EP 444: Why Being Authentic is Always Your Best Strategy with Lisa

This coaching call is about how being authentic attracts things most in alignment with what we want. Today’s caller, Lisa, wants to call in a committed relationship. She feels her life choices may be keeping her from finding a partner. She asks for guidance about how to call in the partner she desires.

One of our superpowers as women is that we are highly adaptable and it can be a beautiful asset. But, it can also serve as a liability because, often, we think we need to adapt ourselves to get a man or to not scare someone off.

Anytime we become adaptable to try and align with a partner we contract our true selves. Our adaptability becomes a shadow side of our superpower because it doesn’t feel super powerful to contract ourselves and to be something we are not.

Our unresolved issues from childhood, basically the beliefs and patterns we carry around, are one of the biggest blocks to calling in the relationship we desire. Doing inner child work is the foundation for us to be our authentic selves.

Being our authentic selves and living in alignment with who we truly are is the shift that will bring in the kind of partner that is in the most perfect alignment with us.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Have you been trying to strategically date or strategically do something to get what you want, and it is not working?
  • Do you think that the way you are isn’t going to get you what you want?
  • Are you somebody who does things differently and thinks that you need to change to get what you want?
  • Do you trust that you can receive what you want?

Lisa’s Question:

Lisa wants to be in a committed relationship but feels her life choices are keeping her from finding a partner.

Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She moved to a different city to leave a toxic relationship.
  • She believed the universe had a plan when she met another person but it didn’t work out.
  • She is nomadic.
  • She wants a committed relationship but struggles in partnership.
  • She is sad and feels stuck.
  • She has a scarcity mindset.
  • She feels she is on a constant mission to find a partner.
  • She is an introvert.
  • She is not being authentic to who she is.
  • In childhood, she had to perform to get affection.
  • She doubts herself.
  • She doesn’t want a partner who is tied to one place.
  • She enjoys being by herself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • Consider what her version of stability is.
  • Lean into who she authentically is.
  • Stop focusing on the void she feels.
  • Start energetically bringing in her ideal partner.


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