What we say “no” to in life is just as important as what we say yes to . . .
I was reminded of this at a party last weekend that turned out to be much different than I expected – the vibe and one person in particular who was not being very kind to me from my perspective. After about an hour of attempting to adapt myself to the situation, I realized that it was not self-honoring for me to be there.
So I left. I said “no” to hanging out in a situation that just did not feel good. It felt GREAT to walk away without any judgment of myself or anyone else. No one was wrong or bad, it just was not aligned with me. And I proceeded to have a beautiful evening with people I love and totally vibe with.
Saying “no” and opting out of situations, relationships, and environments sends a powerful message to the Universe of what you do want to attract into your life. The process of elimination is an integral part to the process of co-creation! Which is why my encouragement to you today is to start saying “no” and opting out.
Ever have those moments in life where you feel awkward? Or times when you are with a group of new people or an event full of strangers and you feel totally self-conscious? I think most of us, other than you uber-extroverts, occasionally have these kind of moments. In fact, I just had one this past weekend so I wanted to share my tips for moving beyond it . . .
Over the 4th of July, I attended an event called Summit Series in Utah with about 150 other innovators, entrepreneurs and really cool people. There were not many people I knew there, but I love hanging with a like-minded crowd and making new friends. I had a blast and loved spending four days lap-top free, yet there was one moment when an old feeling of self-consciousness crept up on me that I share more about in today’s vlog.
Tomorrow we celebrate the 4th of July in the States. Freedom is defined as: “The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.” We are blessed to live in a country where we have these freedoms; yet so many of us are NOT free inside.
Are you free?
Or are you sentencing yourself with judgment and restraining yourself from expressing the awesome-ness that you are? Are you are trapped in not-enough-ness because you are comparing yourself to others? Or perhaps you are imprisoning yourself by choosing to experience anxiety and suffering. Or maybe you are a prisoner of your own story and locked away from your own truth because you are constrained by the opinions of others.
Wouldn’t you rather be free? I invite you to liberate yourself…