How to pursue goals without setting yourself up for disappointment

Today is the first day I am home in LA and the book tour is complete. It has been an incredible three weeks – nine events, seven cities, over 20 interviews, and lots of blessings, with a few expectation hangovers to treat which kept me fresh on my material!!

Sometimes I experience stress and get disappointed (last time I checked I was still human!); however, I have found ways to avoid or prevent the frequency and duration of both by applying what I call in Expectation Hangover the “secret sauce” formula for going after what you want.

This was key for me during this entire book launch process. I share about how I used this secret sauce formula in today’s vlog that ultimately lead to reaching a goal and shifted my experience of how it felt when it was achieved. Watch and you will also hear a beautiful story about my family that makes me cry!

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What I learned from a spiritual teacher

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to spend time with an incredible spiritual teacher named Arkan on sacred land in New Mexico. He does not have a personal website or social media platform. He does have a profound connection to Spirit and Mother Earth that makes him one of the most impactful teachers I have been blessed to be with.

His present, loving, grounded, joyful, and patient way of being impacted me more than any specific concept he taught. However, there was one thing in particular he said that resonated deeply with me. I share about it along with other experiences from my time on the sacred land in today’s vlog

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Are you working on yourself to get something?

At my book workshops I have been hearing a lot of people sharing about personal growth expectation hangovers.  I have observed confusion and frustration as people make comments like:

“I’m doing all this work on myself, but the things in my life that I want are not happening. I don’t know what I am doing wrong.”

 “I am really trying to love myself but I am still single. Since I do not have my soulmate, I must still not love myself.”

 “I feel like I’ve been doing this work forever and things in my life still aren’t changing. I am tempted to give up because it doesn’t seem to be working.”

Can you relate to any of this?  Are you having a personal growth expectation hangover?  Well I hope to offer you a little relief in the form of a big wake-up call in today’s vlog.

Today is the day! Expectation Hangover is out!

I am writing this email with tears of gratitude in my eyes. Today Expectation Hangover is officially released and I am beyond excited to share it with you. This book is so heartfelt for me because it is inspired by my own journey as well as having the privilege to support so many others through theirs.

What I have learned is that although it is not desirable, disappointment opens up a powerful door for positive change, healing and tremendous spiritual growth . . . if we are willing to walk through it.

Expectation Hangover is a guidebook for how to walk through the challenges and curveballs that are part of our human curriculum with grace. You will learn:

  • Why expectation hangovers happen
  • The copies strategies that don’t work and the quick-fixes that do when treating disappointment
  • How to process, not just plow through, disappointment on the emotional, mental, behavioral and spiritual levels
  • The “secret sauce” to pursuing goals without setting yourself up for an expectation hangover
  • Guided meditations and visualizations that you can also download in audio form for free

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