I am writing this email to you from Mykonos, Greece and it is absolutely one of the most beautiful places in the world. Imagine pristine white buildings perched perfectly along cobblestone streets overlooking the most beautiful blue water. I am here with a group of incredible friends having a blast. Great food, even better conversation, hours on the beach, epic boat rides, and lots of laughter and dancing. If you want to see a few fun shots or watch my IG story you can follow me on Instagram @christinehassler
But something very surprising happened on the way here . . .
As I was sitting on the plane awaiting take-off, I was flooded with a massive amount of anxiety. Wtf?!?! I fly all the time so there was no reason that I should feel anxious.
I put on my headphones and attempted to dip into a meditation. Ever try meditating when your mind is racing with anxiety? It is damn near impossible. So I switched to journaling and gave the anxiety a “voice” with my pen. What I discovered was a voice inside that thought my life was getting a little too good to be true. And then it dawned on me that I was hitting my upper limits.
In his brilliant book, The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks explains that when we achieve happiness or success that is far above our norm, we start bumping up against our upper limits. When this happens our ego gets a bit threatened because this new level is unfamiliar and tends to try and bring us back down to what we have known before. It does this by giving us negative thoughts, behaviors, or feelings (like my anxiety) that can sabotage what we’ve achieved.
I share this with you because I know you too have a lot of blessings in your life – and even more to come if you are not aware of the blessings right now. And as they do, there may be a part of you that attempts to sabotage the enjoyment of them with anxiety, doubt or fear. If that happens, do not get frustrated with that part of yourself, as it will only reinforce it.
Instead, greet it. Say, “Hello part of me that thinks it is protecting me in some way. I know you have been let down before but now it is okay to enjoy all the good that is coming my way! So I thank you and give you a new job description which is to look for all the ways I can be excited and grateful.”
Then work with shifting your nerves or doubt into excitement and gratitude. The line between anxiety and excitement is a new one. Cross the line and allow yourself to feel excited, you deserve it!
Remember, as you continue to grow and let go of the limiting beliefs that no longer serve you, your life will get better and better. It is natural for that to feel a bit scary sometimes, but it is only scary because it is new, not because it is scary. And please do not shame yourself if you feel anxious about finally getting some of the things you have desired for years. It is natural. You are simply hitting your upper limits and the great news in that is that it is only a perceived limit. There are no limits to the amazingness that is possible in your life!
Take a deep breath. Breathe in all the good. Keep expanding your capacity for even more and even better. Allow the butterflies and giddiness as your dreams start coming true.
P.S. I am excited to share that I will be in London and hosting a one day transformation retreat on July 21st. You are invited to join me to work on releasing emotions and situations that are holding you back. Learn tools that create lasting change and give you peace of mind. Connect with other like-minded amazing people. And receive tons of love, guidance, and coaching from me. There are only 10 spots left so Go here for more details and to register.
P.P.S. Join me in San Diego, CA for my annual Spring Women’s Retreat. Get clarity on your purpose. Release emotions and situations that are holding you back. Learn tools that create lasting change and give you peace of mind. Connect with other like-minded amazing women. Click here to learn more and apply now.
P.P.P.S. The second video episode of my Over it & On with it podcast where I coach Nicholas on the power of vulnerability and belonging is now available. You can watch it here or listen as usual here.