This call is about bringing more harmony into your life. Today’s caller, Brian, loves his work but is searching for more work-life balance. He enjoys being the person who is always available to others but takes little time for himself. This episode is enlightening for those who get validation from being the reliable, go-to person.

There is no such thing as work-life balance. They are not two separate things. Work is part of life. It’s about putting more harmony in your life by doing things to balance out the huge time suckers. If you work a lot or are with your kids a lot, what are you doing to balance it out? Have you created boundaries to make time for yourself? Do you have a self-care practice? Is it your once-a-week therapy session? What things are you doing to balance out the things in your life that are time-consuming?

The ego generally gets a bad wrap in the personal development space. But, we all have an ego. We all need to feel like we matter. Every human needs to feel important. The ego is how we get validation. We just need to be careful that validation doesn’t become linked to our identity.

Every pattern we are involved in has costs and payoffs. Does the imbalance in your life cost you more than it pays out?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you need more work-life balance?
  • Do you often feel like you can’t get away from your responsibilities? Do you believe that if you set boundaries or are not available or responsible all the time, things will fall apart?
  • Do you relate to being the go-to person?
  • Do you get validation for being the go-to-person? Does it make you feel needed?

 

Brian’s Question:

Brian would like guidance on how to bring more work-life balance into his world.

 

Brian’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • He works a lot of hours.
  • He loves his job and likes to make things work.
  • He enjoys being a reliable person.
  • He feels pressured to always be available.
  • He values being a good resource at work.
  • He would like to move toward being a leader.
  • His life is mostly about other people.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Expand his purpose with self-reflection.
  • Pay attention to his self-talk.
  • Be kind and gentle with himself.
  • Create a schedule of when he is available.
  • Adopt a five-minute morning meditation or breathwork practice.

 

Takeaways:

  • Think about what you are doing; does it give you a sense of identity and purpose? What is it costing you?
  • Is it time to evolve out of being the people pleaser or the go-to person?
  • Think about the boundaries you need to put in place to break some patterns.
  • What are the simple, non-time-consuming things you can set up that weigh a lot and will make a big difference?

 

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