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Coaches Corner: Holiday Meditation

podcast img newHappy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences.

Some of you may be absolutely blissful – you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year. Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness.

Wherever you are is okay. Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way – otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover!

My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.

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EP: 49 Give Yourself Permission to Go After Your Dreams with Emily

EP49v1It really is so important to give ourselves permission to go after what we want to do. For example, I recently gave myself permission to go on a trip to Colombia with the caveat that I would work while I was there. When I ran into wifi issues and couldn’t communicate with my team I had a bit of an Expectation Hangover. So, I decided that instead of being frustrated about it, I would move into acceptance and give myself permission to take some time off. When I fight for my will over thy will I almost always end up getting frustrated.

Emily is normally a driven and passionate person. However, she called in because she is feeling a bit lackluster lately.  She’s done a lot of personal development work, but can’t seem to find her mojo to implement the new things she would like in her life. She’s been waiting for something to give her permission to act. It’s important for her to start coming up with all the reasons why she can do something, instead of making up excuses about why she can’t.

Everything begins with just one step. In my book, Expectation Hangover, I call this Proactive Surrender. It’s about taking one step with intention and involvement and then allowing for feedback. To co-create is about being in flow with the universe and letting go of attachments of control and planning. Be open to how and where the universe wants to lead you.

Also, there are a lot of people who get stuck in the personal awareness trap. People who read a lot of books, listen to podcasts, and become very aware but things don’t ever seem to shift for them. If you find yourself in the awareness trap you must start taking action.

Coach’s Tip – When working with your clients be mindful of having them speak in “I” language rather than in the second person because when we speak in the second person we disassociate and we don’t own what we are saying. It’s important to bring clients back to using “I” language without making them feel wrong.

I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.


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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you feeling a bit lackluster? Would you like to feel more driven or inspired?
  • Do you need to give yourself permission to do something or are you waiting for a permission slip?
  • Have you made your human desires bad? Are you trying to get rid of your ego?
  • Do you have a heartfelt desire but can’t seem to take the first step?

Emily’s Question:

Emily who is normally driven and passionate finds herself feeling a bit lackluster and lost. She is feeling symptoms of the Imposter syndrome and may be in a personal awareness trap. She would like to know how to get inspired.

Emily’s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • Her ego isn’t all bad
  • She needs to listen to her voice of inspiration
  • She doesn’t need to be an expert to get started
  • She has an ability to build rapport with people

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She should take the first step and listen to her seed of inspiration
  • Realize there is no point to anything
  • She needs to step into her gifts and take action
  • She needs to own her feelings and use “I” language
  • Find her internal qualities that mirror traits she admires in other people

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Take action and allow opportunities to integrate into all of your self-health programs.
  • Give yourself a permission slip to go after what you want. Remember, it begins with by taking one step.
  • Don’t wait for opportunities to come to you. Reach out to the people you want to connect with.
  • If you relate to the “Imposter Syndrome” write out all the amazing things about you and your gifts and talents.

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EP 48: Getting Clear During Times Of Uncertainty with Elle

EP48v1I talk a lot on this show about Expectation Hangovers – how they are the disappointments and curve balls that teach us and grow us. But, it’s also important to acknowledge the unexpected surprises that delight us and support us in magical ways. That’s why it is important not to plan every little thing, to make space for the unexpected, and to leave more time for soul food. In order to be in this place of space and possibility, we have to come into right relationship with uncertainty.

What is a right relationship?

  1. Realize that we never have total control and that nothing is ever 100% certain.
  2. During times of transition, we should honor that we are in a season of change in our lives.
  3. We should not source our sense of feeling safe with being certain of everything.
  4. Know that we are always being supported and being guided by the universe even when we feel most lost.

Today’s caller is Elle, who called me to discuss her upcoming life transition and the fear she has about it. We hear in this call yet another example of how there is almost always a deeper issue underneath our questions. As I began to shine a light on the dark places Elle had inside, she began to connect the dots and came to some of her own conclusions.

Often, people stay stuck on their current problems or questions rather than asking the deeper questions. We can not arrive at clarity until we clear the deeper, underlying issues. We can not move into our full potential if we are playing it safe all the time.

Change does not happen in our comfort zone. Bust through your limiting belief that no one will be there for you if you take a leap of faith or make a change. There are so many new guides, angels and soul friends who show up for us at exactly the time we need them to. Changing your vibrations also changes your consciousness.

I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 2 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you in a transition time or feeling uncertain about things?
  • Are you grasping for control, safety and security?
  • Are you projecting your security on to another person, job or something else outside of you?
  • Do you ever feel alone?
  • Would you like to feel more connected to or supported by the universe?

Elle ‘s Question:

Elle wants to know how to transition into her new life after years of military service and as a newly single person.

Elle ‘s Key Insights and Aha’s:

  • She is creating her own fear.
  • She has always wanted to be an entrepreneur.
  • She craves security because she missed out on a developmental phase of her childhood.
  • She dates emotionally unavailable men because that is how her father was.

How to get over it and on with it:

  • She can heal her lifetime longing for a father.
  • Take this opportunity to delve into the divine masculine and the divine feminine powers.
  • She needs to let go of belief systems that tell her security comes from outside of herself.

Assignments and Takeaways:

  • Get into a right relationship with your uncertainty.
  • Follow those ‘what if’ statements with something good. Make future tripping a desirable destination.
  • Find a lightworker to work with. Have one person to shine a light on your dark places.
  • Forgive your parents.
  • Remember that life is full of magical uncertainties and the divine will always have your back.

Sponsor:

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Resources:

Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler Podcasts
Christine Hassler Free E-book
@chrishassler on Snapchat
@christinhassler on Twitter
@christinehassler on Instagram
Christine@christinehassler.com
Jill@christinehassler.com

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I didn’t see that coming!! How to deal with curveballs

There’s a sneaky expectation I place on myself that does not serve me well.  Sometimes because of the work I do, I buy into the misunderstanding that I should not be affected by disappointment and curveballs. That I should immediately get to gratitude and move on like nothing happend.

Fortunately I was reminded of my humanity last week when life threw me a curveball that knocked me off my feet and left me with an expectation hangover! I know that my truth is gratitude and love – but I cannot expect myself to jump there when the humanness in me is having a moment.

Can you relate?  You know that compassion, forgiveness, and gratitude are the destination but find yourself pushing to get there?  As I remind myself, I remind you of the transition time. The space in between “ouch” and “thank you.” Honor that space, there is great healing available there.  I share about my honoring of that space in today’s vlog

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