We are all each others teachers and in ALL our relationships from family to colleagues to friends to romantic partners, there are going to be times when our buttons get pushed. When someone does something that affects you in a negative way, what is your response? Do you lash back and attempt to get even? Do you stuff your feelings away and stew in your upset? Do you stand strong in your opinion that you are right and they are wrong and wait for them to apologize? Or is it a combination of all three?
I recently served as someone’s button pusher after I made a request of him that he found upsetting. Caught off guard, the coach/nurturer in me immediately wanted to make it better. However, I know that the best thing to do when I’ve pushed someone’s buttons (which consequently push my own buttons of fearing that I am not liked) is to take responsibility for myself and give the other person space.
Fortunately he is someone who is committed to growth and took the time he needed to process what happened. When he called me the next day to explain how my request made him feel, what it triggered, share what he learned and make a request of me, it was done from an incredibly authentic and neutral place. There was no blame. That made it possible for me to really hear and understand, communicate vulnerably my experience, and be totally open and willing to meet his request.
This beautiful communication was possible because we both chose to take personal responsibility rather than taking things personally.
“I can’t afford it. I’m on a budget. I have debt. I am not good with money. I am struggling with my finances.”
Are these things you often say or think?
So often I see people who report they are struggling with money continue to affirm things that do not create the prosperity they long for.
It is imperative when you are working to increase both your wealth consciousness and actual numbers in your bank account to do things that create positive, proactive feelings around your finances. In today’s vlog I have a unique suggestion for you that accomplishes two things:
Puts you in the creative vibration of prosperity
Puts you in action that will help you shift blocks with money
When is the last time you felt truly, deeply relaxed? So much so that you were actually energized? If you honestly can’t remember or if it was during your last vacation, then you are definitely overdue for some downtime.
But here is the thing – we need downtime every day and it needs to be quality. Too many of us bounce between being overly busy and then collapsing into exhaustion which never truly puts us in a state of relaxation. In today’s vlog I share how what you may be calling your downtime could be laziness (and there’s actually something ironically funny in the shot today that I did not notice until after I taped this – if you spot it, be sure to comment on the blog!).