This call is about recognizing the value of your unique gifts. Today’s caller, Tracy, believes she has difficulty being vulnerable and thinks it is holding her business back. But, as we explore her childhood experience, we discover that she is playing out old programming, feeling like she didn’t matter as the youngest sibling in her family. Her fear of rejection may be keeping her from getting what she wants.

There are parts of us that are just us or the things that make us unique. We may not be as vulnerable as the next person, as funny as the next person, or as creative or outspoken or extroverted as other people are. When we measure ourselves against others it can make us feel like something is wrong with us. 

It can create blind spots or judgments of things we have taken on from society. And one of the things so many of us, especially in this world of personal development, have taken on is the expectation that we need to be vulnerable to be fully seen.

Vulnerability needs to be earned. Vulnerability is incredible and necessary, however, it’s not something we just give away. It’s OK that it has to be earned. It makes it more authentic.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you have a hard time putting yourself out there when it comes to business, dating, or making friends?
  • Do you have a hard time being vulnerable? Are you slow to warm to people or does it take a while for people to get in?
  • As a child, did you grow up feeling like you were in the shadow of someone else? Were you a younger sibling who always felt behind in some way or just something that made you feel not enough?
  • Are you trying to change something in your present but you can’t make the change?


Tracy’s Question:

Tracy feels stuck and would like guidance on tapping into her vulnerability to take more risks.


Tracy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She keeps people at a distance.
  • She would like the confidence to take more risks.
  • She fears rejection.
  • She felt disregarded by her family.
  • Her family is critical and envious of her decisions.
  • Her negative self-talk comes from not feeling good enough.
  • She is triggered more often as an adult than she was as a child.
  • She perpetuates the idea that she doesn’t matter.
  • She doesn’t take compliments well.


How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Change the programming that creates her self-talk.
  • Know that she matters.
  • Reassure her little girl of her value.
  • Reach out and offer to share her gifts with people.



  • Join the Inner Child Workshop.
  • Know you have the ability to reparent yourself.
  • Write down your limiting beliefs and question why you believe them.
  • If you are a coach who wants to build their business, hire a coach, or participate in a program.



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