This episode is about how to share your feelings in an empowered way. Today’s caller, Amy, is conflicted about trying to decide if she wants to get out of a work relationship she has with her dad. I coached her through how to have a tough conversation and offered her options on how she can get support on setting boundaries and empowering herself.
We don’t live in a world where we are completely on our own. It is invaluable that we have other human beings on the planet that we can talk things out with. We all have blind spots and sometimes our emotions, wounding, and protective patterning can prevent us from making decisions that are in alignment with our highest good, our own personal development, and our intuition.
Empowerment is not about pushing people away, being selfish, or overpowering others. Empowerment is really listening to what is most authentic for us and speaking our truth with love and care.
I do believe people can change but we can’t change them and if they are not working on the relationship with you then expecting that they will change is going to leave you with an expectation hangover.
For a relationship to grow, it takes two people doing their own personal development and then working on the relationship through communication, honesty, and navigating through conflict in healthy ways.
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- Did you grow up in an alcoholic home? Do you get support for that?
- Are you in a work relationship with a family member and you want to get out of it but feel like you can’t?
- Do you want to have a better relationship with a family member that may have been difficult in the past?
- Are you an empath? Do you tend to not do what you want to do because you are concerned about upsetting others?
Amy would like guidance on how she should navigate her work partnership with her father.
Amy’s Key Insights and Ahas:
- She’s needed to parent herself.
- Her father is an alcoholic.
- Her mother is bipolar.
- She acknowledges her shifts and progress.
- She is an empath.
- She is constantly battling her father’s negativity.
- She takes her father’s actions personally.
- It’s a daily challenge to have her father working for her.
- She has conflicting thoughts about working with her dad.
- She has compromised a lot in her life.
How to Get Over It and On With It:
- She can make a self-honoring choice to end the working relationship with her father and move forward.
- She needs to find ways to spend time with her father that don’t involve her business.
- She needs to get support on how to live her own life and to set boundaries.
- She needs to write out how she will have a much-needed conversation with her father.
- She should attend an Al-Anon meeting.
- She should watch movies about empowered women.
- If you have an alcoholic parent, consider Al-Anon in combination with a spiritual guide or therapist.
- If you need to have a difficult conversation, write it out first. Use the release writing technique. Share your truth in an empowered way.
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