This call is about clearing up the past to see the future more clearly. Today’s caller, Summer, wants to gain clarity about her future but we focus on things in her past that are blocking her view and keeping her stuck.

When we engage in unhealthy patterns it’s like being in quicksand. It’s a slow sinking process that makes us feel stuck. It’s not like falling into a big hole where it is obvious that we need to get out quick. It’s the patterns we can stay with for a while. But, if you stay sinking for too long, part of you will go under and you will feel trapped permanently.

How you get clear on your vision and how you keep moving forward is to stop doing things in the present that are direct contradictions to what you want. It is nearly impossible to have a vision for our future when the past gets in the way. You don’t have to inspect every aspect of your past but if you are still in patterns that originated in old wounding and limiting beliefs, your vision is probably more reactive than authentic.

It keeps you wanting things in your future to compensate for your past wounds. You will want money to fill a self-worth void, you will want fame to fill a lack of validation, or you will crave relationships and attention to fill an old hurt from feeling like you didn’t belong.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Are you having trouble gaining clarity on your vision for the future?
  • Are you stuck in old patterns?
  • Are you experiencing physical symptoms or have you been diagnosed with some label or a disorder you can’t seem to get relief from?

Summer’s Question:

Summer wants to know how to get clarity on her vision.

Summer’s Key Insights and Ahas:

  • She feels stuck in her career and relationship.
  • She has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
  • She is scared of ending things.
  • She was bullied growing up.
  • She was rebellious as a teen.
  • She has an identity crisis based on her culture.
  • Her first period was a traumatic experience.
  • She has an anxious attachment style.
  • She wants to be single.
  • She needs validation.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

  • She needs to communicate with her eleven-year-old self about her first menstruation.
  • She needs to pay attention to what she wants to heal.
  • She needs to create a self-care plan including a healer and a support team.

Assignments For You:

  • Consider the things you may be currently doing that are in direct contradiction to what you want.
  • If you are ready to get out of the quicksand, make an empowering self-care plan.
  • When looking for healers, find someone with a mind-body connection — especially if you are dealing with a physical ailment.


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