This call is about embracing your true self and moving away from the savior role. Today’s caller, William, thought he was looking for clarity about his career decision but it was more about learning to embrace his masculinity.

Many men struggle with what masculinity means to them. I have compassion for the masculine. Recently, the masculine has gotten a bad rap. We have seen a lot of the shadow of masculine but I don’t think we have seen the light of masculine. We want to heal it and bring more of the healthy light of the masculine forward. We all have both masculine and feminine energies inside of us. It’s all about balance.

A lot of men have an experience with a scary, forceful masculine and it makes them aware that they don’t want to be that, so they delve more into the feminine. These men might start to lose their purpose. I have talked with women who want a man who is not a pleaser or passive. Someone who matches their strength. The light of the masculine can be forceful without being aggressive.

Listen to Stop Saving Others and Start Loving Yourself Ep. 128

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you in a career transition into something that feels like it is a deeper calling for you?
• Have you healed a lot of aspects from your childhood but still feel a bit stuck?
• Can you relate to being a savior?
• If you are a man, how do you feel about being a man? What do you think your role should be? If you are a woman, how do you want men to show up in your life?

William’s Question:

William would like some clarity about a career decision.

William’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

• He has work-related PTSD.
• There were alcohol and drug abuses in his family.
• He wants to be a savior to women.
• He is asking for permission to move forward.
• He feels men are aggressive.
• He feels taken advantage of by women.
• He wants to save women.
• He has been looking for an identity.

How to get over it and on with it:

• He should work on healing the divine masculine part of himself.
• He should embrace his masculinity and not be afraid of his power.
• He should move away from the extreme and bring his masculinity into balance.

Assignments and Takeaways:

• Are you a rescuer? Do you relate to being a caretaker?
• Growing up, what opinions did you form about being a man or a woman? Write out, ‘being a man means…’ or ‘being a woman means…’
• Write, from a spiritual perspective, what being in the divine masculine and feminine means to you.
• Get clear on your purpose and vision.