EP 347: I’m Ready. I’ve Done All This Work. So, Where is My Person? With Asma

This episode is about patience and becoming a loving partner to ourselves so we are ready to call in our soul match. Today’s caller, Asma, is ready to call in a partner but may have some work to do around building faith and trust based on her inner child’s wounding. Even if you are not looking for your person, you will get value from the conversations about patience, trust, and relationships.

It’s easy to believe in the magic of the universe when everything is going our way. It’s harder when we are scared or things aren’t going along with our plan. So many of our core trust issues come from our childhood. They come from the survival skills we adopted. That is where trust wounds begin.

Surrender invites the masculine in because it is fiercely brave. It is a deep level of trust in our intuition, a higher power, and in life because we relinquish control. It creates receptivity and an entry point for the masculine. Most healthy masculine men don’t like being told what to do.

Those of us who are more on the spectrum of controlling have less faith and trust. Part of the way we deal with our spiritual crisis and our fear of trust and surrender is to over plan, over control, and be overly self-sufficient.

When it comes to relationships we don’t have as much control because another person is involved. When it comes to love, the other person is on their own timeline, even when we may feel ready. Our soul-match people are harder to find because we are growing with them, not growing from them. Soul match people share our visions and values and match more where we want to go instead of where we have been. It requires a person who has done their work.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you have done the work but wondering where your prize is?
  • Are you divorced or broken up and back in the dating scene and find yourself being impatient?
  • Do you have a pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people or people who are not ready for a relationship?
  • Are you patient with yourself or do you have a harsh inner critic?

Asma’s Question:

Asma has wounding from a previous relationship but has done the work. She feels ready to receive her new partner but grows impatient with the lack of candidates.

Asma’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She married young and is now divorced.
  • She has done a lot of personal development work.
  • She has created the home life she wants.
  • She is ready to attract a partner with whom she feels a deep alignment.
  • She is impatient and hard on herself.
  • She wants a masculine man.
  • She would like to develop trust.
  • She didn’t feel seen or heard by her father but she has abandonment wounding.
  • Some men she dates are not ready to be in a relationship.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Work on being patient.
  • Look at how she can become a good partner and lover to herself.
  • Be upfront at the beginning of a relationship about where she is and where she wants to go.
  • Be clear about what she wants and where she wants to go.


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