This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today’s caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships.

Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn’t know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart.

We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer — that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem.

So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you?Before you quit your job, or end a relationship, get honest with yourself about what might be there for you to learn, and how you might be creating your own discontent.

Often, we feel an inner call to reach out to someone, or to share something, and we ignore it. Please don’t ignore it, because you never know what will happen. The only way you can get a no for sure, is if you never ask or never reach out. The only way you are ever going to fail, is if you never try. Regret is far more painful than risk. So, take that risk. Reach out to that person. Speak up.

Do that thing your intuition has been nudging you to do. You never know how it will impact the person on the other end. Don’t allow your self-doubt, or fear of another person’s reaction, to stop you from listening to your heart. Let your intuition be louder than your inner critic.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Is there an area of your life in which you feel unfulfilled? Are you fantasizing about leaving your current job or relationship?
• Do you relate to being a “yes man,” or a “yes woman”? Are you afraid to say no and stand up for yourself?
• Do you long to feel safe, validated, and accepted?

Corey’s Question:

Corey is considering leaving his current job but is trying to figure out what is next for him.

Corey’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

• He feels burnt out and unfulfilled in his current position.
• He felt he was always loved conditionally.
• He searches for external validation.
• He has no idea what is next for him.
• He comes up with excuses to keep himself safe.
• He doesn’t feel authentically self-expressed.
• He realizes he has built a box around himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• He should take steps to change his behavior and take more risks.
• Transform himself in his current position, so he can move through the reactive energy.
• He should establish a better relationship with himself.
• He should listen to his heart, and act on his intuition.
• He should celebrate who he is, and receive the compliments given to him.
• He should carry a picture of his younger self, and when he is self-defeating he should look at his picture.

Assignments and Takeaways:

• If you feel unfulfilled how can you take responsibility, and change on the inside, instead of making an external change?
• What did you crave when you were little that you didn’t get, that you need to give yourself now?
• How can your current soul family support you in making changes?
• Take a deep breath and breathe into the truth of who you are. Then, set the intention to be more authentically self-expressed.
• Speak kindly to yourself.

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