Tuesday was my birthday and I almost forgot to celebrate because I’ve been so focused on bringing Expectation Hangover into the world. Fortunately my very wise girlfriends insisted I take a day off. Before shifting into celebration mode, I set aside some quiet time to reflect on my life. Since expectations have been top of mind lately, the thing that struck me the most is that my life looks NOTHING like I expected.
In fact if you had asked me ten years ago where I thought I’d be at this point in my life, I would have said something completely different. I share more about this in today’s vlog.
One of my favorite birthday traditions each year is offering you something as y’all are such a huge gift in my life!
This year I put together a brand NEW ebook: 32 Days of UPleveling your Mind and UPlifting your Heart: Extraordinary Life Lessons From Ordinary Situations (Volume Two). This is an updated collection of my favorite insights. Download to your kindle or ipad for a daily dose of inspiration.
Is asking for help easy for you? If you are anything like me, you may find it difficult at times – especially when it feels like a big or vulnerable request. Many of us are so incredibly strong and independent that asking for help does not even occur to us. Or we assume we are burdening someone. Or fears of rejection surface so we play it safe and come up with all kinds of reasons not to ask.
In gearing up to launch Expectation Hangover, I have noticed my own stories around making requests of others surfacing. But in order to get the message of overcoming disappointment out into the world, I cannot do it alone. I have reframed how I perceive asking for help and it has made a world of difference, which I share about in today’s vlog.
“ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!” is the answer to that question.
I unequivocally assure you that there is nothing wrong with you.
Even if you feel stuck. Even if you cannot figure out what you want to do with your life or hate your job. Even if you snapped at your spouse or child this morning. Even if you are ten pounds heavier than you want. Even if you are single and long for a partner. Even if you had a terrible childhood. Even if you have debt. Even if you have been labeled with a diagnosis.
There is not a single reason in the entire Universe that anything could possibly be wrong with you so please STOP LOOKING FOR ONE!
I received the call to remind you of this from Robert Holden who was the graduation commencement speaker for the University of Santa Monica (where I got my MA in Spiritual Psychology in 2008 and currently serve as faculty). His message to the audience was to change our minds about ourselves rather than continuing to attempt to change ourselves.