This call is about self-acceptance and self-love. Today’s caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love.
It’s wonderful to be a seeker but it’s important to be mindful of coming from a place of wanting to learn and grow, not from the place of, there is something wrong with me and I need to fix it. If you are overdosing on personal growth from the perspective of ‘solving all your problems’ — you are not broken!
Self-love is a daily practice and sometimes even a moment-to-moment practice. Self-love is truly the process and practice of acceptance. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves all the time. We are going to say and do things that we may want to take back. It’s OK. Self-love is about forgiving ourselves in the process.
Remember we always have another present moment to do better. The key to acceptance is taking responsibility for your thoughts and behaviors without beating yourself up. You are not broken!
- Do you see yourself as a constant self-improvement project?
- Do you approach self-love with an all-or-nothing attitude?
- Are you hard on yourself — especially your body?
- Is there something you are attempting to get rid of by sweeping it under the rug or hating it?
Aly has spent many years trying to get rid of chronic disease and would like to know how to accept it and get unstuck.
Aly’s Key Insights and Aha’s:
- She feels she is not good enough.
- She can’t seem to accept who she is.
- She is afraid to be happy.
- She uses her weight as a happiness meter.
- She abuses herself and feels guilty about it.
How to get over it and on with it:
- She needs to realize she is not broken.
- She should get the anger out by writing letters to the guys who broke her heart.
- She should write an apology letter to her body.
- She should give her body a love bath every morning.
- By realizing she is proud of herself.
Assignments and Takeaways:
- Give yourself permission to write an F-U letter — write it and then destroy it.
- Write an apology letter to your body using these sentence stems:
- I’m sorry because…
- I’m learning from you that…
- I forgive myself for…
- I forgive you, body, for…
- Give yourself a body love bath.
- Make self-honoring choices and make new agreements with yourself.
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