Today’s update is easy to read and implement. It will also change your life because you are going to take the advice.
How did you feel when you read the above line? Perhaps excited, curious, engaged and optimistic?
Now compare those feelings to how you feel after you read the following statement:
Today’s update is really hard to understand. If you try to take the advice it could work but will be a struggle.
Unless you really enjoy struggle and a lack of enthusiasm in your life, the first statement felt a lot better to read. That is the power of language. Words have tremendous power yet we often use words that disempower us – and I’m not talking about swear words. I explain more in the vlog.
Picture a time, maybe it is even now, when you have been preparing for something BIG like an interview, event, presentation, or the release of some creative endeavor. Now consider how much mental, physical, and emotional energy you put into it.
Was it a lot -perhaps too much? Did you find yourself stressing out about it?
Where is the line between healthy preparation and perfectionism/obsessing?
This was a line I came face to face with over the past two weeks as I was preparing to give two big talks at a very high profile company where some of the most brilliant minds in the world work (hint: google it). I was incredibly excited to create a new three hour talk / workshop, yet I found myself challenged by how much pressure I was putting on myself that I was calling “preparation.” I share about my aha in today’s vlog.
Did you know that a bamboo seed takes up to seven years to sprout, but once it does, it can grow thirteen feet in only one week?
This interesting fact is amazing and comforting as we remember that the seeds we plant do take time to sprout.
I have been very aware of the value of patience as both a virtue as a strategy this month. Patience is a virtue because it is a quality that moves us into acceptance and peace. It is a strategy because when we let go of our attachment to the delivery date of results, we open up a tremendous space for the Universe to bring opportunities to us in Divine Timing. I share about some of my experiences with patience on today’s vlog.
For many years I bought into the misunderstanding that being hard on myself was an effective way to motivate myself. I measured myself up against others and used comparison as fuel to make myself do more.
This was absolutely effective on the external level. I got things done. I was successful. People would say I was “driven” and “ambitious.” Yet on the inside, I did not feel successful or fulfilled. I had to keep raising the bar because enough was never enough.
Can you relate at all? Are you hard on yourself? Do you put pressure on yourself to do more, do everything perfectly, or do it as good as other people? Do you ever hear a voice in your head that says pushy, judgmental things like . . .