This call demonstrates how strong vulnerability can be. Today’s caller, Nicholas, wants to know how he can be more connected in his life. During our conversation, we uncover a core wound from when, as an infant, he was separated from his mother.

Whenever we have core wounding with our mother or father we have to find the divine parent inside of us. We need to find our innate nurturing, soothing and compassionate qualities.

Feelings of abandonment trigger the amygdala in our brain. It triggers a fight or flight fear-based response. The truth is none of us can ever be abandoned. We are all one. We are all connected, even when physical people leave our lives. The more we have the internal connection to ourselves and to our higher power the more we realize we can never truly be abandoned.

It takes a lot of energy to hold it all together and to not be weak. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable it can provide insights into our core issues. Through our vulnerability, we find true strength.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you lived your life with a pattern of abandonment?
  • Are you someone who likes to have it all figured out? Do you like being someone everyone can depend on?
  • Do you often use self-deprecating humor?
  • How are you at receiving compliments?
  • Would you like to have more intimate, vulnerable relationships with people you feel close too?

Nicholas’s Question:

Nicholas wants guidance on how to have deeper connections in his life.

Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He feels disconnected from the people in his life.
  • He felt like a hand-me-down kid.
  • He was separated from his mother at a young age.
  • He always feels like an outsider.
  • He gets easily triggered to anger.
  • He doesn’t feel connected to himself.
  • He finds it difficult to trust people.
  • He doesn’t feel emotionally safe.
  • He is extremely loyal to others.
  • He uses self-deprecating humor.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • He needs to find a sense of home and belonging within himself.
  • He needs to find a specialist trained in infant trauma.
  • He needs to work through his anger and forgive his mother.
  • He needs to allow himself to be loved.
  • He needs to embrace compassion and vulnerability.
  • He needs to trust his impulses.

Assignments For You:

  • Get out of your own way and be open to someone else’s perspective and insights.
  • When the student is ready the teacher appears.
  • Know that you have masculine and feminine inside of you.
  • Ask the people in your life for what you need.
  • Trust your impulses.


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