

Lisa’s Question:

Lisa feels she has accomplished a great deal this year. She completed her MBA, got married and will soon be moving to a new city. During her job search, she is encountering some rejection and the disappointment that goes along with it.

Lisa’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

• She kept herself busy as a distraction
• She relies on herself too much
• She doesn’t have to handle so many things on her own
• She has her worthiness attached to having a job

How to get over it and on with it:

• Ask yourself what am I learning during this expectation hangover?
• Surround yourself with your soul friends and family
• Give yourself full permission to relax and let go
• Break up with the idea that you are what you do
• Press pause on the goal line and re-orient yourself to the soul line

Tools and Takeaways:

• Give yourself permission to stop chasing results
• Get a copy of Expectation Hangover and work through the exercises and guided meditations
• Ask someone for support
• Take some quiet time for yourself
• Make an agreement with yourself to just be

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Tweetables:

“Are you a human doing or a human being? Do you distract yourself by keeping busy?”
“Should you head for the goal line or the soul line? Give yourself permission to stop chasing results.”
“We commonly chase external satisfaction when internal work may be what truly fulfills us.”