This call is about self-love and overcoming self-induced judgments. Anneke calls in for guidance about how she can start being her true self. She vulnerably opens up about the fear that comes up when she compares herself to others and her feelings of loneliness. We cover a lot of ground in this session including how she can make a transition into full, authentic self-expression. This is the very first coaching episode of this podcast that originally aired on Oct 22, 2015.
Not being who we are can be suffocating and it causes us to do things that don’t create any kind of joy or fulfillment in our lives. We create conditions so we don’t have to show up fully because we are suppressing who we really are.
Often, what we think is protecting us, isn’t. The things you have created to protect yourself are not wrong. In fact, they have served you. So, as you break patterns and move more into the expression of who you truly are, thank them, come to peace with them. It never ceases to amaze me how just being honest and real with our true feelings creates shifts.
And, let go of the judgment about loneliness; it’s not being alone that makes you lonely, it’s what you tell yourself about being alone that makes you lonely.
Remember, we get to choose who we are and not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people’s views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It’s up to us to embrace them and use them.
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- Do you feel like you are really living authentically?
- Are you fully expressing who you are or are you being a version of yourself?
- Do you struggle with loneliness?
- Are you in touch with your emotions?
- Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Could it be stopping you from fully expressing yourself or making a choice in life?
- Are you a people pleaser?
Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen.
Anneke’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She sugarcoats her difficult emotions.
- She doesn’t want to be a burden on others.
- Loneliness has been her friend because it’s when she gives herself a break.
- It’s OK for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self.
- Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone because those emotions are familiar.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She should take actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic.
- She shouldn’t compare herself to other people.
- She should be willing to remember the essence of who she truly is.
- Invite spirit into your space.
- Practice self-forgiveness.
- Don’t be defined by what other people have told you about you.
Assignments For You:
- Write out who you are — what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make “I am” statements with your answers.
- Pick 2-3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with.
- Write this sentence: “Sometimes I pretend I am (fill in the blank) but I am not.”
- Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone.
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